annoying students!!!!

  1. I know there have been many of these threads before but I have to vent! I am usually quiet in class, keep to myself, get my work done and do well in the class. Somehow some of the students in my classes pick up on the fact that I do well and they gravitate to me for answers. I do not know these people! They only talk to me when they want something- what the homework assignment was, what the answer to a homework question was, what the class notes were, they want to borrow my lab book or textbook or a pen or whatever else. These people aren't friendly to me, they NEVER EVER speak to me unless they want something!

    Does anyone else have this problem? What can I say when someone I don't know comes up to me (and interrupts whatever I'm doing) and asks for the answer to a problem on the homework that I took the time to figure out? It's not like they don't have 4-5 other friends in the class they can't work this out with- they just want to use me for the answer then leave me alone. So what can I say without being totally rude?
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  3. by   Mithrah
    I'd say "oh, yes, I got the answers to those questions. How about you tell me what you got first, then we can compare answers."

    Or say what my boyfriend would say "Who the $#@! are you?"
  4. by   Carolanne
    I like Mithrah's idea! :chuckle Yes, it is amazing how people tend to gravitate to others who are organized and have a clue about what's going on. It's an age old dilemma and quite rude.
  5. by   RedSox33RN
    I agree that is quite rude to ask someone to help you just off the cuff, if they are not even an aquaintance who would give you the time of day.

    I like Mithrah's answer's too! Make 'em work to get the answers out of YOU too. Maybe they'll get the idea and actually look in their TEXTS! LOL
  6. by   majicalblue
    I would have to agree with you. I am also very quiet in my class, and because of that people tend to think that I know everything. I need as much time as the next person to understand something. I even get phone calls at home from my clinical group on what to put on their care plans. Well I let that go a few times, until I needed help. Well guess who I called! When I called them I told them, guess what it's time to give back what you took from me. Now it's not as bad as it was before. Every now and then they ask me for help. We're all in this together, therefore if you feel cheated, take back what is truely yours.
  7. by   RedSox33RN
    Why is she being arrogant if these people never speak to her at all, except to ask her answers to questions? Aren't they being arrogant by ASSuming she will provide them for her?

    Being a nurse and being asked questions is mighty different than being a student being asked for answers.
  8. by   pcat
    I don't see it as arrogant. When I was in nursing school, there were a few people who would act like my best friend when it came to getting answers to my homework and then barely speak to me. It taught me a very important lesson that transfers to must be assertive or people will walk all over you and/or your patients.
  9. by   bigmona
    excuse me, but as I explained, this happens to me a LOT and these people have their own formed cliques in the class whom they could ask, and if none of their 4-5 friends get it they can ask the teacher. I DID offer help at first but once I realized that all they wanted was the answer and then they'd leave me alone and never speak to me again until they wanted something else from me, I began brushing them off and getting fed up.

    I wouldn't just walk up to someone and ask them "What did you get for number 12?" and then walk away the second they gave it to me. That's rude, and it's what they do to me. So I'm not going to let them use me, walk all over me, whatever else until they get what they want from me and then ignore me. These people don't want to be my friend- if they approached me in a friendlier manner, ever said hello to me or even smiled at me then I would be more than willing to help them out.

    Once I am a nurse it's different- it will be my job to share info w/ people regardless of the situation. In the meantime, I WON'T be walked all over by fellow students who want a quick and easy answer and then ignore me the rest of the time.

    Thanks to everyone else who could relate.
  10. by   bigmona
    btw, this is anatomy, not nursing school.

    and the reason they think i'm smart is b/c when going over heart anatomy and identifying what's what, i was one of the few giving the correct answers. its because i studied, not because i'm "arrogant".
  11. by   pcat
    I had a feeling it was a pre-req type class. Those type of students are slowly weeded out. =)
  12. by   bigmona
    .that is reassuring, pcat.
  13. by   FutureArmyNurse
    This happens to me all the time, Bigmona. I feel your pain. But in my microbiology class it was easy to quickly determine who were the leeches, and who were the ones who would help you out in return. We had several leeches but most of us just had a hard time with the material and leaned on each other a lot for support.

    Whenever anyone trying to suck answers or data out of me just because they were lazy, I always told them to copy at their own risk because I really hadn't studied it yet and was guessing. That usually deterred them quickly enough and they would go to someone else.
  14. by   majicalblue
    It seems as though your in a situation where you don't want to be. You have to do what is best for you. If this is bothering you, then maybe think over some of your options and try them out. Your there to learn about nursing, and if people are bothering you when you don't want to be bothered tell them. We are all taught veracity in school. I know it's gonna come in handy when I'm a nurse. Use your knowledge, not what your told by others.