Quote from hubbyofnursingstu
Part of the reason is that we are having some marital difficulties (and I know that there are other forums for stuff like this but since most of y'all out there are women then I do appreciate your opinion), we are going to counseling as am I for myself, she has not started for herself yet. ....
Okay, now that you've explained a little more I do have a suggestion for you.
You need to take care of yourself and she needs to take care of her responsibilities and herself. She has clearly demonstrated a lack of desire to have you 'help' her. Besides, it almost sounds as if she is trying to run away and abandon you and your children, not to find a reasonable work life. Her issues right now are not YOUR problem, her issues right now are apparently going to cause consequences that you will have to deal with.
Let her figure it all out herself and stop burning your energy, it is an obvious waste. You have much more to consider, your children's happiness is far more important in my opinion than what you are expending for your grown up and supposedly mature partner.
Sounds like she has greater issues. She is sucking the life out of you like a vacuum. IMO.
You've been given great advice here regarding the fact that her degree and license are only part of her marketability, once she graduates she needs to complete it by building on it with her experience.
Good luck, keep your counselor, keep doing things for yourself, regardless of what is going to happen with your wife.