Was I right? or was I wrong? Confused?

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  1. What should I have done?

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      Stayed out of it, and let them near kill someone?
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      Taken them out while I had the chance?
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      Just tkane a beating to protect the weak and distract them like I did?

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tonight, was the first time in 7 days i went out. i was asked by a friend, and a few of the local police if i wanted to come up to a local tavern and play darts with them.

well the night turned out to be much worse than what i expected. there were two guys up there (long story, but found out at the end of the night through friends in the pd they were brothers, and had mutliple warrants out for their arrest).

they were drunk, and beligerent! they were saying rude obscene stuff to others..which is tolerable. then they started to say stuff to the bartender (a friend of mine). he told them to leave, and that they were intoxicated and would not be served anymore. they flew off the handle and started yelling at my friend (who definately could not handle them). they called him..............well i am not even going there. they then started to climb over the bar, to come after him, for asking them to leave. i walked over and said, "listen there's no reason for this, maybe you guys should leave before it gets bad and/or the police come.

in turn the two of them, one my size or slightly smaller,a nd the other much bigger and stronger than i, came after me. my one friend there already ( a local officer) is not that big, and personally didn't stand a chance.

i got drilled, left and right....others came to help...but the big guy was too much. too big, too strong, too violent for anybody there. i tried to stop him, by holding him in check. however, he lifted me up in the air without a problem, threw me down, hit again repeatedly. i had oppurtunities to put him down for the count. however, i did nothing because i really didn't want to hurt him or anybody. so i took the continued beating, while others tried to help without success. then the big dude started with; "i am gonna get my piece and take everybody in this place out."

i just kept waiting for the rest of the police department to arrive, and did nothing except take it. i don't know why? i just could not bring myself to hit them back.

the police came, and my friends on the department asked why i didn't put them out, or retaliate?

i guess, i don't have it in me to hurt anyone. figured, better one person takes it all.....who can take it...than let them go off on multiple people?

right now, i hurt bad, i'm upset, i feel foggy?, i look like a beat up cripple...and feel like crying?

i need some honest opinions here?

here are the things i thought of......... and didn't know where else to put them but in the poll?

me :stone

Specializes in CV-ICU.

Rick, I've got a fast-flashing Irish temper, so if someone (not a patient) hit me I'd personally kick them in the groin! That is my gut reflex; but you and I are different people. If you knew what you were doing at the time and that was your gut feeling in this situation; then you did the right thing. Never second-guess your gut feelings.

I certainly hope you are feeling better now. Sorry I didn't see this earlier. Hey, take care of yourself, okay?

CEN---------

be well

micro

Specializes in Corrections, Psych, Med-Surg.

ocankhe--very good.

glad you're ok.

Hi Rick,

I hope your recovered by now. You did the right thing, all things considered. I hope your pressing charges against those *%#*@*! I think you need to take a different marshall art class. I suggest JUDO. Judo is great in that you use body mechanics and your attackers force against them. The intention is not to hurt someone, but to put them down on the ground, giving you the chance to stay on your feet and flee or to put them down again if they get back up to fight. Judo teaches you to deflect and reverse force. I'm so sorry this happened to you. Seems to me the only whimps in the place were the ones who didn't try to help you but just stood there, knees knocken, for fear that they might get hit. I'd be po'd that everyone else in the place didn't gang up on these two criminals and help out. You were the only brave person in the place. I would've jumped in there to help you. You need new party buddies.

Specializes in Psych, Derm,Eye,Ortho,Prison,Surg,Med,.

YOU HAVE A RIGHT TO DEFEND YOURSELF AGAINST ANYONE

WHO ATTACKS YOU REGARDLESS OF WHETHER YOU ARE A

NURSE, DOCTOR OR CABINETMAKER.

I DO NOT BELIEVE YOU DID THE RIGHT THING !!

:saint:

Specializes in MS Home Health.

If your going to hit me make it count cause you don't want me getting up........

Horrible temper I keep in check but I would let no one beat me without a fight,

I have been mugged twice and sexually assaulted.

You have to do what is right for you, not what is right for us.

God I hope your okay,

renerian:kiss

Rick,

It's all instinct at a time like that - fight or flight. If this doesn't occur often to you then instinct is the course. In my much younger years I had several similar situations where in the 20-20 hindsight I felt I really should have done something different, but the hindsight thing is ridiculous. You put yourself at risk for another's sake so that's honorable and heroic in my opinion. Now I've worked at a chemical dependency unit for 5 years and have had so many belligerent intoxicated people swing at me that i'm used to it, and I'm trained to take 'em down if I have to without hurting them, but what i've learned over the years is: the most important person in the equation is: me.

you tough guy.

RF.

Just wanted to tell you I'm disenchanted by the system. I served my first jury duty on a case where the guy got off for something similar to what you are describing. His behavior was witnessed directly by a cop. But 2 members of the jury refused to listen to the facts. The victim really got messed up. But it was a cop who witnessed it, and the jury members were obviously anti-cop. Soooooo, I'm glad you are o.k. But please be real careful in the future, even if you are with cops!

Rick: Take care of yourself. I'm glad you weren't more hurt than you were.

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