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Nursing Students NCLEX

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Everyday my mom, sister, brothers tell me don't worry you will pass. They tell me take your time and study it will all work out one day and everything happens for a reason. I find them to be supportive. Then I think about my husband who I want to support me more than anything and be there for me and he just brings me down. He is very unsupported and when I try to study he interrupts me and when I try to get a good night sleep he tries to keep me up. I take my boards hoping I pass to get away from all this then I fail and he tells me that I am stupid and should just give up. I tell him that I went to nursing school and graduated so I can't be that stupid. My husband is a N.Y.S trooper with a 2 year Criminal Justice degree and thinks he is king. I try to get all the support from family and friends but I tell you when you have someone who you are with everyday it's hard to be positive when your shut down all the time. All I say is I will pass and I have a great job waiting for me and I will be OUT.....:crying2:

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Specializes in Sub-Acute care unit, geriatrics.
Everyday my mom, sister, brothers tell me don't worry you will pass. They tell me take your time and study it will all work out one day and everything happens for a reason. I find them to be supportive. Then I think about my husband who I want to support me more than anything and be there for me and he just brings me down. He is very unsupported and when I try to study he interrupts me and when I try to get a good night sleep he tries to keep me up. I take my boards hoping I pass to get away from all this then I fail and he tells me that I am stupid and should just give up. I tell him that I went to nursing school and graduated so I can't be that stupid. My husband is a N.Y.S trooper with a 2 year Criminal Justice degree and thinks he is king. I try to get all the support from family and friends but I tell you when you have someone who you are with everyday it's hard to be positive when your shut down all the time. All I say is I will pass and I have a great job waiting for me and I will be OUT.....:crying2:

Don't lose hope. Maybe you should talk to your husband and tell him what you feels. Maybe in that way he will understand you. Explain to him that it really hurts you that you didnt pass and it isnt your choice. God has lots of plans for everyone. He's your husband, your a team! and this time, no one could ever help you except him. But be happy also that your mom and sib are there for you. But I believe that the only solution for a couple's misunderstanding is a good communication. Sit and talk and I hope that everything will be alright soon.:nuke:

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Thank you but no talking with him he is a very angry person. My hus. is controlling and controlling to every move I make, it's like a disease. Thank you for your support and I just pray everyday..My out is passing........

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Everyday my mom, sister, brothers tell me don't worry you will pass. They tell me take your time and study it will all work out one day and everything happens for a reason. I find them to be supportive. Then I think about my husband who I want to support me more than anything and be there for me and he just brings me down. He is very unsupported and when I try to study he interrupts me and when I try to get a good night sleep he tries to keep me up. I take my boards hoping I pass to get away from all this then I fail and he tells me that I am stupid and should just give up. I tell him that I went to nursing school and graduated so I can't be that stupid. My husband is a N.Y.S trooper with a 2 year Criminal Justice degree and thinks he is king. I try to get all the support from family and friends but I tell you when you have someone who you are with everyday it's hard to be positive when your shut down all the time. All I say is I will pass and I have a great job waiting for me and I will be OUT.....:crying2:

I am so sorry that you are having to go through this. You are most definitely NOT stupid. You could not have gotten this far if you were. I know it's hard to tune out someone who lives with you-that pressure can be constant. It is a shame that someone who is supposed to be on your side is actually working on sabatoging your success. Please continue your path-you will get there! And then you will be in a position of personal power, and will be able to make the decisions about your life that you need to.

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I am sorry to hear your husband is not as supportive as he should be. That makes a lot of difference when the one close to you is supportive because nursing is stressful enough and everyone knows how stressful it can be trying to prepare for the NCLEX. Let's face it, this test determines the course of the rest of your life. I believe your husband is jealous of you. Some men cannot handle a women becoming financially stable. Maybe he feels like you may make more money than him, or find you a doctor to marry and he is becoming insecure.

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Specializes in LTC, case mgmt, agency.

First off, you are NOT stupid. Lots of really good and smart nurses have failed their boards ( some more than once ). Some of the best nurses I have had the pleasure of working with failed their boards the first time. We even have a clinical nurse specialist who failed her boards twice. BTW, she is an amazing and wonderful nurse.

I know it must be hard to live with someone who is not supportive. Try to use his lack of support as your motivation. Show him you can do this. Prove to him he is wrong. Get mad about it and go pass the test! You go girl!!!! :D And anytime you need support, you just come here and we'll give you all the support you need. You can do this. You will do this. :icon_hug:

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Specializes in LTC.
Everyday my mom, sister, brothers tell me don't worry you will pass. They tell me take your time and study it will all work out one day and everything happens for a reason. I find them to be supportive. Then I think about my husband who I want to support me more than anything and be there for me and he just brings me down. He is very unsupported and when I try to study he interrupts me and when I try to get a good night sleep he tries to keep me up. I take my boards hoping I pass to get away from all this then I fail and he tells me that I am stupid and should just give up. I tell him that I went to nursing school and graduated so I can't be that stupid. My husband is a N.Y.S trooper with a 2 year Criminal Justice degree and thinks he is king. I try to get all the support from family and friends but I tell you when you have someone who you are with everyday it's hard to be positive when your shut down all the time. All I say is I will pass and I have a great job waiting for me and I will be OUT.....:crying2:

Don't give up because you can do it and you're not stupid. I am going through so similiar problems as well my husband really doesn't want to see me move up in my career because everytime it comes around for me to study and test he starts doing things that cause the family to fall apart and I have to be the one to pick up the pieces. I am going to pray for you because with these types of situations in your own house can easily bring you down. You can and will pass!!! Also try talking to him and letting him know that those actions toward you really are starting to weigh you down. God gave us husbands for helpmates and to help build us up when we are feeling low not to hinder us. God bless and I pray 4 change 4 both of us!!!

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