Can i still be a nurse if i am too emotional?

  1. Can I be a nurse if I am too emotional?
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  3. by   Andrews_RN
    What exactly do you mean by too emotional?
  4. by   Moko5327benedict16
    Crying a lot
  5. by   Silverdragon102
    I can be emotional at times but found at work it wasn't the same therefore less emotion as if it was at home
  6. by   Andrews_RN
    Well not to sound rude because this is not how I mean this but if you're crying a lot why do you even want to be a nurse? My old professor used to tell students if you cry everyday at work you're in the wrong profession. Why put yourself through that everyday?
  7. by   Sun0408
    I agree with the last two posters.. Work is much different than home but at the same time, if you are crying over everything even something re a stranger half way around the world;this may not be the field for you. Nothing wrong with being emotional as long as you can maintain professionalism. It's hard to say if you are too emotional because you gave no examples for us to judge such a question.
  8. by   KelRN215
    If you are that emotional that everything makes you cry, it probably will be difficult. I've never been an overly emotional person but I find that since I've been doing what I'm doing (pediatric oncology) for 6 years, it's made me even less emotional. One of my patients (12 years old) died today and I didn't cry at all about it... I felt relief that her family found it within themselves to let her go and it sounded like from what the hospital told me that they signed the DNR pretty much just in time.
  9. by   pinkessence_58467
    There's nothing wrong with crying. Sounds like you have a big heart and you get too attached. With the more experience, the more you become kind of numb to it. People who feel nothing shouldn't be in nursing. We are human not robots. Nursing takes compassion but you have to learn to deal with your feeling, maybe you should seek some kind of counseling and learn how to deal with your emotions. I think you should stick with nursing, sounds like you have the potential to be a good nurse.
  10. by   leslie :-D
    moko, i agree that we need more info.

    are you a nurse or considering becoming a nurse?
    are you crying a lot because you're depressed or extra sensitive?

    yes, you can be "emotional" and be a good nurse, but that is not the same as reacting 'emotionally'.
    iow, you may feel a, b, or c in any given situation in nursing...
    but that doesn't mean it'd be appropriate/professional to act upon those feelings (as a norm...not talking about episodic).

    you could feasibly feel 'emotional' if a colleague treats you like dirt;
    or your boss, a dr, a patient, or family member...
    the list goes on.
    my point being, more often than not, we nurses need to suck it up and conduct ourselves in a manner that will not create attention or drama on the floor.
    now...having a good cry on the way home is perfectly ok and even beneficial, if that's what you need to do.

    it took me years to quell some of my emotions at work.
    actually...that's a lie.
    i never did learn to keep certain feelings in check when feeling emotional.
    i eventually did learn to reduce the volume, but i somehow managed to remain on loud speaker.

    as stated, it really would be helpful hearing more about your situation, rather than speculate.
    if you are not a nurse, do not throw in the towel!
    nursing is comprised of a myriad of personalities.
    being "emotional" is extremely benign, esp when contrasted with other types.

    be well moko.

  11. by   SionainnRN
    I'm pretty much a hard butt, and every once in awhile I'll cry at work, mainly when we have a code, or when I was in the ICU and lost a pt I had been taking care of for weeks. But if you find yourself crying all the time about everything...I think you'd get yourself emotionally trampled at work. I don't know why you would want to put yourself through that. Have you talked to anyone about the crying, because work stuff aside, that's just not normal or healthy to be crying every day.
  12. by   tnbutterfly
    I wrote an article here on allnurses that addresses the issue of crying. It is called When Nurses Cry. You might want to read it.
  13. by   LTCNS
    I'm a pretty emotional person but honestly? Nursing has actually helped me to develop a thicker skin. I still become emotional at times but don't cry at the drop of a hat and in front of others like I used to.
    There was a time when I could not take criticism because it made me feel like I failed my patients and co-workers, so I would just burst out in tears. Didn't matter who was around. It was pretty darn embarrassing. Now I take criticism as a learning experience, move on and strive to do better. IOW, I truly believe nursing can actually help an overly emotional person become stronger. I'm still working on myself but I'm getting better
  14. by   Vespertinas
    Since OP isn't giving more info just yet I'll talk about what I know best: myself.

    I bawl at every movie I see. I shed tears with every argument I have with a loved one. I think that makes me "emotional". I think it's a combination of being on birth control and being my mother's daughter.

    Turns out I don't cry at the big stuff like codes or disasters. The tears sneak up on me in quiet moments like when I make an unexpected connection with a patient or even a co-worker. I cry about relationship-based things, I guess. I just do my best to keep it to a light misty-eye and turn away so no one will see and think I'm crazy. Damn hormones.

    It's okay. Leslie said it well...emotional is certainly not the worst thing you can be in this field.