I just want to apologize to a new nurse I was trying to train to LTC nursing. I had already decided to leave LTC nursing (nursing home nursing) because it was "just too much, too terrible, too dangerous, too depressing" where I worked. I am an RN, training another RN on the med routine. I had already told her to check everyone's wristband before giving meds. We were both setting up meds and she was going to give meds to Ms. Brown. She asked, "Who is Ms. Brown?" I pointed to a woman across the crowded day room in a wheelchair in a pink printed day dress. A few seconds later, I glance up and I see her the giving meds to the wrong resident. I see the resident swallow and when the trainee walks back to me, I said, "You gave the meds to the wrong person, it's the lady sitting next to her". She was horrified because she said the lady did not have a wristband and she had asked a CNA, "Is this Ms. Brown?" and the CNA had said yes. Well, it wasn't Ms. Brown. I realized that most of the residents in the dayroom had on a pink printed dress and were in a wheelchair. The resident that had gotten the wrong meds was fine but very sedated for the next few hours. The trainee RN (with a Masters) felt so guilty she quit. The CNA felt guilty because she thought she knew the resident's name. I felt guilty because I should have told the new RN, "This is hell, but someone has to take care of the old folks". The social worker felt guilty because "daily" the residents manage to get their wristbands off. The future: Masses of confused elderly folks crammed in a dayroom who have managed to wriggle or pull their wristbands off and strange new staff trying to give meds to the wrong people. Actually, it's not the future, it's here.