Hey Bipley.....

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Just wondering how breakfast with your co-worker went...thinking of you both.

:balloons:

Mary Ann is right! Sadly, my rainy day Saturday has been reduced to checking allnurses throughout the day to see if Bipley shall tell us the story of Waffle House/Smelly saga!

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Mary Ann is right! Sadly, my rainy day Saturday has been reduced to checking allnurses throughout the day to see if Bipley shall tell us the story of Waffle House/Smelly saga!

Haha so have I :p I can't wait to read what happened!

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Okay, here is what happened:

When I first approached her about a private chat she was quite upset and unusually defensive. I merely stated that I wanted to chit chat about stuff going on in the hospital. I was thinking about the mean way she has been treated at work and come to think of it, I suspect she considered the same.

We agreed to breakfast at Denny's (not Waffle House!) and we met yesterday AM. She kept asking what this was to be regarding, I kept telling her it was female chit chat. In my heart, I think she knew.

I reminded her about my extra special sensitive nose (Chocolate Chip Cookies, anyone?) and then I referred to a specific scent I had noticed around the floor. At that point she became unnecessarily defensive and asked my point.

Living with a psychiatrist for 17 years FINALLY came of use! I asked what she meant by that statement??

She was angry and said that any unusual odor was blamed on her by ALL the nurses on the floor. I reminded her that I have never made any such comment, nor would I. She asked me my point. At that time, I could have really used Evil B's suggestions. (The psychiatrist)

I held my ground and reminded her that the odor was indeed from her. I was being ME. I quickly realized I needed to be someone else, my way is too harsh. I needed to be someone else. I put my hand on hers and said that I understood the issue at hand. Please.... let me help! I could not have possibly been more sincere. I meant it with all my heart.

She continued to deny the odor blaming pettiness on the part of other nurses. I just looked at her the way I look at my patients. I really felt sorry for her. I refused to admit the pettiness of nurses we work with.

I didn't say a word, I just put my hand on hers and refused to say I was too, petty.

She finally admitted there is a problem and she will just have to quit her employment and deal with the issues that follow.

That is when the "mutual" discussion really started. I told her I would deal with the "other" nurses while she dealt with her own issues. I did print out links and assorted info posted on the "other" thread. I told her of my own research. I told her I didn't know what the problem was, but I would hang in there through the long haul. I asked her to give me the opportunity to deal with others and she could focus on her own cure.

In the end, things were good. They didn't start out good, but following the scripts of others, things worked out well.

We worked together today. She approached ME (consider that!!!) and said that she had been to a doc in the past and he didn't see (smell) the problem. I told her I would help in ANY way possible. Not sure, but I think I'm going to her next GYN appt. Honestly, I don't mind! I'll do anything, anything to help her.

I also told her of my own research. She told me that wasn't the issue. I didn't question her, she'll tell me her efforts when she is ready. It doesn't feel right to push.

Soooo, that is what has happened. Sorry I didn't log on sooner.

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I say make all the disbelievers wait in anticipation!:rotfl:

I just realized something. THIS thread is the first thing that has made me laugh in two days!

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Mary Ann is right! Sadly, my rainy day Saturday has been reduced to checking allnurses throughout the day to see if Bipley shall tell us the story of Waffle House/Smelly saga!

Oh holy crap, now I am really laughing for the first time since I started fretting over this.

Of course, ya'll know that her next move, I will be totally unprepared for and I will have to consult you guys before I have the slightest clue how to respond!

Can you see it? She'll approach me, she'll say "X" (any "X" will do") and I'll have to have her wait until I can post the scenario on my nursing board FIRST so I might have a freak'en clue how to respond!

This is baaaaaaaaad!

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Haha so have I :p I can't wait to read what happened!

Shall I remind everyone that I REALLY did not start this convo out with, "Girl, you REALLY stink!"

:)

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Specializes in LTC.
Oh holy crap, now I am really laughing for the first time since I started fretting over this.

Of course, ya'll know that her next movement will be totally unprepared for and I will have to consult you guys before I have the slightest clue how to respond!

Can you see it? She'll approach me, she'll say "X" (any "X" will do") and I'll have to have her wait until I can post the scenario on my nursing board FIRST so I might have a freak'en clue how to respond!

This is baaaaaaaaad!

OMG :rotfl:

Hey, I'm so happy that things ended on a positive note. Bless both your hearts.

:loveya:

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Specializes in Critical Care, Pediatrics, Geriatrics.

I think you did the best you could have done, considering the sensitive nature of the topic. It is natural for her to initially be in denial and angry. I think you opened a door for her. She now has someone to confide in and to help her with her problem. Brava, Bipley!

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Specializes in LTC.

Might I suggest (don't flame me, Tweetie :rotfl: ) that you suggest to her a female GYN? Holy crap is right, I'm picturing those old Massengil commercials..."Mom, do you ever get that not so fresh feeling?" Oh, nevermind. :stone

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OMG :rotfl:

Hey, I'm so happy that things ended on a positive note. Bless both your hearts.

:loveya:

Oh crap!!! You quoted me before I edited my post! I wasn't talking about her "movements" but instead, her next move. LOL

This is embarrassing! LOL

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Specializes in Critical Care, Pediatrics, Geriatrics.

(in an announcer like tone) Congratulations! You heard it FIRST....HERE, on allnurses.com. The stink has come to an end. Our hero, Bipley, has officially solved the mystery of the smelly coworker (the crowd screams.....):rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

ok.......perhaps in poor taste, but i couldn't resist. Laughter is the best medicine

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Specializes in LTC.

:roll :roll :roll

OMG yer BOTH killing me!!!!!!! On that note, I really am going to bed this time LMAO.

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