Would you recommend nursing to your daughter? - page 3

My daughter is 17 and graduating this spring and plans on going to college this fall. She has expressed a desire to go into nursing but I really have a problem encouraging her to do this. I don't... Read More

  1. by   AmericanChai
    I'm sorry to see so many burnt out nurses. My mom has been a nurse for 20 years and is very happy with her work. She is working in an area she enjoys, and she has also been specially trained to help families who have experienced a loss or are about to. In high school I used to shadow my mom on shifts and it was really facinating to me. I know it's not all glamor and that sometimes you do have grunge work and you feel you have too many patients under your care at a time. Not everyone is cut out for it.

    I am doing my nursing pre-req's right now. I chose nursing because my daughter has some health issues (including feeding tube) and I feel I'm good at caring for her and can see myself caring for others in the same way. I was a birth doula in training for awhile before her birth and did a lot of clean-up work for homebirths and such. I really didn't mind. It's all part of life.

    The hours are flexible and the pay is supposed to be pretty good, too. I won't have to worry about finding a job even if our family moves to another city. My husband is much more limited with his job options as an IT person. He does not like his job, is stuck in a cubicle all day seeing the same people year after year.
    Last edit by AmericanChai on Mar 17, '07 : Reason: adding more
  2. by   djc1981
    I would encourage my daughter if thats what she wanted. I'd like to see her being a trained, nicely compensated professional than to work for a liberal arts/management degree and be a t-shirt manager at the Gap or manager at Walmart.
  3. by   RN BSN 2009
    yes nursing is so broad
  4. by   Pumpkin1621
    For those of you who say no, what job would you want your child to do?
  5. by   banditrn
    No, I would not - not with the direction it's going!

    One son became an RN and worked in critical care for several years - he got out of it and is working toward being a tool & die maker. I completely understand why, too.
  6. by   TrudyRN
    Hell no. Unless she aspired to advanced practice, teaching, research, or Admin. And only reluctantly then.
  7. by   TrudyRN
    Quote from Pumpkin1621
    For those of you who say no, what job would you want your child to do?
    Lottery Winner
    Owner of her own business
    Physical Therapist (better pay than RN, more autonomous)
    Sales (furniture, major appliances, high end cars, insurance, investments - something with a good commission structure)
    Real Estate Developer
    Dispatcher for a taxi cab or trucking firm, or an EMS/police agency.
    novel thought, a homemaker/stay-at-home mom; after raising her family, she can go to work
    trader on the various markets - futures, currency, stocks and bonds
    TV or radio personality
    something that accommodates the needs of a parent with small children and teenagers and that pays decently (work while the kids are in school only - like maybe 0830 - 1430, off weekends, holidays, summers)
    Travel Industry
    Real Estate - but not in a dangerous role (agents are subject to craziness from loony buyers who want to rape and mangle them while out showing property)
    There is so much to choose from.
    One need not do dirty, thankless, low-paid, dangerous, stressful work, working weekends, holidays, evenings, and nights. I know every line of work has its problems but there are some really dangerous features to Nursing and there are so many options other than Nursing.
    Heck, she could be a museum curator or sociologist or Zoo directress.
    Playboy bunny? I know, I know. Not good for the image of modern women.
  8. by   cisco
    Encourage her to look into other health care professions that the bedside experience won't be so intensive/brutal...ie; physical therapist, occupational therapist, radiological technologist ie doing MRI's, sonography, cat scans etc. I know many PT's, OT's that have opened their own businesses and even have contracts as State Providers for the Developmental Disability population. I have rarely met a therapist or sonographer that doesn't love their job...I know many, many nurses that are disappointed, burned out and trapped in their jobs due to salary/benefits etc. I love being an RN, however after seeing the possibilities in these other professions, if I had looked into them from the beginning, knowing all the facts, I probably would have chosen the therapist route. Good luck to you and your daughter. Encouragement and positive guidance is always the high road to take.
  9. by   Pumpkin1621
    i have just changed my degree (again) to nursing. my parents were not very supportive of my decision either. i really looked into everything before i made my final decision. i really believe that nursing is for me. my parents have just started to support my decision and i ask you all to keep an open mind, and ask that your children do the same.

    below you will find the reasons why i did not choose a different career. keep in mind that i am a single mother living with my parents. i previously served in the air force.


    wasn't born one, william is taken, harry is going to war. i guess i am out of luck there.

    lottery winner
    i buy the tickets but odds haven't been in my favor yet. :spin:

    owner of her own business
    i took two years of business school, and i hated it. not to mention in accounting we learned that 9 out of 10 new businesses fail a year, and as a single mother that is not a risk i am willing to take. i'm not a big risk taker.

    i thought about law school for a while, and i even contacted a few. it is an additional 3 years of school after you finish your bachelors. the time in school is very intense with memorizing laws and reading case after case. then you have to be ready for the socratic method of questioning. not to mention it is very competitive. if you want to make a six figure salary then you have to be at the top of the class. if not you will be another nickle and dime divorce lawyer on the street corner.

    i also thought about becoming a dr for a while. i was all ready to take all the chemistry, math, english, and physics courses required for med school. then i found out medical school is 4 years long, you get in 100k debt, after you finish medical school you have to go through residency which is anywhere from 3 years to 7. in that time you are making about 50k, you are on call a lot and have to stay the night in the hospital. then when you are finally finished, you still can't make your own hours. unless you are derm, er, or opto you will have to work a lot of hours. oh and these "family friendly" specialties are the most competitive so if you want derm you better be in the top of your medical class in one of the best schools.

