child violated at daycare (by child) what would you do?

[randomperson]

Just found out that my son was violated by another child at daycare today. one adult was monitoring bathroom visits for both boys and girls (going back and forth between bathrooms), she walked into the boys bathroom and found another boy with his mouth over my son's member. The boy (4) asked to "kiss" him there and my son (just turned 5) innocent as he is didn't know any better.

Needless to say we had the red touch, green touch talk with his Patrick the star toy tonight and he knows that is not appropriate anymore and how to respond (scream "don't touch me there" and get an adult).

We mentioned to the daycare that we suspect either child sexual abuse perpetrated on the little boy who did this or at least exposure to Mediaography.

We are a bit distraught at the moment and are trying to figure out how to proceed with things. any advice would help!

[Batman24]

You explained it to your son and gave him instructions how to handle it in the future. If he seems to understand and accept that I would wait and see how he does over the next few days. Children are very resilient and as he knows he did nothing wrong and knows how to handle this from here on out I think he will be okay. I would keep very calm around him or you will scare him and stress him out.

If you suspect abuse call CPS and let them look into the situation.

[llg, PhD, RN]

I just want to remind everyone that we are not allowed to give "care" advice to this concerned mom. That is against the Terms of Service of this website. This is only her 2nd post here and she may not be aware of that fact.

Let's all she talks to her local health professionals (and other, such as social service) and gets the help that she and these children need.

[VivaLasViejas, ASN, RN]

What llg said.:yeahthat:

It is beyond our scope of practice to offer advice in this area, other than to suggest that you consult law-enforcement authorities and your local child protective services agency. I feel awful for you and your son, but I think you've done all of the right things to prevent him from becoming a victim and to minimize any potential trauma to him.

It goes without saying that we wish you the best in finding an appropriate resolution to this occurrence.

Closing thread now, as topic has been well covered by the responses of the members who have already posted. Thank you all.