Is it like this everywhere???

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Just reread this- sorry such a LONG post! God bless y'all.

Y2KRN

216 Posts

Hello Laura,

You have hit the nail on the head, as you know I have been many places and it is not really different anywhere I have been. Smaller places are more in tune to what is going on especially if people have been there a long time and feel someone else is getting a better deal and bigger places like where I am now are so frustrated because there is not help in sight. You can't win for losing.

You know I have always wanted a job that I can talk with my co-workers and feel part of a team. I think that is why I like the ED better than floor nursing (no offense) on the floor things are so busy at times there is no one else to help. In the ED there is usually someone to help, but there are always those who you will never find no matter how hard you try when you need them.

Unfortunately I have come to the conclusion that you have to just go in do your job the best you can come home and enjoy your family life. If there are serious injustices going on that are affecting you mental health then I would leave, if you are happy with your hours, your work load, and your patients and don't feel that someone is getting a better deal, then don't worry about what the others are saying. Yes, maybe your co-worker got better hours than some but, remember you got days right out of school. I am still working nights.

I would not feel that you can't go in and talk to others just let them know, I am not all that unsatisfied with my hours and the way things are running here if that is the case!

By the way give me a call, I am off this weekend and would like to go out to dinner this week with Granny M if you want!

Love,

Denise

MQ Edna

1 Article; 1,741 Posts

This coming weekend? The 27th and 28th? I'm working. :(

Y2KRN

216 Posts

Hey,

what about monday or tuesday?? Sha Sha is coming down for the week, Scott is picking her up in Winchester.

bellehill, RN

566 Posts

Specializes in Neuro Critical Care.

I have only been a nurse for about 10 mos but I totally agree with these posts. Our floor is going through a transition where we are chaning to a different floor, a few people at a time. This has totally split the teamwork that was evident on the floor. Now we have new people who haven't worked together and are constantly complaining. I can't stand complaining people, it doesn't solve anything!!! I was able to stay out of the politics until recently I have been schdeuled to be charge nurse. Now I am in the middle of everything that happens.

I disagree with people who keep track of everything. That will only make you more angry and it will drive you crazy. Just go to work and to a good job, don't worry about other people. You can't rely on your manager/coordinator to make things better either. I work night shift and I rarely see my manager or coordinator. Maybe that is the problem.

Thanks for the post, I am glad I am not the only one who feels this way.

trulytracie

4 Posts

I am sorry to say that if you get several women (and men) working together, there is always going to be the gossip, back stab BS. I have owned several businesses and I've seen it in every industry not just nursing. I work in a level III NICU with at least 75 on the payroll and it is a constant yap feast. I have the mind set of:

I love my job, I love my patients, I love being a nurse. I refuse to sit around and talk about personal issues, other people or irrelevant bologna. I do not listen or participate in any of the unprofessional and ugly behavior that may go on around me and I decide to mind my own business!

I am sorry to say that it doesn't matter if it is a large hospital or small the tune will be the same. It is the managers job to nip this problem in the bud. My advice is to go to work, do your job, cut the bad mouths off, and Be Happy!:p

susanmary

656 Posts

I work in a 24-bed med-surg/tele unit in a 900+ bed urban hospital. My unit has the best retention of staff in the hospital

despite the high acuity/stressors of the unit. Very few people quit. I work with a great, supportive group of nurses, aides, and secretaries. We work together; it's common to have your peer pitch in to help you when their assignment is "completed" -- vise-versa. We treat each other with respect and humor. Don't have to get along/agree in every situation -- but there is consistent teamwork and support among staff. Minimal backstabbing -- we just don't tolerate it -- we hold ourselves and others accountable. Life is just too short for pettiness. I don't dish out crap -- I don't take it, either. If someone is having an especially stressful/PMS day -- we offer to help/pitch in.

Have two coffee machines -- one with coffee and one for tea & I'm given an allowance (by management) to buy coffee/tea for the floor -- there are always pots brewing. We have Sunday brunch where many of us bring in something -- even if we only have a few minutes to eat, there is usually a crock pot going along with a variety of food.

The reason I've stayed at my position for a long time is the staff -- I work with a great group. Unfortunately, forced floating will ultimately be the catalyst for many to leave....there will be a domino effect, I fear. Oh well.

Good thoughts out to all of you. Sue

micro, RN

1,173 Posts

Sue, thanks for the reminder that we are mainly all great folks out there.....and it is within our control.....our daily work environments..........

CEN35

1,091 Posts

Specializes in ER, PACU, OR.

it is not like that everywhere.

i have worked doing a lot of different things, electrical, plumming, landscaping, construction, and for nissan/ford for a while, shipping...you name it. any job can have back-stabbers and people that want to stir the pot. :eek: just like any job can have a bunch of great people to work together!! :D

i have been in the same job for almost 6 years now. there have been time periods when it has been great!!! everybody got along, and everybody helped each other, and nobody caused a problem.

there have also been times when there is always someone complaining, and whining about somebody or something else.

the problem is that it only takes one or two people to stir the pot. it takes a whole group of adults who like helping and working with each other, to make something work well!

so figure if your job (whatever it may be), has 10 people on it, it takes 10 good people to make it work well. it only takes 1 bad apple to make things miserable. so no matter where you go, or what you do the odds are in favor of some turmoil being caused by somebody.

just my 2 cents

me :)

mattsmom81

4,516 Posts

originally posted by cen35

it is not like that everywhere.

the problem is that it only takes one or two people to stir the pot. it takes a whole group of adults who like helping and working with each other, to make something work well!

just my 2 cents

me :)

so true!! sometimes it's easier for an exhausted bunch of workers to deteriorate into pettiness...than to put more energy into teamwork.

has anybody mentioned how petty groups of docs can get within their group of partners? i see them 'set up' the next guy on call, dump on another partners, even badmouth each other to the staff!! my last job i loved the nurses i worked with in general...the docs were a whole 'nuther story! lol!

RoaminHankRN

106 Posts

Specializes in ED, House Supervisor, IT.

Why don't you print these threads and post them at work so the one(s) that cause the problem can see what a$$es they are.

It seems on most discussion forums that the problem people never opine?

Hank

MQ Edna

1 Article; 1,741 Posts

LOL You have a point there, Hank! Boy, wouldn't they all freak out if I did that!

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