Before I became a nurse, I worked in a job that was a pay-grade below nurses' aides, although not actually under an aide's supervision. I did, at times, assist aides with their tasks, and in those situations it was usually only prudent to do what the aide told me, although there were times I was experienced enough to offer helpful advise to a new aide.
I had every intention of becoming an aide while in school, but the time was never quite right to combine going to school and learning a new job, so I wound up skipping a level, and found myself supervising the very aides I used to assist.
Most were very supportive. In my previous job, helping the aides was above and beyond my job description, and the accumulated brownie points paid off. There were plenty of times, too--and still are--when the advice of an experienced aide could save the butt of a novice nurse.
Still, my instructors in school, and my mentors on the job, made it clear from the get-go that I was the nurse: I had to remember that, and I had to make sure the aides understood that, because, in the end, it's my
One of the biggest peeves I ever heard about nurses was how some would come out of a room and ask an aide to help the patient in the room with a bedpan. I've done that. I did, later, tell the aide that I fully intended to be more help, once I got better at the parts only I could do, but at that time it was the right thing to do.
I'm lucky. I work with some very good aides, I do still have some brownie points, and I'm a guy. Still, I've run into a few--very few--who've wanted to tell me what to do, or didn't want to do what I wanted them to do, and there've been a few times when even the really good aides have shaken their heads and said (mostly in jest), "Yeah, you're a nurse, all right..."
Yeah, I'm a nurse, and so are you, and aides don't need malpractice insurance
. You have a difficult job with a ton of responsibility; your patients count on you. I don't suppose there's anything wrong with taking a momnet to reflect whether you may be conveying an attitude you don't intend, but as others have suggested, you patients are your first responsibility, and any aide whose opinion is worth considering will understand that.