Gave up, want to try again

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Good afternoon my fellow nurses! So I'm kinda stuck in an emotional rollercoaster of sorts. I graduated nursing school in 2013 and took my NCLEX in 2014. Unfortunately, I failed. It's been two years and I want to try again, however, I am afraid to fail.

I was always a smart student, passing all my tests and etc. After I found out my results, I just hit rock bottom. I gave up on nursing. I started working different jobs to satisfy my urge to be independent. I do study when I have the free time, however, every time I open a book or do a sample test my mind tells me to stop because I already failed once. I am scared to fail again.

I need help/advice. I want to become a nurse. I want to help people.

I'm scared, I'm scared of being a failure.

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I feel the same way whenever I open a book. I'll read but then I'll stop bc I keep thinking I'm gonna fail. Its been 2 wks since I graduated I know im gonna fail. I was average in nursing school that's why I'm not too confident about this test. :( My advice for you is to block the negative thoughts I read a lot of threads on here a lot of people failed more than once but they never gave up and they're nurses now.

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Amybeloved,

I feel for you. I was in the same boat as you, graduated Dec '13, failed 2x in early 2014 then gave up. I just started studying again for a retake. Sending good vibes your way and were in this together!

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Have you considered taking a refersher course? It seems like if you were unsuccessful straight out of nursing school, the exam will be much more difficult after two years of not using the skills/information. A refersher course would review the essential material, give you NCLEX-specific test-taking strategies, help you gauge when you're adequately prepared to pass the test, and help you stay on track with a timeline.

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Please get Uworld.

Here's the link to my post about my experience.

https://allnurses.com/nclex-discussion-forum/2nd-attempt-and-1073317.html

Hope you find inspiration in it!

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OP,

I feel the same way about the possibility of losing when I play chess.

It's an irrational fear that makes me shun the game.

But even though it's irrational, it's still real in the sense that it stops me from playing a simply learned but interesing exercise in creative thinking and using my brain.

I would seek help. Talk to a nurse practitioner that can walk you through this fear of failure.

Concentration on the rewards and not the failures can be done through focused preparation.

An objective point of view can help you breakthrough the wall of fear and dissonance and allow you to breath freely.

Deep slow breathing works. It dissapates anxiety and it's easy to self administer.

Nobody is perfect. Give yourself a break. We are all looking for validation in one way or another but the kind that really sticks in life is the one you learn to give yourself.

Another more street way to look at this situation is that since no one but your mother really gives a crap about your success and failures in life, do yourself a favor " buckle down" and grab that tiger by the tail.

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