    like i said earlier i took accounting classes. this career is very family friendly if you get into a good firm. the problem is, would you be happy crunching numbers all the time. i really enjoyed accounting at first, but now, i would rather barf then talk about depreciation, credit and debits, or look at another balance sheet.

    physical therapist (better pay than rn, more autonomous)
    this is one career i can say that i never looked into, because i never had an interest. i have seen them in action and in their working environment, and i just have no desire to do that.

    sales (furniture, major appliances, high end cars, insurance, investments - something with a good commission structure)
    yuck! not me. i would not be happy being a salesperson. i worked as a salesperson (not commission based) before and i really disliked it. i hate pushing people to buy things that i wouldn't buy.

    real estate developer
    i think real estate would be fun, but it is another risky career. i think to really benefit from a career like this you would need enough money. you could join a corporation or partnership but then the return would not be as lucrative.

    dispatcher for a taxi cab or trucking firm, or an ems/police agency.
    this just wouldn't be fun to me i don't know about the pay or anything associated with it because i am not interested.

    novel thought, a homemaker/stay-at-home mom; after raising her family, she can go to work
    i stayed at home with my parents for a year after i had my daughter and i went insane. my brain felt like mush. i needed some kind of outside stimuli. i applaud all stay at home moms. i couldn't do it.

    some of us are born good writers, and some aren't. i unfortunately wasn't. my mom, however, is. while working on a novel you have to be able to have some sort of income. most people freelance (write articles for magazines without being employed) but they are picky and you have to be really familiar with their magazine. (they don't want a story that they wrote about 3 years ago) :trout: you have to be really good with your money too, because sometimes the money will flow in, and sometimes it won't.

    trader on the various markets - futures, currency, stocks and bonds
    in the business world that is the most competitive area to work. they recruit from the top business schools like harvard, kellog, stanford, and wharton. these are really hard to get into and are not funded. the work hours are crap and you have to be able to support yourself in a city with a hedgefund or ib like new york. the average ib works an 80 hour work week (the same as some doctors).

    tv or radio personality
    that would be awesome but the pay for tv or radio personality is around 20-30k. but if you are a star that will shoot up in no time. if you aren't then i hope you have another source of income.

    if you like to teach this is a great path. you need to have a phd (a min. of 4 years undergrad, 1 year for masters, and however long it takes you to get that dissertation) unless you want to teach high school or elementry school. most schools will hire you though before you finished your dissertation. i need a job sooner than that. also acadamia careers are very competitive and you have to be willing to move. you must also research and write. the saying goes... publish or perish.

    travel industry
    that could be a fun job. i never really looked into it. i imagine it has its high and low seasons though. you might want to work somewhere like vegas too. that is where our vacation lady works.

    real estate - but not in a dangerous role (agents are subject to craziness from loony buyers who want to rape and mangle them while out showing property)
    oh my! i have never heard of such stories. but again i don't like to push sales. the real estate market is going down now too.

    heck, she could be a museum curator or sociologist or zoo directress.
    i was an art history major and museum curator is the most competitive job, and the pay really sucks (30k). if you get it then at least it's 9-5 job but you still work holidays.
    i hated sociology so i never really looked into it. but from what i gather you need to learn at least one other language (unless you are studying american sociology) and you have to be willing to travel to your area of interest.
    zoo directress? i don't know about this one, but i want to stay far away from those poo flinging monkeys.

    i can't sew.

    the modeling industry is brutal. has anyone seen the agency on vh1. i am too short anyways.

    playboy bunny? i know, i know. not good for the image of modern women

    i sent my picture in but hef said no. haha! just kidding

    one other thing. when the economy sucks so do more than half of the jobs you listed. a lot of lay offs happen. my uncle just got laid off from a prestigious bank in new york, now he is a manager for terminex. :angryfire

    sorry this post was so long! i am not dissing any of these professions. i have respect for everyone no matter the job, because every job has its highs and lows. if there was a high salary, 9-5, holidays off, higher-educated not needed, job, i think... well i think it would be made up.
    Last edit by Pumpkin1621 on Mar 17, '07
  10. by   nptobee
    I would never encourage it. If she wanted to be a nurse, I would support her. But thank God she is a very talented writer, and hates the sight of blood.
  11. by   DutchgirlRN
    My daughter let me know as soon as she was old enough to talk that being a nurse was gross and she would not ever consider it. She got a BS in Human Ecology (Formerly known as Home EC) The girl can't boil an egg properly, hates to clean, etc....she's working in a bank making $12.00 an hour. She plans to try to find something else once the baby is born. The Dollar General corporate office is just miles from her home, they have wonderful in house childcare, great benefits. Her minor was in fashion merchandising and will try to go at that angle. I would have liked it had she become a nurse. I think nursing pays well and is very flexible for a working mother. I would discourage her from doing med/surg more than a year or two. Her husband would love to go back to school to be an RN. He's has a culinary degree and is a chef. Go figure!

    My son, a senior, thinks he may want to be a Dermatoligist. Music to my ears, pain to my bank account.
  12. by   lllliv
    i would never encourage my child to go into nursing. if he/she brought it up i would make sure they were fully informed and have them check out other career options. especially the therapies if part of the interest was in "helping people".

    if they were adamant, i'd give support, of course. then years later i could say "i told you so!!" lol! just kidding!
  13. by   randybayrn
    I am a new grad RN and love it so far. I was also an LVN for 10 years. The possibilities are endless in nursing. So yes, encourage encourage encourage!!