Job loss, domestic violence, help on advice for getting back on the horse!!!!!! - page 4

Hi everyone, I havent visited for a while because my life fell apart. The nursing home I was working for wasnt working out, My husband had back surgery two years ago and has been on oxycodone. ... Read More

  1. by   MsPiggy
    I totally understand your fears about losing everything financially but, if your DH is truly working a program of recovery & attending NA meetings daily and showing signs of being serious about recovery I guess you do what you gotta do, but remember I am biased I see this everyday at work so jaded as I am I think you are making a mistake but we all have to make our own mistakes. I've been there, it's hard to throw in the towel on a long term relationship. I'd be worried too how he will react to living with you but not being with you, If it were me I would be way to afraid things would escalate & get dangerous.
    Right now he should be focusing on recovery & you need to TCB,, I am trying to be gentle but I am so afraid for you right now. I wish you would put some more thinking into this with a cold clinical eye..The kids will be better off seeing mommy & daddy getting along in seperate houses rather than seeing things get scary again. Kristy, I just read your latest post after posting this, just wanted to add please be careful, any weirdness/ or feeling uncomfortable just take the kids & the pets & go. I hope this works out the way you want it too, but either way we are here for you.
    Last edit by MsPiggy on Apr 17, '07 : Reason: wanted to add.
  2. by   TazziRN
    Honest feedback? Don't do it. Don't let him back in unless and until the counseling has helped some. I know your intentions right now are to just let him back in and nothing more, but once you let him back it, if it gets bad again, it will be harder to get him out. Your child may be struggling and tryin to understand, but to have Daddy come back under the conditions that you set will confuse the poor kid even more. This will also give him a chance to lull you into a false sense of security. Not saying he would, just that he could.
  3. by   rnmomtobe2010
    You are in my prayers as well. I was in an abusive marriage not long ago and completing nursing school was not an option. I lost my financial aid and was put on academic probation. But with the power of prayer, I prayed that you know what out of my life. Now I am in another state with a wonderful and supportive husband, 2 beautiful kids and I finally recieved an acceptance letter today awarding me financial aid. Prayer changes things. Never give up. I thought about it, but everytime I look at those big 4 eyes staring back at me(my 2 babies), things get easier and easier. Good Liuck!!