Hello. I'm wondering if any of you have ever broken the cycle of alcohol abuse before it broke you. I am a 30 year old senior nursing student, about to graduate at the end of the year and I have a serious drinking problem that no one knows about. I have maintained a 4.0 in nursing school, while working 30 hrs a week to pay the bills. I have never drank before or during class or clinicals. Still, quite often, when I don't have anything critically important to do the next morning, I find myself putting away a 6-pack a night (or however much beer happens to be in the house). Each morning after I tell myself I am going to quit, but by the time evening rolls around I am able to convince myself that I will have "just one beer with dinner."
Yes, most of the important people in my life have witnessed me doing stupid things while drunk, but that is so common among my circle of family and friends that they have been willing to let it go. I am pretty good at appearing functional and really bad at asking for help.
If I don't break this pattern, I know that someday, somewhere, I will screw up in a way that I can not fix. There have been times where I was able to stop drinking entirely for several weeks or months, so it feels like this is something I should be able to deal with on my own. All of the treatment options I am aware of involve admitting you have a problem and forever abstaining from alcohol. That is a lot to commit to. I set up an appointment with a counselor through the hospital's employee assistance program, and later cancelled it because I couldn't deal with the idea of being forever saddled with the label of "alcoholic", and never being able to enjoy a drink with my family or friends.
I have kind of family that is so supportive, they would probably stop serving alcohol at family gatherings altogether, if they knew I had a problem. Many of you will see that as a good thing, and I probably would too, if I was viewing the situation as an objective observer. That doesn't mean that I wouldn't feel bad if they chose to forgo a glass of wine with dinner, for my sake. Most of them are able to drink in a healthy manner (one or two glasses of beer or wine with a meal). While I have had occasional slip-ups, I have basically learned to drink in a healthy, responsible way in social settings. I know that I can stop drinking after one or two drinks. It just doesn't happen often when I am home alone with a full 6-pack.
I'm wondering if anyone has been able to conquer this problem through non-traditional means. I want help and I want to change, but I haven't been able to bring myself to making the very public commitment that involves. The thought of never having another drink is something I can deal with, but the idea of forever having the label of "alcoholic" as part of my identity is not. Honestly, who wants to be known as the alcoholic nurse?
Any ideas/suggestions?
There must be someone who is able to identify as this is a problem that is so deeply embedded in our culture. I have encountered more heavy drinkers among the faculty, students, and staff at the academic medical center where I work than I have in any other place in my life. I've never heard anyone acknowledge this, other than jokingly or in stories, and I have not had the guts to talk about it either.