First, let me say that I am a Geriatric Nurse and have lots of experience with Alzhemier's pts. However, I am rapidly learning that it is much easier to deal with someone else's Mother and give advice than to deal with my own.
My Mother has Alzhemiers. She is in about the Mod - Severe stage, scoring a 12 on her last MME. She is still functioning well however, and lives at home with my Dad. Unfortunatley, they live a good 4 hours drive from where I am, which makes helping out very difficult. My brother is in China and my sister doesn't think there is a problem, so I am the #1 shoulder for my Dad to lean on. Here is that latest difficultly.
The decision was made that my Mom should not be alone in the evenings anymore. My Dad goes out 3 nights a week to play cards (he really needs this time away from my Mom!) so we have a sitter coming in through CCAC I just got an email from Dad saying that "tempers are short" and Mom is giving him a hard time about the sitter. I've asked for more info from him - who is she fighting with, how long etc? I just spoke with my Mom on the phone (tongiht is one of his nights out) and she seemed fine - happy, like the sitter and so forth. She did mention how Dad won't leave her alone. I remind her (as I have many, many times) that this is for her own safey and its either this or a nursing home. Which she accepts from me. I told Dad this and told him to stick with the sitter, because he was thinking of canceling her.
Does anyone have any other thoughts/advice? I think I am too close to the problem to see the whole picture, and while I can symphathize with my Mom about not wanting a sitter, I also want her to be save.
So if anyone has any suggestions about how to make this work better, please share! If not, thank you for just letting me vent. Sometimes the shoulder needs a shoulder to lean one!
I am also torn between wanting to stay where I am, with a job I love, home I love and moving back home to help out - where I will not have the opportunities I have here. Everyone tells me to stay here, but I still feel so guilty sometimes! :uhoh21: