Have you ever felt defeated?

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Hello all,

have you ever felt defeated? if so when and what lead you to feel defeated. Also how did you overcome feeling defeated? I can honestly say I feel defeated. I have no fight left in me. Both my professional and personal life is currently taking a beating. I do not know what direction to go. I am in the long process of job hunting and so far every opportunity is either too far or the hours are not do able. I have always tried to live a good life, this is my second career. It's really hard right now. I really need encouragement, my faith in really being tested. I feel really confused when it comes to spirituality what role dose God play in my life?

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Specializes in PACU, OR.

Weeellll...You actually used the appropriate word there-spirituality. God's role is to give you strength to grow spiritually, through all the setbacks that life throws in your path.

If life was easy, none of us would grow and become better, stronger people.

It goes to my heart when I read of good people struggling in this economy, especially knowing that it has been caused by sheer folly on the one hand and unabashed greed on the other; trust me, eventually it will pass and things will pick up again. But knowing this is not going to help you now.

Time to re-evaluate; when you say positions are too far away, what kind of distances are you talking about? And if the hours are not do-able, is there any way you can rearrange your own schedule to fit them in?

I can't help you find a job-certainly not from a distance of about 6000 miles!-but I can pray for you and hope for you, that somehow the right one will come looking for you....:hgu:

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Specializes in LTC, Memory loss, PDN.

Of course I've felt defeated many times over. I think it's nursing reality 101. I do disagree with you when you say you have no fight left in you. The fact that you are posting and meditating about your spirituality shows me that you have not given in. You're not ready to lay down, in fact, I believe you have many rounds left in you. You may not want to, but I believe it is well within your power to continue the fight to a victorious ending. I encourage you to use one of the most powerful tools you have - prayer. I will pray for you as well. Remember, confusion is not of God.

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Your are the only one that you have got left.

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I know where you are right now, because I am in the same situation. I recently graduated from nursing school (an associate degree program) and became licensed in July 2010. I had to leave my job in a field that was unrelated because I was not given the time off that I needed to complete my finals and study for NCLEX - so that left me jobless while looking for my first RN position. So, I pass (YAH!!!!!!!!) and apply, apply, and apply some more. Finally, about 4 weeks ago - I started getting interviews (YAH again), but when I'm sitting in the interview, I'm asked, "So, why have you not worked as a CNA?" And here's the other big question: "So, what made you want to work with gerontology?" The truth is, I don't necessarily prefer gerontology, but I prefer that over unemployment!

So... not to go on a tangent, but I wanted to give you my background to make the point that in the face of disappointment, I still find reasons to smile. Yeah, I'm struggling, but I'm still alive. You WILL find a job and you have to believe that. Go get the book "The Secret" from the library and other books like it if you can. You need inspiration right now. I also find that reading the Bible, particulary Psalms and Proverbs, helps me a whole lot. Don't let this economy get you down. YOU DIDN'T DO ANYTHING WRONG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I don't care how these recruiters try and make you feel; I don't care what people say to you about what you must be doing wrong with your resume - it's the companies' ways of protecting themselves by excluding us.

It may sound so lame, but there's this song I listen to with my son that is sung on a show called Yo Gabba Gabba - the lyrics are "Keep trying. Keep trying. Don't give up. Don't give up. Don't stop, don't give up. Don't stop, don't give up."

Just thank God for your blessings before you have them. Thank God right now for the RIGHT JOB. Not the job that's 2 states away paing $12/hr, or for the job that you know you don't want close to you. Keep an open mind. Pick the brains of everyone you know (friends on Facebook, people in the grocery store wearing scrubs, staffing agencies, professors.... EVERYBODY) and be positive over all. You (and me and every other new grad in our position) is going to get through this on top with wisdom of this sad, sad time we just made it through.

PLEASE be encouraged. We're all rooting for you!:yeah:

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I would like to thank everyone for their support. I am trying not to look to the past but rather the present moment. I will never forget this time in my life, for it has helped me to develop patience. The interesting thing I don't feel anxious anymore just numb. I have worked my whole life since the age of 16. I have been in this profession for a few years. I am no longer looking for my niche just job that allows me to leave on time, with maybe a little bit of interest. Once again thanks for all your support. It reallllllllllllllllllllllllllllly means a lot.

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Specializes in NICU.

I am also struggling right now. I am looking for a job and struggling to afford medications and my bills. I am also feeling very spiritually challenged. I hope you can see that you are not alone.

'We can rejoice, too, when we run into problems and trials, for we know that they help us develop endurance.' ~ Romans 5:3, NLT

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I feel the same. I graduated in July 2010 and I am having a hard time finding a job at a hospital. I keep applying and calling. I am finding that I am getting no where. The whole point of going to nursing school was to get a job outside a nursing home. I now am struggling to get a job anywhere.

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Times are tough right now, the economy still sucks...in most areas

of the US. Those who are working are working harder and doing more with

less, for example where I work they have cut many activity aides, ALL of the

unit secretaries, cut back on CNA's and Nurses, cut many maintence positions, and many housekeeping positions.

While your in the midst of this storm, still praise God, for all of

the blessings you DO have in your life!! Seek what there is

to learn while in this moment. God is still with You

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duplicate, sorry!

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Of course i have been defeated so many times But i dont give up easilly on issues .Am a possitive minded person and i look at issues from a possitive sides even if i have just been defeated . i still hope for the best.

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Specializes in Family Practice, Urgent Care, Cardiac Ca.

I know the feeling. I am so sorry for the stress and pain you're going though. You'll be in my heart this week. This last week, I was the most defeated I have ever been in years. Dear friends from my old profession called me out on bending truth on an OLD resume, when I was very young. These dear people had some very cruel words. I cancelled my plans, and fell out. I was in bed and on the couch for days, beating myself over and over with there words. Xanax helped, but I had fallen, and I didn't think I could get up. Nick Vujicic is a gentleman with a unique life situation that causes him to fall....a lot. but he has a way of pulling himself back up. Every time. I hope this video brings hope to your heart, and peace to your path. Get Back UP! Find the strength, ask for help if you need it! Giving up now would be a rip-off not just for you, but for the many lives you are called to change through your work! Stay strong! hope this helps!

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