To all nurses: Is my life really over? - page 2


  1. by   bunky
    Your life doesn't have to be over! You managed the pre-req's with kids, so you know how to prioritze your time. I did it with two kids, in the middle of a divorce, and while it wasn't easy, nothing in life that's worthwhile ever is. Look at it this way, if you've come this far and you quit, what have you got? What will you be qualified to do?Lock your sights on the goal and don't let up until you're there, and somehow you do get there.
  2. by   vicki
    Hi Rebecca, my name is Vicki and I graduated one year ago. I worked 2 jobs, have a husband and 3 children. All I can say is it can be done. My biggest challenge was making sure that my children still had a life and didn't feel as though they had to put their life on hold for my education. I worked very hard to make sure they were still able to participate in their activities. I have one in Boy Scouts, Diving and Cross-Country. Another that participates in 2 types of gymnastics (she took first place in state) competitions, dance competition and piano. I just carried my books to meets and studied until it was her turn. We still did out of town weekends, but I still took my books. It's helpful you have a husband, they can pick up some of the parenting slack. There's no doubt that it's stressful for the entire family, but being creative with time really helps. Now my husband has returned to school and he has an even better perspective on how difficult it was. One thing for sure, my children appreciate our views on education. My oldest son leaves in three weeks for his first semester at MU. I'm very excited for him. He is pre-med. I'm glad he's not waiting like I did.

    I wish you the best of luck. I know many non-traditonal working mothers who have completed the nursing program. As my mother would say, the harder you work for something the more it means to you. You will find when you are finished the most incredible sense if self-fulfillment, and your husband and children will be very proud of your accomplishments! Take care and hang in there, you can do it.

    [This message has been edited by vicki (edited July 27, 2000).]
  3. by   noreen
    Hi Rebecca,

    I'm also starting an ADN program in 3 weeks! I've heard all the nasty tales of the nursing program in general and like you I'm sort of panicing on and off here. In a way you are lucky that your pre-reqs took you only a year to complete. I completed my reqs (took 5 yrs. pt/ft) just this last spring and the wait for the program will be 2 yrs. when I start this fall.

    At times it seemed like I would never get this far (I have 3 kids and a husband and if they aren't used to my school schedules by now they never will be). Now that I"m here and you are to the worst thing we can do is freak about it. Like the others have posted, take a deep breath, remember to take some down-time for yourself and then time for your family everything else can wait until the summer months or after you graduate.

