A Patient's Perspective - To all of the Nurses at allnurses.com - page 5

To all of the Nurses at AllNurses.com, Of course I should start with some basic background info. I have dealt with Crohn's disease since 1989 when I was 17 years old. I've had some rough times... Read More

  1. by   gunny48
    Welcome aboard!
  2. by   Evening_Primrose
    I feel like I'm cheating by reading this since I'm not a nurse yet, but thank you so much for writing it. I'm so sorry for what you've been through, but I promise I'll keep your words in mind as I learn and try to remember to see things from a patient's point of view.

    I wish you well.
  3. by   needluck
    Wow, such a very thoughtful note to all the great nurses out there! Your words put a lot into perspective...the little tasks we do that give you a little happiness ..I wish you all the very best!
  4. by   Steffy44
    Quote from AnonBoston
    I don't mean to toot my own horn here, but I literally cannot wrap my brain around the concept of an entitled and demeaning approach from a patient. Why would anyone want to treat their nurses with anything but respect and gratitude? You are there for us at our worst moments. Just because I am in pain and feel awful and scared, does not give me the right to treat other people like crap.

    Okay, that sounded a bit self-congratulatory...but I really don't get it. The way I see it, the more respect you show your nurses, the more aware and motivated to help you they're going to be. Not only that, but you deserve our respect. You're emptying my commode..."oh, wow, I'm really sorry, that's so gross...agghhh...thank you, that couldn't have been pleasant" And I get a smile in return, "It's okay!"


    sadly I took care of one of these creatures the last 2 days. He's mad at me because I didn't respond to his call light fast enough (2 diet sodas, 2 cups of ice with lids, and two straws)! Sorry I was taking care of the little old demented lady with the fractured hip who is trying to fall again and has a bed alarm screaming for the 10th time this hour. Put my trash can at a 45 degree angle. Put this here and this there and do this and get that. It's a buffet for him. Never once a please or thank you. Perhaps that's why no one has visited, wife included for 21 days. My dear I'll take care of you and hang out in your room all day. A simple gesture of appreciation makes it all worth it.
  5. by   CryandNurseOn
    It's stories like these that keep me going. Sometimes at the end of the day I wonder if I truly helped anyone or if all I did was stick needles into people and cause pain. Thank you for taking the time to write.
  6. by   Pagesen
    Thank you for your kind words to nurses and acknowledgement of our commitment to you. Also, you're welcome for the honor of taking care of you, the patient. If most patients or family were so kind, if the hospital provided enough staff, if the workload was not overwhelming, if we weren't so busy fighting to obtain your medication from the pharmacy, if physicians paid attention or just put their own orders in the computer, if the equipment worked, if we had supportive staff to do non-nursing tasks that consumes too much of our time, if we weren't getting the worst end of family anger or entitlement or administration who is ALWAYS looking for a way to fire somebody, the list is endless..... However, it may explain why so many nurses become disheartened in this system, and leave the bedside, which ultimately trickles down to effect patient care. Bottom line, thank you again for making it easier to care for someone kind....we simply don't hear it enough. Glad to hear you are recovering well.
    Peggy RN, BSN (ICU for 26 yrs!)
    Last edit by Pagesen on Jan 13, '17 : Reason: Improve my post
  7. by   Libby1987
    Thank you Pagesen for bumping this thread. It brought me to tears the first time I read the OP and it has again.

    OP, I hope this bumped thread finds you in a good place. Thank you for your far reaching words of gratitude.
  8. by   AnonBoston
    Quote from Libby1987
    Thank you Pagesen for bumping this thread. It brought me to tears the first time I read the OP and it has again.

    OP, I hope this bumped thread finds you in a good place. Thank you for your far reaching words of gratitude.
    Yes Libby, this bumped thread finds me feeling better than I have in years, thank you for your kind words. The conversation here ended in May, and in June I fiiiinally went in for the surgery that has fixed these internal infections that have been plaguing me for 3 years (an ileocolectomy...and I managed to get out of it with no bag!!). I have a really good, gory photo of what was removed, and it was all fused together, tangled, black in a couple of spots (?) and apparently "rock hard". It's amazing that anything I ate got through such a lump. My surgeon said he "literally had to carve that mass out". Scar tissue and adhesions, combined with inflammation and leaky holes equals a whole lot of scary business. And of course...always...for every single minute there was a nurse by my side once again.

    And again, I don't mean to sound pretentious, but just knowing that my gratitude and appreciation has moved some of you to tears, among other reactions...well I realized one day that this is the way I've somehow given back. Because when people do so much and take care of you at such an intense level, you just think "How could I ever repay this? How can I ever thank this woman for everything she has done for me at my worst moments?" And then I thought of this thread and everyone's comments, and said well maybe I gave back without even realizing it, just by writing a forum post. Isn't it funny how things come full circle like that?

    Also..."AnonBoston" is such a bad username, I have no idea why I picked it. My name is Staci, I'm 44, and it's been awesome talking with you all here.
  9. by   RNforLongTime
    Thank you OP for this heartfelt message of appreciation. I've been an RN for 20 years. I can count the number of times I've been thanked by a patient and their families in my career on ONE hand. Most patients/Families, don't think they need to say please and thank you because it's our job to wait on them hand and foot and give in to their every desire. Thanks to those Press-Ganey surveys and HCAHPS scores, we now basically have to bend over backwards to accommodate the patient/family EVERY time! No matter how short-staffed we are, no matter that we haven't eaten ALL DAY! No matter that our bladder is ready to explode. Hold on...I'll be right back with that glass of ice for you.....but I digress. It is usually a joy to care for patients...some days are better than others., that's for sure! We nurses ARE human after-all.

    I hope you are healing well OP! Prayers for you!