They Win!!!(long)

emsboss · Nov 9, 2006

I hate nurses like that! Gender aside, she should have been counseled for her attitude, did you discuss the greeting with the nurse manager? Was it just blown off? What a shame! I hope you like the ER.

There was nothing done about it, AND she was my preceptor for about a week. The NM was told about it by several other nurses that were there when it happened....But it was blown off as, "Oh, that is just ____ Ignore her." Yeah...OK...

Sorry to dump on you guys, but I am really not taking this well for some reason. I want ED, but, I have NEVER been "run out" of anything in my life.:angryfire :angryfire :angryfire . Am seriously considering resighnig outright.

stpauligirl · Nov 9, 2006

Dude,
It's cuz you're a dude. I hate that. Luckily i was able to survive that kinda crap and am still an ICU nurse. I just kinda think of them as my 'harem'...makes it easier.

Is your age really 87? If so then there is some hope for me after all. I am 47 and not even in nursing school yet but trying really hard to get there.

Once I get there I'll probably work until the day I die and I don't plan to do that a day before I am 100

PeachPie · Nov 9, 2006

One of the harder lessons in life that I've learned is that some situations will just not work out. I have been in workplaces where I made efforts to be nice and get along, and was rewarded by being designated as the Schadenfreude girl. The worst time this is happened was when I was working as a bartender in a strip club. Want to see some drama? Work at a strip club. While I'm not bashing people who make buttloads of money in alternative ways, strip clubs are like jungles. No workplace harassment policies, management is reluctant to bring the law into anything, and the girls are constantly catting out even though they are all doing the exact same thing as the other strippers to bring home the bacon. Anyhoo, I felt unwelcome from the minute I walked in. While thre were some very nice girls who were making some honest bucks in a world where real jobs don't pay, there were a lot of people who were so unhappy that they could not stand anyone who was not similarly miserable. They were so low on so many levels that they savored any opportunity to be above someone like Godiva chocolates. Eventually, after many accusations and drama that I was sucked into even though I cared nothing for the situations, my car was vandalized. That was the last straw. I left. Even though my income went down dramatically, I realized that the money wasn't worth being around such toxic people. I felt "run out" as well, as I had tried so hard to stay out of the drama, and that I wasn't strong enough to be a brick wall. I then realized that it wasn't me, it was them.

Right now, I evaluate situations by deciding what I am responsible for, and what is out of my control. If I could have one wish, I would honestly wish to have the clairvoyance to know what is not my problem or fault. You were not run out, you finally realized that there was nothing that you could do about the situation. It's so stupid and cliched, but it's true" living well is the best revenge. That nasty nurse is stuck doing what she hates and gladly spreads it like cancer, yet she's grown addicted to toxic behavior and won't leave it even if she gets a chance. You call that winning? I call it being king/queen of a manure heap. There was nothing you could do about that toxic work environment, and the nurse was going to hate you even if you massaged her feet, kissed her butt, and fanned her with a palmetto branch. IT WASN'T YOU!!!!! GET THAT INTO YOUR THICK HEAD!!!!!!!!!

mom23RN · Nov 9, 2006

I think you won as well. What a moron she is. Does she like working short handed?? That's what is going to happen if she keeps treating her coworkers like that. :trout:

You're going to LOVE ER!!! I'm actually a female and I loved ER becuase it was mostly men (or at least more men). Just found them easier to work with and less attitude. Don't get me wrong there were some fabulous women there as well, just "clicked" more with the "dudes".

gentle · Nov 9, 2006

OK...THEY WIN!!!!!!!!...I have worked ICU for 2+ years, came to Alaska to work and fish and hunt and...well, you get the idea. At the interview, the NM asked if I would work in the ICU, as that is where my expierience is. I agreed, small, 4 bed, low acuity almost literally 1-on-1 nursing. The back-biting began almost immediately. The first day of orientation, I introduced myself to my preceptor, you know, "Hi, my name is______, I am the new nurse." Her reaction? "I don't have TIME for a (F-word) new nurse!" I then took a deep breath and said, "new here, not a new nurse." "I don't care, I don't have time." Welcome to the unit!:angryfire As time went on it got worse, I could do no right. Finally off "orientation" and things went down hill. Finally, after 4 months of "I am NOT gonna quit." A position opened in ED...Applied...Start Dec. 1st. I know that there is not supposed to be any vulgarities on this board, and there won't be from me, but, it is enough to make a preacher cuss. BTW...Did I mention I am a male?...The only one in the unit? The majority of other male nurses are in the ED...Where I am going. There is a thread labled "Why are nurses leaving the ICU?" This is why...At least for me. I am in no way, shape or form dumb, I have reasonable skills, and ACLS/PALS/BTLS Instructor, so, I am not stupid, just the wrong gender.
THANX for allowing me to vent...(DEEP BREATH)...Moving to ED. THEY WIN!!!!!!!!!!

I don't know if this might be somewhere close; but, it sounds to me that you intended to go to Alaska to work and relax. Not to work and be stressed, de-valued, unappreciated, and maligned. Heck, I wouldn't want to work in a facility that allows that attitude to continue either. No wonder you may have occassional thoughts of leaving.

As for the person who gave you a horrible time while in the unit, well stay clear her and anyone else like her.

We love working with guys. Men bring different perspectives to plain ole life that I just don't have. We don't just appreciate your muscles. We appreciate your brains and tenacity on our med-surg unit. We also enjoy a good sense of humor--another quality the guys I have worked with bring to the environment.

Best wishes in the ED and out fishing/hunting.

gentle · Nov 9, 2006

There was nothing done about it, AND she was my preceptor for about a week. The NM was told about it by several other nurses that were there when it happened....But it was blown off as, "Oh, that is just ____ Ignore her." Yeah...OK...
Sorry to dump on you guys, but I am really not taking this well for some reason. I want ED, but, I have NEVER been "run out" of anything in my life.:angryfire :angryfire :angryfire . Am seriously considering resighnig outright.

About the "run out" part. You weren't run out of the ICU, you chose to run for your emotional, physical, and spiritual well-being. Dude, there is a huge difference between the two thought processes. You made the very best choice. You are venting your anger and frustration here which is safe. A bad choice would have been to vent your frustration/anger in an already volatile situation, but you did not do this.

AGAIN, YOU are the WINNER!!!!!! :balloons:

(You ultimately stayed in control of your own soul. Give yourself time to heal through the anger/loss/frustration and again enjoy the fishing/hunting .)

banditrn · Nov 9, 2006

Dude,
It's cuz you're a dude. I hate that. Luckily i was able to survive that kinda crap and am still an ICU nurse. I just kinda think of them as my 'harem'...makes it easier.

Hey, Dude - worked with guys in the ICU for years - enjoyed working with them - but I ain't nobody's 'harem! :uhoh3:

To the OP - sounds like that place is just a poison atmosphere - and it could have something to do with you being a male - shame on the bunch of them. Move on and enjoy your new environment.