    Keep us posted---noreen
  4. by   NurseRachet
    I agree with the other comments. Just take one day at a time. Organization is the key, you have children, so you know how to do that. I also had 3 children and a great husband that helped me through the worst days. Everyone has to adjust. I have been a nurse for 30 years and started out with an LPN school, then ADN, then BSN, then finally, finished my MSN about 4 years ago. See there is a light at the end of the tunnel. It was hard work, but worth it. If I had it to do over, I would have just went and got my BSN, then worked for awhile prior to going for the MSN. The hard part is over those boring prerequisted classes! Now you have the fun of learning really neat stuff. Just think of the body being a work of God, which it truly is! Pray every day, and take one day off for fun, even just for a few hours. It will make you a better person! Good luck and keep in touch. I care.
  5. by   peaceful2100
    Originally posted by Rebecca Fleissner:
    Hello to all the nurses! I am just entering an ADN program. I spent 1yr. doing prereqs and did well. I am married and have 4 children. I am very scared and half doubting myself. Other students say I will have no social life at all. This is sad to hear b/c I don't know how I will survive if I have no other fun things in my life. I have always wanted to be a nurse. I have also heard that many marriages don't survive nur. school. My husband is supportiveand I think we can make it. I just can't believe I am already so stressed and I haven't even begun yet. I can't sleep and I feel I have to be totally organized before I begin. I hope this is just fear of the unknown. I am very caring and study hard, I really want this, so why am I doubtful 2 wks. before classes begin ??If anyone has any advise or hints to being organized I would greatly appreciate it. Not many nur. students are married w/ children, yes some are but I feel we nontraditional students have an even harder hill to climb. Just my opinion. Becky
    Rebecca, look yourself in the mirror and say I (we) will make it. I am strong. As far as being a non-traditional student It is becoming more the rule not the expection in nursing school more and more nursing students are either married, married with children or single parents. I have a little inspirational story for you that I think may boost your spirts up this is a true story because it is my life. I am twenty years old, African-American and a single mom of a two year old daughter, her father cheated on us and left us about 2 weeks before our wedding day. My life keeps getting better and better everyday because I am really beating the odds, the odds were really against me as a single young, African-american mother/student. I started attending a community college back in June 1998 when my daughter was only 6 months old and I have been a full-time student ever since. I will earn my associate's in arts degree in December 2000 and then transfer to a four year university in January 2001 and earn my BSN in May 2003. It has not at all been easy but I have a supportive mother and father and my daughter and I live with them while I am in school. I also work a job at a daycare center about 20 hours per week so I get free daycare for my daughter. You will make it if you believe in yourself. Nothing is ever impossible unless you believe it is. My ultimate goal is to become a pediatrics nurse practitioner and open my own clinic up for parents who can not afford insurance but make too much money to qualify for medicaid or some other type of state assistance. If I can do it as a young single mom any body can do as a older married mom. IF there are any single moms out there reading this don't feel discourage or scared of your dreams and don't let being a single mom become a excuse for following through with ALL your dreams. You deserve the best for you and your child(ren). Anyone feel free to e-mail me, interested in finding a student who is also going through nursing school looking for e-mail buddy.

    Take care everyone,

    Nothing is ever impossible, If you think you can you will if you think you can't it won't happen
  6. by   Patricia Smith
    You are Great!! What a great nurse you will be! I for one, am very proud of you--As you have heard from the previous e-mails--we all have different backgrounds but we all have the same message "GO FOR IT"! I have 3 children, and was seperated at the time I entered nursing school. I worked a full time job (3-12 hour shifts on the weekends as a nursing assistant) and took my classes during the week. No mother and father to help! Just us.......and I graduated #1 in my class. What a proud moment it was to have my children in the front row when I gave the commencement speech on graduation day! Where there's a will--there's a way. My oldest daughter is now a nurse as --she remembers my graduation day as well! It is important to keep time for your husband and family--set time aside each week and make it work. You will do just great and remember--we are all with you! Good luck and keep us posted!
  7. by   Newnurse
    HI Rebecca. I also started nursing school after completing all prequisits-its a real plus to have them out of the way so you only have to concentrate on nursing studies. My husband and two school age kids where supportive of me. I worked full time, six days a week and went to school 4 evenings a week from 4-10pm. Unlike some of the others who responded, I had NO social life outside of work, school and immediate family. My kids had to curtail some extracurricular activities because I couldnt be there (I had papers and readings and a household to run) My husband helped them with homework, and cooked dinner most nights. On my only day off I did house work, then studied the rest of the day. My husband is a wonderful father and took up the substantial slack left by my absense. Even when I was home, I wasnt 'available', it was all nsg, nsg, nsg....
    I don't mean to scare you, but this is how it is for some of us when we go back to school with a full plate of responsibilities and a tight buget. I graduated in May and start my first nursing job at a hospital this month.I pray that Nursing will be as satisfying as I believe it will, and it will have all have been worth it. I must add that despite the grim picture I paint of nursing school hardships, it increased my self confidence alot. I now feel I can do anything I set my mind to. You can do it too, but there will be sacrifices in all aspects of your life.
    Good Luck
  8. by   lita1857
    I was humbled by peaceful2100 and Newnurse..I had forgotten how much I wanted to be a nurse and I had to face some things about myself, I no longer want to do this...I was a really good nurse and had the IV gift, so if I can be of any help e-mail me at