Grad in June - Try to have a baby NOW?? Thought?

Keri8680, BSN, RN · Mar 22, 2009

I can see where you are coming from, but at the same time, do you really want to be stressed about taking the boards this summer, finding a new job, starting a new job, and then telling your new job "oh btw, I'm pregnant now, so I can only work for a few months" The first year of your RN job is a crucial learning experience, and I'm willing to bet that interrupting that year with a birth of a baby will hinder your job performance/knowledge base and probably affect you for years to come. If I were you I'd at least wait until next summer 2010 before I begin trying. Get your first year out of the way, I bet you'll be glad you did in the long run. Plus, your nursing supervisor would probably appreciate you waiting too. There are alot of resources that go into hiring a new nurse, orientation, training, certifications... she/he may feel as though you took advantage of the situation, even though that was not your intention. I hope I gave u a few things to think about...I don't think 1 more year would hurt. Good luck with your decision, as it is ultimately you and your husband's. I wish you luck in either one! :nurse:

kayty2339 · Mar 22, 2009

Hey there! I can totally understand your conflict with this. Having a baby is such a big step and if you are feeling the urge to try to have one, that is a tough urge to ignore.

I will say that even though you may not be showing yet, the first few months of pregnancy can be very hard. For me, I was totally exhausted every day, I mean absolutely no energy at all. Morning sickness is very tough to deal with, even if you're not one to get physically sick from it, the nausea is bad enough. What makes it worse is that most people don't really see you as pregnant until you have a belly, so there's not a lot of compassion at that point (that's what I felt anyways). Let's say you started trying now and got pregnant right away, you'd be running the risk of going through all of that during finals, NCLEX, etc....but you never know how long it could take to get pregnant. It took me a year of trying before I got pregnant the first time. The second time, we decided to try and I was pregnant the next month....so you never really know. I would just weigh out the pro's and con's and decide what is most important to you. I hate to say that you should wait to try, because that's such a personal decision....however, if it were me, I'd probably wait until I was atleast done with nursing school and taking the NCLEX. Good luck with everything!

Equinox_93 · Mar 22, 2009

... I would only do it if you were OK with possibly not starting into your career for awhile. What if you have a complication with your pregnancy? What if baby winds up having a health concern? What if you decide after you have your baby that you don't want to put baby in daycare as a newborn? Sure these are things you can't control- but the timing of having to deal with them possibly with everything else going on? Can you handle that (emotionally, mentally, physically, financially)? Just something to think about... Good luck!

nurselizk · Mar 22, 2009

another consideration--if you will change insurance when you start working, I'd suggest waiting so your pregnancy is not a pre-existing condition, especially given your diabetes.

Natingale, EdD, RN · Mar 22, 2009

Why make things even more complicated than it really is.

You want a baby? Make a baby. Period. This is going to be YOUR choice, are you looking for someone to step in and weigh the pros and cons for you? You know whats going to happen. You plan on graduating in June, and passing your boards to become a RN. Its stressful, but if you could manage, do it. Like the above poster stated, once youre really ready to work youre going to be considered a new grad even though its a year after you graduated. If that doesnt bother you, then go for it. Good luck with whatever you decide, what does your family think? Dont answer, just think about it or talk it over with them. Congrats on your success this far!

aerorunner80, ADN, BSN, MSN, APRN · Mar 23, 2009

I've learned that if you wait for the "right moment" it will never happen.

Equinox_93 · Mar 23, 2009

Many people feel there is more to consider than just "do you want a baby- go make one"... Things like being able to afford them, for instance... And whether one will be able to manage enough time to be with them and raise them while working/attending school... It's not that it's ultra complicated- but as a responsible adult- there is a bit more to consider than just "do I want this". Sometimes getting outside opinions and perspectives help us weigh our own pros/cons.

Why make things even more complicated than it really is.
You want a baby? Make a baby. Period. This is going to be YOUR choice, are you looking for someone to step in and weigh the pros and cons for you? You know whats going to happen. You plan on graduating in June, and passing your boards to become a RN. Its stressful, but if you could manage, do it. Like the above poster stated, once youre really ready to work youre going to be considered a new grad even though its a year after you graduated. If that doesnt bother you, then go for it. Good luck with whatever you decide, what does your family think? Dont answer, just think about it or talk it over with them. Congrats on your success this far!

Equinox_93 · Mar 23, 2009

I've learned that if you wait for the "right moment" it will never happen.

Very true- but while "the right moment" may never come- there may be certain periods that could definately be said to be "the wrong moment"... (Not saying this is one of them- just saying some moments are better than others for bringing a baby into the world...)