feel guilty not contributing - page 2
We had this nurse retire last year, this year she came on hard times and our floor took up a collection for Christmas. No specifics on what was wrong which I appriciated the confidentiality of the... Read More
Dec 21, '06Occupation: Hospital Education Coordinator and adjunct nursing faculty From: US ; Joined: Jun '06; Posts: 7,376; Likes: 7,102If she were really having a hard time one gift would not make a significant differance anyway. Imean, the only difference it can make is to YOU.So give where your heart is.
Dec 21, '06Joined: Jan '06; Posts: 1,974; Likes: 7,576To give or not to give is an individual choice. If you really don't want to , don't. If you feel you should for your own conscience, give a token contribuition - $2, $5, something small. You can say that you contibuted, yet are still true to your own conscience.
Dec 21, '06Joined: Feb '06; Posts: 127; Likes: 19Thanks you all, because of all your comments I just sent out a second check to the St. Judes Hospital in this nurses name.
Merry Christmas to all.
Dec 21, '06Occupation: Staff nurse From: US ; Joined: Jul '05; Posts: 1,335; Likes: 817...or something, like a small fruit or non-perishable basket or some veggies from your garden. And pray for her situation, as one mentioned, maybe the Lord is allowing her to go thru a bad time to help her reflect on things.
...but you don't have to answer to anyone but God and yourself!
...I used to get a hassle coz I don't give to United Way, coz management wanted 100% participation. The fact that our family gives anonymously to others and to organizations wasn't enough, hahaha! Don't give out of guilt.
Dec 21, '06Joined: Oct '06; Posts: 1,256; Likes: 66If you are feeling guilty, give money to starving children. I don't see why you should feel obligated to anyone at work, other than being a helpful and willing coworker. Why should you give money to someone who gave you grief? Yes, you can work on forgiveness (from a distance as someone said), but that needn't entail forking over hard earned cash.
Dec 22, '06Joined: Mar '06; Posts: 24; Likes: 17I am so glad that I work in a place that has strict "No Solicitation" rules. I wish it was this way everywhere. People do feel guilty about not contributing, even if they can't afford to do so. A couple of dollars here and a couple of dollars there, doesn't seem like that much money---until you start adding it all together. I have worked in places in the past, where it seemed like somebody was holding their hand out several times a week. One time (at a previous employment) I was hit up for money, four different times for four different people, in an eight hour shift! These people all worked in another department, and I didn't know any of them! That was an expensive night for me! But I was young, and didn't want to create hard feelings. It's hard to say "no" to people, especially this time of year. But I found that if I gave to every "hardship case" then it wouldn't be too long, before I became a "hardship case", myself.
Don't feel guilty. You have to think about yourself, too!