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Going along with the thread about the missing children--I wonder how many of you leave your children in the car when you are running errands. I have known parents to leave young children in car--with it running--to go into the bank. I have not done that--but I will admit leaving them to go pay for gas (only in selected areas and only if I can see them at all times, the door is locked, and if my oldest is in the car). I know I shouldn't --but I would never 'forget' I had them in the car (like the moms recently who left newborns in hot cars to go to a party, one went gambling, another went into work).

Sometimes it is more hassle to get them out of car seats and booster seats--then hear how they want "this' etc. when all i would have to do is pay attendant my money. Now my hubby will leave them in longer--unlocked--but no keys. I have gotten on his case about this and he doesn't do this anymore (that he would admit to)--but i just couldn't imagine having anything happen to my little angels

Walking a child around attached to a leash develops the childs ability to become independant. Bird-dogging my child, constantly hounding my child will provide a happy childhood. Applying extreme boarders to a child encourages him/her to be happy. Instilling the omnipresent sense of danger is what childhood is all about. Children need to be joined with adults at the hip. Ensuring a child is around me means the child will eventually reach adulthood. Explaining to a child that all strangers are bad encourages social development. Presenting your fear and terror to a child during it's psycho-sexual development won't do any harm. Always being in a car with adults is safe for a kid.

Heather's blessed childhood of yore :-)

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Mario...........

I'm not really sure as to how to take your post, but it seems as if you're poking fun. I may have read it the wrong way, or you may merely be joking, but if it's an attempt to insult someone about their parenting skills, you may want to run and hide right quick! :D

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See Heather? This is what you start by fooling around. Then I fool around too. As I said, I know no one here, and pass no judgement. I'm just joking the way other kids would joke if they were here too. This is the internet, and I'm just messing around with the topic in general.

Let me stop kidding now about parenting. please, i'm sorry. No offense heather or any parents/anyone. If david letterman, or someone else jokes, you laugh. but if mario kids around, you attack me. Why? Please stop.

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Mario!!! Always being in my car when my children are in it WILL keep them safe, not letting my children use public amienities with out me ensuring their safety will ensure that while they are MY responsibility will ensure they get to reach adulthood. Here I am financially responsible for my children untill they are 25 so they will live by my rules untill then. I will decide when they are old enough, and mature enough to gain responsibilty for themselves in stages that I deem appropriate to them. They are a part of me, physically as emotionaly, I would give my life for them and no bugger is going to touch them without my say-so.

Untill I had my kids I didn't know how completely I could love and I'm NOT giving that up without a fight!

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Mario, just for the record, I wasn't attacking you. I don't like to hurt anyone's feelings! It's just difficult to tell sometimes when you're joking and when you're not. You know how they talk of a mother lioness and how she defends her cubs, it's human nature also. I can't speak for all, but as a mother I'm extremely defensive about the way I raise my children also- don't like for anyone to ridicule how strict or how attentive I am. It's a relief to know that you were kidding!

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Originally posted by mario_ragucci

Heather's blessed childhood of yore :-)

You don't kid Mario, you insult one's abilities and choices as a parent. Someday, you'll know what that means to a parent.

I'm done arguing with you. I'm done even looking at your posts, they're senseless dribble. In fact, I'm putting you on my ignore list so I don't even have to stumble upon one of your posts by accident. I was proud to say that I had never done that, but you alone have reduced me to actually disliking a human being that much.

Heather

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Heather, I do kid. I fooled around, then showed respect, but you want to see my downfall every time I post. Just be cool! I have no reason to insult you, and have known you for some months now.

My mom was protective of me too. I grew up in a different time, and place; We are all unique people. Love is greater than fear. Lets halt this onslought of bad feelings, and, again, I am sorry to have poked fun at parenting methods in such a way as to cause folks here to become at odds with me. I don't even have kids. I'd love to have kids, and be a father, but first I have to find my mate, and we haven't met yet.

Plus, I don't like seeing kids not allowed to be kids. That has nothing to do with your parenting abilities. I've posted in the past about my parents always being there for me, and how dropping kids off at day care can be seen as "not-so-pleasant" for the kids.

I just want to apologize, and I don't want you to be mad at me.

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I have never left my kids in the car when they were small. Now that they are teens... they choose not to follow me in to pay the attendant. I always take the keys w/ me also. Laura LPN

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I will admit that I have left my kids in the car before but never when they were very young.

I will leave my 11 and 9 year old in the truck while I run into the gas station. They know everyone in town though and I have never worried about it. Perhaps I am naive or just trusting or live in some sort of dream world.

I still believe that people are basically good and I encourage my kids to be friendly even to strangers. I am.

I still pick up hitchhikers (but have become more selective) and still welcome strangers into my life. Some have become very good friends.

-Russell

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originally posted by mario_ragucci

heather, i do kid. i fooled around, then showed respect, but you want to see my downfall every time i post. just be cool! i have no reason to insult you, and have known you for some months now.

my mom was protective of me too. i grew up in a different time, and place; we are all unique people. love is greater than fear. lets halt this onslought of bad feelings, and, again, i am sorry to have poked fun at parenting methods in such a way as to cause folks here to become at odds with me. i don't even have kids. i'd love to have kids, and be a father, but first i have to find my mate, and we haven't met yet.

plus, i don't like seeing kids not allowed to be kids. that has nothing to do with your parenting abilities. i've posted in the past about my parents always being there for me, and how dropping kids off at day care can be seen as "not-so-pleasant" for the kids.

i just want to apologize, and i don't want you to be mad at me.

ok, mario...what have people posted that you interpret as they are not letting kids be kids? is it letting them be kids to risk them being abducted/raped/murdered????? dismembered? please, explain.....

disclaimer: i have "step" children only..none of my own...

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sunnygirl, what I mean is, kids should be able to go out and play. I am ashamed to admit that i base my experiences on my own, and that is becoming shameful of me. When I was a kid, I used to be able to go out and play with the other kids. This was back in the 70's, so please automatically feel sorry for me because I am admitting to be an old man.

To develop a sense of growth as a child to be left alone and to think. I love protective mothers, and I don't know where everyone lives. Kids need to be kids. Kids do their own thing and sometimes, like anyone, don't want somebody tailing them all the time.

I don't want to mention me again.

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Rustyhammer - My dad used to pick up hitch-hikers, with me in the car as a kid. I have been picked up hitch-hiking (mostly in europe and in the mid west, USA) but I am ashamed to admit i would not pick anyone up. Thats how scared I am. I pretty much am so hopelessly pedestrian I don't ride the car very much. My silly dumb life consists of work, sorry, and school.

I want to beat myself up publically now to get the forgiveness of Heather and to vow not to shoot off my mouth about topics that upset people.

Heather - I have NO SOCIAL life because I am scared and protective of myself. o I am admitting to being low down and cowardly. Guy my age should be a father and not be on these boards talking about it. Or I should be out bird-dogging women

and having fun. Instead, like a total loser and geek, I look up medical stuff, refuse to watch tv, and eat like a barn animal w/o any order to my life.

Heather - you have so much more in life with your son, and I deep down envy you and am jealous of you. I love myself, and thats all I have. YOU have another physical extention of you to hold and take care of the best you know how. And I can tell you do. I admit to being wrong and sarcastic/arrogant with my remarks and I hope you accept my apology, and i give you my word to not make fun of sensitive stuff. If I make fun, it only is a means to hide my own shame for my pathetic and lackluster life alone.

(Mario turns and cries and also accepts eternal silence from Heather if she can't forgive) (I am so sorry)

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