Hospital Love Stories ! ! !

Cute_CNA, CNA · Dec 16, 2005

what am i supposed to say???
im just a student and i feel i kinda like this particular ortho resident in the hopital where our school affiliates. he's married so he's out of bounds. but i dont know, he's just so kind and i cant help it but be attracted to him.
i guess he's not stupid and he knows im onto him but he's very mature about it. he doesn't take advantage or anything of the sort, he just treats me like how im supposed to be treated!!!

As others have emphasized, he's MARRIED, meaning there's no way you should even go near him, seriously. Severely limit the time you spend around him.

I guess it's hard not to let your feelings come through when you like someone, huh. Feelings are not the best thing to make decisions with, though. Use your head! If he were your husband, would you want someone ELSE showing interest in him? Probably not. It sounds like he is good at keeping a professional distance. Besides, and I'm not trying to be mean, if he hasn't responded in any way by now, he's probably not interested. If he is, he knows better than to act on such things.

kersti · Dec 16, 2005

I met my husband at nursing school. He was one year ahead of me and it was love, (at least for him:rotfl:) at first sight.

Now, 13 years and two children later, I am still in love with him and he with me. We are embarking on a new journey of moving to the United States next year and I'm praying that our love will survive that as intact as ever!

Corvette Guy · Dec 17, 2005

Key words: HE'S MARRIED
You shouldn't even be giving him signals to make him even think you're attracted to him. Yes, you can think anyone is nice looking and nice, but to give signals is a NO NO!

:yelclap:

Corvette Guy · Dec 17, 2005

As others have emphasized, he's MARRIED, meaning there's no way you should even go near him, seriously. Severely limit the time you spend around him.
I guess it's hard not to let your feelings come through when you like someone, huh. Feelings are not the best thing to make decisions with, though. Use your head! If he were your husband, would you want someone ELSE showing interest in him? Probably not. It sounds like he is good at keeping a professional distance. Besides, and I'm not trying to be mean, if he hasn't responded in any way by now, he's probably not interested. If he is, he knows better than to act on such things.

If he has noticed her attraction towards him I hope he remains faithful to his wife, yet flattered and professional at work.

MMARN, BSN, RN · Dec 17, 2005

Key words: HE'S MARRIED
You shouldn't even be giving him signals to make him even think you're attracted to him. Yes, you can think anyone is nice looking and nice, but to give signals is a NO NO!

:yeah: :thankya: :yeahthat: :redlight: :redlight: :redlight: NOT A GOOD IDEA!!! HE'S MARRIED. DON'T BECOME A HOMEWRECKER. YOU HAVE BETTER THINGS GOING FOR YOU. Be professional and always remember that he has a family. I've been through my father being unfaithful to my mother and IT IS NOT FUN!!! Look elsewhere. There are plenty of available fish in the sea.

Cute_CNA, CNA · Dec 17, 2005

:thankya: :yeahthat: :redlight: :redlight: :redlight: NOT A GOOD IDEA!!! HE'S MARRIED. DON'T BECOME A HOMEWRECKER. YOU HAVE BETTER THINGS GOING FOR YOU. Be professional and always remember that he has a family. I've been through my father being unfaithful to my mother and IT IS NOT FUN!!! Look elsewhere. There are plenty of available fish in the sea.

About that word, homewrecker... it takes more than one person to wreck a home.

NPAlby · Dec 17, 2005

Neri,

Girl, I've been in your shoes. This past summer to be exact. An attending, I had to work very closely with for a few weeks while the regular ward nurse was on vaca (small psych hospital). I got all the clues that he was into me. And with my aggressive nature it was difficult not to pounce on him. I would have to call my best friend frequently to remind me not to do anything stupid. The thing is he was getting married (which he barely spoke of ever even though we used have frequent long chats). Whatever the deal with him (married, engaged, gay whatever) I knew if anything was going to happen it would end up in drama. Drama at the work place is the worst. I was in the Navy on a ship so I've been through more than my fair share. Annoying at 18. Damaging to your career once you're a professional with a license and a reputation to protect. Others here have mentioned being a homewrecker. Don't wreck your own career before it even starts. Believe me you will meet plenty of hot residents!

NPAlby · Dec 17, 2005

Oh and by the way for those posters that don't want this to be a negative thread. I just wrote the above b/c I had a similiar situation. I can understand how difficult it is to stay away from temptation.

But I'm still a romantic. I will probably meet my future husband at one of the hospitals (I'm a traveler). I don't have much of a social life and work crazy amount of hours sometimes. Plus I want someone who understands when I say I had a tough day what that really means. Anyway, keep the inspiring stories coming! Gives me hope that I won't end up alone with my cat and candles.

Havin' A Party!, ASN, RN · Dec 17, 2005

... he's married so he's out of bounds...

Unlike some of the other opinions posted, think you can be friendly and professional.

Good luck!

Havin' A Party!, ASN, RN · Dec 17, 2005

About that word, homewrecker... it takes more than one person to wreck a home.

Right on!

Corvette Guy · Dec 17, 2005

About that word, homewrecker... it takes more than one person to wreck a home.

True that, however just like it takes two to dance... one has to lead & the other follows. Plus, if one party is single, and the other is married [the proverbial established home] thus the single party is labeled the homewrecker. Nonetheless, both parties are responsible for any infidelity.

Like I mentioned before, the fella should be flattered, and leave it at that. BTW, we should not be too hard on the OP since she was open with her feelings on the Msg Brd here.

MMARN, BSN, RN · Dec 17, 2005

About that word, homewrecker... it takes more than one person to wreck a home.

You are absolutely right. However, don't be a part of it. I'm sorry if I offended you. I didn't mean to. I was just saying that I've been through it. This thread is positive. I don't want to begin a debate. I'm sorry again. Just posting my thoughts.:wink2:

Mave.