Friday April 14 2023

Tweety, BSN, RN · Apr 14, 2023

Good morning!

Joe, hope you have a better day and a good evening out.

I've been up since 6AM and slept okay. My girl dog has adjusted to the time change and nudged me awake at her breakfast time. No more sleeping in I guess. I am washing sheets and made a nice potato chickpea soup. It has Mexican style chorizo in it that I made the other day out of tofu. It's pretty good.

Otherwise going to the gym and potter about.

No Stars In My Eyes · Apr 14, 2023

Tweety, I am so glad you mentioned laundry....I had to take Nannie's bed apart and wash all of the sheets and blankets, and when I read about you doing laundry, I jumped up and put it all in the dryer. I hate discovering too late that I had not remade her bed and the stuff is still in the washer waiting to be transferred! Now I will be able to remake the bed in time for her to get in it. So, THANX!! ?

Joe, I hope your "yogurt" class is rescheduled. (That's what my silly father-in- law used to call it.) I also hope that J doesn't end up cancelling dinner plans.

Another night last night where hubby has c/o NO sleep. I made him take some Xanax and go lie down in bed. Now he is sleeping in his recliner, and...I find this very hard to believe, but.... Nannie is AWAKE! No siesta-ing; she is looking out the window and remarking about the dark clouds. Oh....hubby just woke up coughing and grabbing at his right ribs, which, when he fell last, he'd landed on. I told hubby he needs to reschedule an appt w/ doc, or some doctor who can address his sleep problems< I'm sure if he would lay off the booze, things MIGHT straighten out! But sometimes I think he needs to be wrapped in a straight-jacket and tied down for several months to get completely detoxed. (Yadda-yadda-yadda)

Well, the mail just ran, so I'll go out and get it. Can't tell if it will be raining soon, as there are many tall, dark clouds around, AND also lots of blue skies: Mother Nature's Mystery.

All for now. Prolly I will be back laydah on.....

No Stars In My Eyes · Apr 14, 2023

Forgot to mention this....the psychologist (who works from the doc's office several days a week) actually CALLED me to make an appointment for ME! But it isn't until June 6th, so I told her if there was a cancellation to call me as I can get there in 10-15 minutes. I may be joyous by June 6th if we can EVER get this Nannie-placement taken care of.

Every day I tell hubby he has to call and make appts w/ financial advisor (our lawyer can probably refer us to a good'n) and the Investment guy and the bank person, so we can line up the money aspect. After that, he also has to talk to the administrator of the nsg home and see if that bed is still available, and the PICK A DATE to admit Nannie. He is SOOOOO unhappy w/ her here, but doesn't seem to be able to summon spit to be a Big Boy and make those calls. But, I AM NOT THE MOMMY HERE, so he has to do something, and do it soon.

Tweety, BSN, RN · Apr 14, 2023

Stars, you just reminded me my sheets are still in the dryer waiting to be folded.

Sleep is getting a lot of research and attention lately. I remember reading/hearing that alcohol has a negative affect on sleep so I looked it up and several sources are saying that studies confirm this.

I hope your husband can take some action on the Nannie placement front.

https://www.piedmont.org/living-better/how-does-alcohol-affect-your-sleep

My sister apparently is in town to "tend to some business" but I haven't heard from her. Apparently she's heading back to NC Monday which is too bad because I'm working this weekend and we missed an opportunity to see each other. I could have reached out, but feel she would if she wanted to.

My dad sent out a group text "Attention Family: C (my sister) is not on drugs and it's a lie made up to hurt her...." and a few other things. The idea that she's on drugs comes from her daughter who won't be convinced otherwise so it's a wasted effort, and she was in the text message. Her response was a mature "no comment" although she privately told me that she thinks her mother made the text and not my father as it's out of character. Apparently my sister is very sad her daughter won't let her see the grandkids and this upsets my father to see her so sad. She's a Saint right now because she's take care of mom and keeping her out of a nursing home and impoverishing them in the process. I appreciate her as well. I stayed out of it and made no comment as did the rest of us on the text.

What family doesn't have their drama?

nursej22, MSN, RN · Apr 14, 2023

I'm making hay while the sun shines , rain predicted for tomorrow. I got took a short bike ride this morning and my legs were tired. Then home to garden: I finished pruning roses, and got most of them fertilized. This should have been done a month ago. Oh well. Now on my way to sis's to do some cleanup. Last night I made pancakes for dinner which I haven't done I a while. I used to do it when the kids were little and dh was out of town, because he frowned on "breakfast for dinner". Now that he sharing the cooking, he gets why a tired momma might to make something quick and easy.
I slept so well last night for a change. I've heard about alcohol being bad for sleep. It makes me sleepy, but I have to go to bathroom and then I feel dehydrated.
Have a nice dinner, Joe.

Tweety, BSN, RN · Apr 15, 2023

yeah...alcohol is strange in that it's a sedative but doesn't give good REM sleep.

