What have I DONE???!!!???

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Only you fellow students would understand the predicament I have somehow managed to place myself in.

Jeesh. I can't believe I let this happen.

I just finished up my first semester of clinicals and was treated to the most stressful, demanding semester I have ever experienced in my life.

Near the end of the semester my darling boyfriend FINALLY proposed to me (picked out a winner of a ring too!). So, in my bliss, I agreed to go looking at new housing developments with him. He really wanted to see this new "planned community" being built near our house. Does anyone see where this is headed?...

My totally questioning, fact processing, never-rush-into-a-decision fiance went GA-GA over the place and wants to buy---now! My entire vacation was consumed with this neighborhood and houses and lots and such. I woke up this morning realizing my break is over in a few days and suddenly realized that "The Stress" will be making a repeat appearance in my life at that time. My delusional love-cloud just dissipated.

I found out that he talked to the finance guy, the builder's agent and a real-estate agent to sell our home---today! Now, I take blame. I agreed to it, but didn't factor in the school stress. Now I, who cleaned the house a total of 3 times last semester, will be building a house, going through med-surg, pharm, nutrition and history and will be needing to keep the place in "queen elizabeth" condition in order to sell. I can't tell him I've changed my mind --- we talked A LOT and he doesn't respect people who beg off of decisions. I don't want to start our marriage with him feeling that way.

So I pose 2 questions to y'all: 1) Do I have a right to be freaking out? and 2) Any tips on time/stress management out there?:rolleyes:

Sorry the post is so long.

Hugs to y'all:kiss

Specializes in LTC, ER, ICU,.

best wishes, alyssa and congratulations to your fiance.

i would suggest focusing on the differences you both have and find a medium to relieve the stress of his concerns and yours.

Thanks everyone. Your comments have helped me not feel like such a doof for digging this hole.

christinemj - I giggled with your laughter. Nice to know I'm not alone

Jennerizer- a lot of good advice. thank you.

EmeraldNYL- I keep telling him I'd like to get married in June of 2004, but he keeps pushing for "anytime between now and June this year" This will not be the first marriage for either of us so we're eloping - thank god - no big wedding to plan.

NurseWeasel- accuse away!:chuckle --- I'm a TOTAL control freak! I think that's why I'm stressing so much. My 4.0 could go in the crapper- my new house might not be just the way I want, my current house won't be clean enough and my honors project won't get any attention. My man won't bow down to me en- oh. oops. got away with myself there... you get the jist.

mkue - one of the reasons we like the development is because jetted jacuzzi tubs come standard!:smokin:

ageless - it's funny you said the black/white/grey thing. I just told him two days ago that I have a hard time discussing things with him on occasion because he's "all or nothing--totally black and white." And, the tag line is just a joke. See my response to NurseWeasel.

Stephany- hey there! I think we started working towards a happy medium last night. How you doing, anyway?

Everyone- thank you so much for the congrats! :kiss I couldn't be happier (current sit. excluded, of course) with any other man on the planet. I'm really lucky that I have found someone who is as perfectly suited for me as humanly possible. I only wish all could be so lucky. I'm so in looooooove. *sigh*

Originally posted by babynursewannab

mkue - one of the reasons we like the development is because jetted jacuzzi tubs come standard!:smokin:

Awesome !!:smokin:

OMG Jetted Jacuzzi Tubs , too kool ;)deb Oh and CONGRATS on the engagement :balloons:

Specializes in LTC, ER, ICU,.

posted by alyssa:

"stephany- hey there! i think we started working towards a happy medium last night. how you doing, anyway?"

alyssa, thanks for asking. i am fine.

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