Divorce And Affairs????

reddixon · Apr 20, 2002

I doubt if it is a trend in nursing--it is just a trend in the world at large. I think since women are out there working and able to be self sufficient they have more opportunity to leave a relationship if they are unhappy and many men are still threatened by a woman being financially independant. I think suvival depends more on the relationship than on the careers of the people involved. My husband and I are doing great. I am a night shift nurse and he took a job in his career as a night shift worker too to our schedules would be similar. Even when he was a day worker though, I work 3-4 twelve hour shifts a week so we still had the rest of the week together. things can always be worked out but I would sure discuss all the potential problems in advance so you are prepared for them. Good luck.

shay · Apr 20, 2002

I know lots of nurses who are divorced, however, it isn't related to their careers so much as it's related to the SLIMEBALLS they married!!!

I do think that these women had that codependent thing going on when they married these guys, then got over it and kicked them to the curb.

I personally have seen my marriage grow stronger because of my career. Hubby very supportive, lets me cry on his shoulder after a bad day, understands if my body is throbbing in pain too much to clean the house. He is a darling and a true gem. But then again, I knew that, which is why I SNAPPED HIM UP!! :)

I dunno....I'm with the crowd that thinks it's not the career, it's the man/woman these nurses are married to that 'stresses' the marriage and makes it break up.

OBNURSEHEATHER · Apr 20, 2002

Originally posted by shay
I know lots of nurses who are divorced, however, it isn't related to their careers so much as it's related to the SLIMEBALLS they married!!!

I believe it's the caretaker in all of us (nurses). Gotta go find ourselves someone we can fix, nurture, and take care of.

Heather

prn nurse · Apr 20, 2002

I find them boring. And pedantic. And neurotic. Two egoists who've created alter-ego scribes to enable them to enlighten the rest of us of their every unchecked thought.

Mar: Were you trying to describe "Rites of Passage?"

The very best line on this thread is the one about M & M in bed , screeching out their own names !!!!!! Good Shot !

micro, RN · Apr 20, 2002

like I really care.....

I am what I am

i thread how i want and have from the start.....

i ain't perfect and you ain't either.......

and i ain't thirdpersonning here either.....but i can and i will again.....

will PM this also.....

micro is micro because.......check out the threads i have not been quiet about it.....

prn nurse is prn nurse because ________chooses not to use real name on threads........that is k' by me.....(wait was that third person) :p micro

and so in closing as micro has frankly seen enough of this boring, pedantic, neurotic behaviors of those that do not allow for any differences in others.................

but if any of you please find micro's writings boring, pedantic, egocentrical, eccentric, neurotic or anything else that goes against your palate.........please press ignore and never and micro means never read anything posted from micro again.........

but quit dissing me all over the threads...........it is not cool.........

a diss is a diss.............:chuckle :chuckle :devil: :imbar :roll :roll :roll

kids · Apr 20, 2002

While I genuinely like both M & M, and do at times find their outlooks refreshing...I do enjoy being made to 'think' now and then...

But...

Anymore I just skim their posts for relevance and move on.

micro, RN · Apr 21, 2002

Originally posted by micro
I am what I am
i thread how i want and have from the start.....
i ain't perfect and you ain't either.......
and i ain't thirdpersonning...but i can and i will again.....
will PM this also.....
micro is micro because.......check out the threads i have not been quiet about it.....
prn nurse is prn nurse because ________chooses not to use real name on threads........that is k' by me.....(wait was that third person)
and so in closing as micro has frankly seen enough of this boring, pedantic, neurotic behaviors of those that do not allow for any differences in others.................
but if any of you please find micro's writings boring, pedantic, egocentrical, eccentric, neurotic or anything else that goes against your palate.........please press ignore and never and micro means never read anything posted from micro again.........
but quit dissing me all over the threads...........it is not cool.........
a diss is a diss............

kids-r-fun...........or something like that:pand to all this will also be PM'd.............

