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I just got a new job as the unit educator on my unit and the peds unit. The hours are great and the pay is okay too. Another nurse wanted this job too. I would've gladly split the position with her, but the manager told me that it could not be done. This person is upset about this . I know she may not have even taken it d/t money but I think her pride is hurt and she is disappointed. I have worked on theunit for 9 years and she has been there for 25 plus. She is more of a nursery/peds person and I am more of an L/D,PP person, but I also like nursery. I have my BSN and she is working on hers. I told her I was sorry if she was hurt by my taking the job. I do value and respect her. She feels that I only got the job because I have the piece of paper. Is that the case? I don't know. Already having the degree no doubt hepled me. I realize she is very angry, but I do have 16 years experience in OB, certifications, and am working on my MSN. I feel I am a very good bedside nurse and so is she. She made me feel like I am just some boob that looks good only on paper. I wish I could make her feel better, but I resent, in effect being called inferior. I reiterated to her that I would have been willing to split the job w/ her if management had been willing and told the manager this. As far as I know, she woudl not have offerred to split w/ me had she been the one offerrred the postion initially. I can see she would be better in the job than me in some respects, but I feel I would be better than her in others. I like her, but feel she is very angry and will try to make trouble for me. I hope I am wrong. How would you guys handle this. Ifigure I will give her a cooling off period. I have no control over what she says. If I were her, I know I'd be hurt too. I think I would probably handle it in a different way though.

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Specializes in ED, ICU, Heme/Onc.

You were gracious to your coworker who also wanted that position, but now you need to hold your head up high and get on with it. For whatever reason, your manager did not want the position split, and chose you as the suitable canditate. Be proud of your accomplishment. Try not to let this other person's lack of professional behavior start you off on your new role feeling inferior, because in the eyes of who matter, you are obviously not inferior!!

Blee

I just got a new job as the unit educator on my unit and the peds unit. The hours are great and the pay is okay too. Another nurse wanted this job too. I would've gladly split the position with her, but the manager told me that it could not be done. This person is upset about this . I know she may not have even taken it d/t money but I think her pride is hurt and she is disappointed. I have worked on theunit for 9 years and she has been there for 25 plus. She is more of a nursery/peds person and I am more of an L/D,PP person, but I also like nursery. I have my BSN and she is working on hers. I told her I was sorry if she was hurt by my taking the job. I do value and respect her. She feels that I only got the job because I have the piece of paper. Is that the case? I don't know. Already having the degree no doubt hepled me. I realize she is very angry, but I do have 16 years experience in OB, certifications, and am working on my MSN. I feel I am a very good bedside nurse and so is she. She made me feel like I am just some boob that looks good only on paper. I wish I could make her feel better, but I resent, in effect being called inferior. I reiterated to her that I would have been willing to split the job w/ her if management had been willing and told the manager this. As far as I know, she woudl not have offerred to split w/ me had she been the one offerrred the postion initially. I can see she would be better in the job than me in some respects, but I feel I would be better than her in others. I like her, but feel she is very angry and will try to make trouble for me. I hope I am wrong.
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Amen to what Blee said. Sounds like sour grapes to me. She probably just wishes she had that meaningless piece of paper too.

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:icon_hug: there! there!

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congratulations on yer new job!!!!

i'm very happy for you. you should allow yourself to be happy and proud to be the successful candidate for the position. you have worked hard obtaining your credentials. so give yourself a big hug and celebrate before you have to start utilizing your skills.

your coworker will get over it and when she obtains her credentials, she will be the "successful candidate" for the position she applies for. it's not the end of the world.

okay?:lol2:

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I'm not a nurse yet, but what it boils down to is:

a. You had no real choice in the matter, your boss made the decision

b. Your boss felt you were more qualified for whatever reason

There's no reason to beat yourself up for getting the job over her. Your NM knows her and you and chose you. If the job didn't specifically require a BSN I would doubt that it had much to do with her decision.

Also, her behavior kind of indicates she is a big baby! Did someone who acts like her deserve this job? She may have 25 years experience but she doesn't sound very mature. I would not let her get you down, congrats on the new job!

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Specializes in Specializes in L/D, newborn, GYN, LTC, Dialysis.

Would it be possible to get her input and insights when you are doing your job? I mean, maybe she can help you somehow do your job better?

I agree, she sounds sour and that is too bad. It's a waste of time for her and does not help you. I hope in time, she will simmer down and accept the way things are that that sometimes, things do happen for a reason. HER opportunity to rise up and move on to new things is probably awaiting her---in the future.

Meantime, congratulations to you and best wishes in your new endeavors. I really hope this all works out well.

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Hey Everyone. Thanks for your support. I am crossing my fingers all will go well. I said what I said to my co-worker and I won't bring up the topic again but will talk to her if she does. I do hope she will still help w/ education. She has some great knowledge and experience.

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Specializes in Specializes in L/D, newborn, GYN, LTC, Dialysis.

Seeing what you post here, I have no doubt, they have the right person for the job, Imenid.

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