i wholeheartedly agree, that public perception is everything.
anyone working in hospice, is fully aware of its philosophies and endeavors.
yet, inevitably, it is still perceived as a death sentence.
and living in a society where death is staunchly relegated to a dreaded finality, it's no wonder there is such ambivalence about its services.
dang, just being a hospice nurse, i do not have the privilege of venting on this bb or talking about my day w/my husband.
afterall, no one wants to hear about the gore, the pain/suffering, that frequently comprise many of these very sick people.
but this is what i experience, working in an inpt facility.
the paradox is, that as much as people want to disregard the reality of death and dying, it is these very same people, who are most awestruck and affected, when actually having an experience w/hospice.
no one wants to think about it, no less talk about it.
yet, whenever the subject of a death arises, it attracts scores of interested lurkers.
even though many hospices have not expanded their scope of practice, i do embrace the umbrella concept of palliative care.
even though one can be in the end stage of their disease process, they can still opt for life-prolonging interventions.
hospice would not allow that.
so, in order to agree to hospice services, one truly needs to be certain that they have had enough, and any further tx would only serve to be futile and invasive.
so yeah, i do agree w/you RN, that it is terribly stigmatized, even though i find it a most precious option.
a darned good hospice service, can and will be the difference between living miserably or dying well.
just like nsg, hospice needs to change its image, in hopes of attracting a much more appreciative, respectful and informed audience.
once we, as a society, can start accepting death just as much as we embrace life, then we will be headed in the right direction.
in order for us to even begin such a journey, we need to stop obsessing over remaining eternally young, beautiful and immortal.
we need to truly honor the elderly amongst us, recognizing the journey they've taken, and learning from their wisdom:
also acknowledging they will soon, be continuing their journeys elsewhere.
we just can't be afraid of aging, getting old and the inevitable outcome.
plastic surgery and other quick fixes, only serve to sugarcoat the lies.
once we can become more honest w/ourselves, this will enable us to seek other meaningful truths.
and one of the inescapable truths is, that earth is only temporary.
no getting around it.
when we 100% acknowledge and accept this, we can help ourselves and ea other, in making our departures, much less dreaded, and more complete.
afterall, we are deserving of that much.
wouldn't you say?