Funeral etiquette

Editorial Team / Admin · Oct 7, 2015

I would think this is something to run by the family. When my cousin died, the family requested everyone wear jeans to the funeral as, being a farmer, my cousin lived in jeans, t-shirt, and in colder weather, flannel. What we think doesn't really matter; what matters is what your relative's immediately family would like.

Jolie, BSN · Oct 7, 2015

I understand wearing scrubs to a funeral if you have no choice but to leave work and hurry to the service. Given that you are planning a long trip, I think it might seem odd to wear something so casual, unless the family requests it.

OrganizedChaos, LVN · Oct 7, 2015

I think it's best you ask the family before you show up in black scrubs.

elkpark · Oct 7, 2015

I can't imagine wearing any kind of work uniform to a funeral, unless it were literally the case that you had no choice but to leave work, go to the service, and return to work (even then, I would take something else to work with me and change clothes, and you've already stated that that is not your situation). Is there some reason we wouldn't know about that you think black scrubs might be appropriate? I'm only using the word because you used it first, but, yes, I would definitely consider that "tacky."

icuRNmaggie, BSN, RN · Oct 7, 2015

It's respectful to dress in subdued colors and as if you are in church or going to a job interview for a professional position. Scrubs and work out attire etc. are inappropriate.

The immediate family generally wears black to symbolize being in mourning but it is not required for a distant relative to wear all black. A dark sweater and pants or skirt would be appropriate.

RNBSC · Oct 8, 2015

Thanks everyone. I was wAnting not to buy anything, cause the trip out is gonna be more than a paycheck, and only my scrubs fit since school. Ill go check out the goodwill n see if I can find something. I figured since it is a graveside service, I could wear the scrubs with a sweater over the top for warmth.

icuRNmaggie, BSN, RN · Oct 8, 2015

Thanks everyone. I was wAnting not to buy anything, cause the trip out is gonna be more than a paycheck, and only my scrubs fit since school. Ill go check out the goodwill n see if I can find something. I figured since it is a graveside service, I could wear the scrubs with a sweater over the top for warmth.

Whats really important is that you will be there for your family. Have a safe trip.

BrandonLPN, LPN · Oct 8, 2015

You don't necessarily have to buy a suit and tie . A nice, dark colored button down shirt, some khakis, dark socks and dress shoes should all suffice.

I definitely would not wear scrubs.