like get a clue........................

come on folks...........we are all on this earth together..........

this is the same kind of intellect that we deal with on the floor when we talk about nurses eating their young, old, males, females and each other............

and I repeat..........kids-r-fun..........this will be PM'd to you

micro:kiss :blushkiss :roll :roll :roll :stone

nursesteph · Apr 21, 2002

This has been a fun read! I guess I'm lucky, I was already with my last husband when I went back to school. He was & is very supportive, so are my kids, his daughter too for that matter. I was awfully proud of myself when I graduated, but he threw me a party, had my diploma framed, & put an ad in the paper. Too sweet. But then he told my dad he was gonna retire earoy & let me support him for a change, too funny, he still works 24/7.

hapeewendy · Apr 21, 2002

leave m and m alone already

if you dont like what they have to say or the way they say it , dont bother responding

dont get petty and start slamming them because their posts dont "interest you" or they "bore you"

I'm annoyed by some people on here, but they dont know it because I dont let them know it, I just dont bother to respond to what they type or I just skim their entries and thats the end of it..

we all annoy someone , I sure as heck know that I annoy people on here from time to time (they have been kind enough to tell me so, thanks guys!)

but thats human nature.....

some people you dig

some people you dont

thats the nice thing about this board, you can ignore the people that mmmmm rub you the wrong way

it really puts the need for namecalling and belittling out the window.....

adopt the mantra "if theyre a bore, hit ignore"

cheers

and just because I happen to enjoy mario and micro

doesnt mean I'm defending them becuase I also happen to enjoy kids-r-fun and prn nurse from time to time! :)

hapeewendy · Apr 21, 2002

oh and actually on this topic.....relationships and stuff.... I'm not married, and nursing school/working in the field has put a strain on my relationships dating wise...

the logistical stuff like hours, and fatigue and the emotional stuff with nursing isnt a turn on for 20-30 something males. I guess theyre still stuck on the nurse in a tight white uniform with 6 inch heels and her breasts popping out type image

so obviously when I show up at home with my scrubs,white nikes, covered in various stains ranging from the black pen that exploded in my pocket to the pureed peas that a patient with surprisingly good aim threw at me, I guess its a disappointment for the boyfriend types .....

but I think I do okay

I'm not complaining

I'll make someone a great *undomesticated* wife someday...

cheers

micro, RN · Apr 21, 2002

Now I am expressing myself in complete sentences with twofold thoughts and a 'little tongue in cheek'.

This is one of the m's.....hey m&m ;-)

oh, no.....slipped out of complete sentence form.....omg......QUICK ALL HIT IGNORE.........

Now back to the subject at hand.........divorce and affairs.........

I feel that nursing, health care and this crazy field that we find ourselves in is no more or less conducive to such things than other areas of life. Many valid points brought up about supportive s.o.'s during school and nonsupportive s.o.'s. during school......this and other such situations can be a make it or break it situation.........life is a journey.

Sorry for incomplete sentences.........tongue back in cheek.....

please love happeewendy suggestion.......they a bore, hit ignore

micro talks in third person now and answers self also

goodday xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxooxoxox

NOUGH SAID DON'T DISS ME AND I WON'T MISS YOU!!!!!

:cool: :kiss :blushkiss :zzzzz :cool: happeewendy you are going to make somebody a great UNDOMESTICATED WIFE some day

Albirdie · Apr 22, 2002

I am currently in college working on BSN. My husband is very supportive. We have two children, and it does get hectic sometimes. You just have to roll with it. Don't forget to make time for each other. There will be times when you think your head is going to explode........it won't. You are going to be fine. When you start to get stressed out ask your kids and husband for a hug instead of taking the stress out on them. This can be a very motivating factor. As far as after you start working, well it is all just an adjustment. I have several friends that are RN's and they are all still happily married and have said that it is just an adjustment in the beginning. They also said that once their family adjusted everything just seemed normal again. I hope that is true!!! Good Luck in school.