Two hours later the sheets are still in the dryer.

Ado Annie, ASN, RN · Apr 15, 2023

Stepson was arrested today, hanging around the high school and jabbering and apparently had a costume sword or something. I wish I believed this would get him into a hospital. I've lost trust in behavioral health providers, and never had much faith in law enforcement when it comes to mental illness. Our niece told us about the arrest and sent a picture of his house where he had all kinds of stuff out on the front lawn. She went and moved it all to the porch once she knew he was being detained. It's a misdemeanor charge of (1) excessive noise (?) and (2) resisting arrest.

I worked the med/surg floor yesterday afternoon and this morning. Mostly good. Then had to finish up the IP report for the Med staff meeting Monday. Also went to the bank to start the process of trying to replace the cashiers check my sister lost (for her portion of our parents' house). I sent it to her over a year ago. *sigh*.

And when stepdaughter's marriage to the psycho woman was falling apart we took my parents' car to Indiana so she would have a car but she never followed through (and got involved with current girlfriend so didn't need the car). And she has lost the title. So I've got to try to get a replacement title in Oklahoma for a car that's in Indiana. *sigh*.

I'm tired of trying to make up for everyone else's irresponsibility.

Anywho, I'm getting on the train tomorrow morning and going to San Antonio to visit my sister. I wish I had gotten my act together and could be taking her a check which I then would make her take to the bank while I was there. She wonders sometimes if she is starting to show symptoms of dementia. I wonder sometimes, too. I'll see what I think after a couple of days with her.

Editorial Team / Admin · Apr 15, 2023

Joe, hope you have a nice meal and visit with J. What kind of food at the restaurant? Also, I hope you can find an acceptable time to reschedule the yoga class.

Agree, every family has its drama. SMH over your dad's text and your sister's antics, Tweety (not letting you know she was in town, so you can't meet up). Speaking of myself (and this may be applicable to your case as well): Such mixed feelings about family. Some are we are close to, others are tolerable, others are not, and we have been burned too many times to want to be around them. It's a weird feeling, though, to be the last of the brothers and sisters.

No Stars, good you got the sheets and bed taken care of, before it's needed! Keeping you and Mr. Stars-Procrastination-Ostrich-head-in-the-sand and Nannie in prayers.

nursej22, good on you for riding your bike! How are you feeling about retirement??

This afternoon I went to the Post Office again, and was given my mail and told that, for now, to pick the mail up there at the PO. I requested (again) a sign be posted (there still is no sign at the communal boxes). At least we got our mail, and know where to get it in the near future. Dh got a call back from the PO (he had entered a query online), they anticipate two months before the box will be ready to be used again.

I picked up pizza for dinner. No rain today, though we got surprise showers yesterday! It should be clear for the next couple weeks.

Have a good evening!

Ado, safe travels and hope it's a good visit with your sister.

No Stars In My Eyes · Apr 15, 2023

dianah said:

Mr. Stars-Procrastination-Ostrich-head-in-the-sand

Hahahahahahahahaha! ?? Soooo very true! Good one! I love it! Gave me a genuine LOL and made me smile. Thanks, I needed that!

Tweety, did you get your laundry into the dryer yet? ?

nursej22, MSN, RN · Apr 15, 2023

I am loving retirement! I never felt like I fit in in my last 2 jobs, and didn't feel much job satisfaction. Now I can help my dd with the grandsons, I'm enjoying my classes and look forward to volunteering. Unfortunately, I need to go several medical appointments, and no longer feel guilty about taking time off for those.

Sometimes I am thankful that I have such a small family --> less chance for drama.

Tweety, BSN, RN · Apr 15, 2023

No Stars In My Eyes said:

Tweety, did you get your laundry into the dryer yet? ?

5:18 the next morning and the sheets are still in the dryer. Ugh... I might just have to turn the "I'm done" buzzer on the dryer but it's so loud and annoying. It's near the kitchen and if I'm in the kitchen it scares the heck out of me. Or write myself notes so that my ADD doesn't distract me. I'm not really ADD but I easily forget things and get distracted usually with some rabbit hole on line like watching YouTube. I write myself notes or set my alarm for stuff all the time at work, maybe I need to do that at home. Like the other morning I made some farro in my rice cooker before work and wrote a big note: "unplug rice cooker" so it wouldn't stay on warm and ruin it while I was at work.

J22, so good to hear you're enjoying retirement. Many years from know your grandkids will be talking about you and the time you spent with them.

I do have a small family, virtually having no contact with of them but my siblings, parents and niece. Really it's only my sister and her daughter that have drama. My brother and I have long ago aged out of our drama and are settled. Our parents can't help that they are elderly and have age-related health issues.

Speaking of family drama Ado, so sorry you have to deal with all of that.

I got a look at my paycheck Monday with the overtime and bonus and they took out $1400 in taxes and deductions. Time was I barely made $1400 in a month, much less that much in deductions.