I really need some insight. Maybe just someone to say suck it up.

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So I think I need some insight, opinions, advice, something... maybe even just someone to say suck it up and do whats going to work for you. I don't know. I know what I "need" to do I guess I just need to talk about it. I currently work as a Medical Assistant 3 days a week in a town about 25 minutes from my house (only 12 miles but it is all backroads). It pays average for an un-certified medical assistant I suppose, it is $12/Hour. And I live at home so I don't pay rent. But I definately have credit cards I have to pay off, a car loan I pay monthly, a phone bill each month, gas expenses, etc etc. I start NS in almost exactly a year, and I want to pay off my car ($6,500 left) and my 2 credit cards before that point. I want to be as comfortable as possible when the time comes.

Well this doctor that I work for runs her own practice. It is small. It is just her and I, the other MA, a medical biller and a receptionist. I have only been working here for about a month and a half. The doctor asked me at the time of the interview if I was ok with working part-time, she checked with me several times and I kept saying yes because I figured I would just find a 2nd part-time job to fill in. Well, almost 2 months later and I can't find a 2nd job and am barely BARELY paying bills. I can't just ask for more hours because the Dr. only works on the days I am there, she doesnt work the other days so there is nothing for me to do.

I guess I just feel horrible because I haven't been there long and I said it was ok that it was only part-time. I don't want her or anyone at the practice to think this is personal... especially the Dr. I feel extremely guilty and I'm a little afraid they are all going to hate me if/when I put in my two weeks and those last 6 days are going to be hell. My dad and step-mom are really pressuring me to quit and find a full-time job at a hospital, clinic, etc. I have been applying for jobs at hospitals but until this morning I was applying for per-diem. Should I just apply for full-time jobs until I land one and then put in 2 weeks at my current job?

I have always been the one that was more worried about what others were going to say/do/think of me when I put in notice that I'm leaving and not enough about how I feel and what is best for me. I know this but I just feel so horrible. :/

It feels so much better to get it out. Any advice would really be appreciated, I don't even know where to start with this mess.

hey! It happens dont feel bad=) Sometimes things dont work out and you need to do what is best for you. I would just be honest and say that you really do need more hours and this is just not working for you. If you are honest than you can walk away with that. Gl

Specializes in Forensics, Trauma, Pediatrics,.

Your right. I just feel so bad. I'm already in tears sitting here on my computer, I don't know what I'm going to do when I have to type and letter and then tell my Dr. in person. I'm going to be a huge mess. :(

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From my point of view and experience, Never give a .... about your employer when it is time, just put in your 2 weeks notes . try to get a full time job first and then do that. I used to feel just like you then

I lerand that once you gone some one else will take your place and they will never ever miss you. Think about your self only. Job is a Job nothing less nothing more. after a couple month they will forget your name!

Specializes in ED.

Sounds like you came up with the solution already, either find another part time job or find another job period. Sounds like the work environment is good though right? If it were me, and I was living at home getting ready to start NS and didn't have the kids, I would keep this job and find another to fill in for the next year, so that I would have the option of only working one part time job when school starts.

Don't worry about what others will say or do, its all buisness and they understand. I have the same difficulty with confusing buisness and personal feelings. It all works out in the end and you have to do whats right for you.

Specializes in Acute Care Cardiac, Education, Prof Practice.

Have you thought about supplementing your income with waitressing? I waitressed for over seven years (and supported my schooling with it) and it was amazing how many instructors told me that waitressing was a great prep for nursing. Managing a team of 5-7 tables, anticipating needs and fielding complaints and expectations at the same time.

Just food for thought. :)

Best of luck!

Tait

Once you have a new job, just let the doctor know you really appreciate working for her and the only reason you are leaving is because you need more hours. I doubt she'll hate you. She will find someone to replace you fairly easily in this market, I'm sure.

Specializes in ED.
Your right. I just feel so bad. I'm already in tears sitting here on my computer, I don't know what I'm going to do when I have to type and letter and then tell my Dr. in person. I'm going to be a huge mess. :(

If you're going to quit, then type out a letter and hand it to her in person. Tell her thank you for hiring me, thank her for great experiences working there (what ever they may be), and don't be afraid to ask for references.

Specializes in Forensics, Trauma, Pediatrics,.
Sounds like you came up with the solution already, either find another part time job or find another job period. Sounds like the work environment is good though right? If it were me, and I was living at home getting ready to start NS and didn't have the kids, I would keep this job and find another to fill in for the next year, so that I would have the option of only working one part time job when school starts.

Don't worry about what others will say or do, its all buisness and they understand. I have the same difficulty with confusing buisness and personal feelings. It all works out in the end and you have to do whats right for you.

Well see the part that makes it so "I have to do this right now" is that I am not going to work while I'm in school. Since my dad is being an amazing man and letting me stay at home while I'm in school, I am going to try to pay twice the amount of my car payment every month until next August and it will just barely pay off the rest of my car loan. I'm going to pay off my credit cards as well, by next August. I'm then going to downgrade my phone (I have a blackberry) so I pay less each month. Then, 2 weeks before school next Sept. I'm going to give 2 weeks at all jobs I'm working at at the time and just go to school. It is a teaching hospital that has a nursing school and they said at my interview they only hire their students for the hospital for the most part. So I may work there like 10 or 14 hours a week for pocket money during school. But that is why I'm in such a hurry because I have to find a job that can help me pay these things off. It's just so stressful. :confused:

Specializes in Forensics, Trauma, Pediatrics,.
Have you thought about supplementing your income with waitressing? I waitressed for over seven years (and supported my schooling with it) and it was amazing how many instructors told me that waitressing was a great prep for nursing. Managing a team of 5-7 tables, anticipating needs and fielding complaints and expectations at the same time.

Just food for thought. :)

Best of luck!

Tait

You know, I have thought about it, but I guess I'm just nervous because my whole life has been medical field and I guess I could say in a way it's all I know and all I am used to. When I was 14 I was lifeguard, when I was 15 and 16 I did homecare, when I was 17 I was a "candy striper" at our community hospital (a CNA that does companion work more than CNA work) and when I was 18 I started my CNA. Maybe I should try waitressing... I will look into it, thankyou for the idea!

Specializes in Forensics, Trauma, Pediatrics,.
Once you have a new job, just let the doctor know you really appreciate working for her and the only reason you are leaving is because you need more hours. I doubt she'll hate you. She will find someone to replace you fairly easily in this market, I'm sure.

That is exactly what I am trying to get myself to remember. People tell me all the time that I expect the very worst, and I totally do. I am a very emotional person when it comes to feeling bad for others and I always think about "what are they going to think?" " are they going to be mad?" "they are going to ignore me for my last 2 weeks because I'm leaving anyway!" Things like this eat me up when I know I have to make a change, it's a crazy tornado in my head!

Specializes in Forensics, Trauma, Pediatrics,.
If you're going to quit, then type out a letter and hand it to her in person. Tell her thank you for hiring me, thank her for great experiences working there (what ever they may be), and don't be afraid to ask for references.

I definately will type out a letter! I just have a hard time when it comes to parting ways, but especially in this situation because it is a much smaller office and everyone becomes very close, if you know what I mean. It seemed so much easier when I was at the long-term care facility and I turned in the letter to the human resources office and just got taken off the schedule and replaced with "one of the 7-3 girls". This just seems so much harder.

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