Divorce And Affairs???? - page 8

I was wondering all of you nurses out there, does it seem that your relationship is stressed being in this field? I have read many topics having to do with divorce here and was wondering if this is a... Read More

  1. by   nursesteph
    This has been a fun read! I guess I'm lucky, I was already with my last husband when I went back to school. He was & is very supportive, so are my kids, his daughter too for that matter. I was awfully proud of myself when I graduated, but he threw me a party, had my diploma framed, & put an ad in the paper. Too sweet. But then he told my dad he was gonna retire earoy & let me support him for a change, too funny, he still works 24/7.
  2. by   hapeewendy
    leave m and m alone already
    if you dont like what they have to say or the way they say it , dont bother responding
    dont get petty and start slamming them because their posts dont "interest you" or they "bore you"
    I'm annoyed by some people on here, but they dont know it because I dont let them know it, I just dont bother to respond to what they type or I just skim their entries and thats the end of it..

    we all annoy someone , I sure as heck know that I annoy people on here from time to time (they have been kind enough to tell me so, thanks guys!)

    but thats human nature.....
    some people you dig
    some people you dont

    thats the nice thing about this board, you can ignore the people that mmmmm rub you the wrong way
    it really puts the need for namecalling and belittling out the window.....

    adopt the mantra "if theyre a bore, hit ignore"


    and just because I happen to enjoy mario and micro
    doesnt mean I'm defending them becuase I also happen to enjoy kids-r-fun and prn nurse from time to time!
  3. by   hapeewendy
    oh and actually on this topic.....relationships and stuff.... I'm not married, and nursing school/working in the field has put a strain on my relationships dating wise...

    the logistical stuff like hours, and fatigue and the emotional stuff with nursing isnt a turn on for 20-30 something males. I guess theyre still stuck on the nurse in a tight white uniform with 6 inch heels and her breasts popping out type image
    so obviously when I show up at home with my scrubs,white nikes, covered in various stains ranging from the black pen that exploded in my pocket to the pureed peas that a patient with surprisingly good aim threw at me, I guess its a disappointment for the boyfriend types .....

    but I think I do okay
    I'm not complaining
    I'll make someone a great *undomesticated* wife someday...

  4. by   micro
    Now I am expressing myself in complete sentences with twofold thoughts and a 'little tongue in cheek'.

    This is one of the m's.....hey m&m ;-)
    oh, no.....slipped out of complete sentence form.....omg......QUICK ALL HIT IGNORE.........

    Now back to the subject at hand.........divorce and affairs.........
    I feel that nursing, health care and this crazy field that we find ourselves in is no more or less conducive to such things than other areas of life. Many valid points brought up about supportive s.o.'s during school and nonsupportive s.o.'s. during school......this and other such situations can be a make it or break it situation.........life is a journey.

    Sorry for incomplete sentences.........tongue back in cheek.....

    please love happeewendy suggestion.......they a bore, hit ignore

    micro talks in third person now and answers self also
    goodday xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxooxoxox


    :kiss :blushkiss :zzzzz happeewendy you are going to make somebody a great UNDOMESTICATED WIFE some day
    Last edit by micro on Apr 21, '02
  5. by   Albirdie
    I am currently in college working on BSN. My husband is very supportive. We have two children, and it does get hectic sometimes. You just have to roll with it. Don't forget to make time for each other. There will be times when you think your head is going to explode........it won't. You are going to be fine. When you start to get stressed out ask your kids and husband for a hug instead of taking the stress out on them. This can be a very motivating factor. As far as after you start working, well it is all just an adjustment. I have several friends that are RN's and they are all still happily married and have said that it is just an adjustment in the beginning. They also said that once their family adjusted everything just seemed normal again. I hope that is true!!! Good Luck in school.
  6. by   JeannieM
    I've been married for 25 years this year. My husband has seen me through aide to LVN to BSN to MSN and been very supportive. The thing that rocked him back on heels, however, was when I had to explain that I was taking a pay cut to use the MSN-CNS that I had put the family through psychological and financial h*** to get! And that in my new role I would be working 50-60 hours a week when I used to work 3 12-hour critical care shifts and be done with it! He thinks I'm totally nuts!
    Well, he hasn't run screaming the other direction, which either means that either we're both nuts, or he has a second wife and kids somewhere and I've been too busy to figure it out. I love what I'm doing, but there's no denying that it's been really hard on my family. Good luck, and I hope you find someone as supportive as you deserve.