Fellow nurses???? Job relocation advice please!!!!!

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Hey fellow nurses!

I am a December 2014 grad recently hired May 20th 2015 on a cardiac PCU UNIT. My fiancé has been in a 6 month training program that just ended and he is being placed in gulfport Mississippi where he will be for 2 years.

I am very stressed because I do not know what to do in this situation and I don't want to be looked down upon for leaving my current job so soon. Also, after his 2 years are over we could possibly relocate back here and I don't want denied a job because I left so soon. Even though I am definitely going to leave the right way.

ADVICE PLEASE!!

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Specializes in ICU.

Do you have to leave? I understand that he's your fiancé and all, but a little long distance doesn't hurt. I worry that your resume would not look so good staying on at one hospital for a few months, possibly hurting your chances of finding a different job.

I don't know anything about hiring/rehiring, but I would imagine that after returning to the area several years later, the hospital you are currently employed with won't necessarily want to take a chance on you again.

Personally, I wouldn't compromise an excellent nursing position after it seems like it took several months for you to find a good nursing job. But that's just me and how I think.

Best of luck to you.

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I am not being forced to leave but I don't have very many other options.

I wouldn't leave here however until I have secured a job there.

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Do you have to leave? I understand that he's your fiancé and all, but a little long distance doesn't hurt. I worry that your resume would not look so good staying on at one hospital for a few months, possibly hurting your chances of finding a different job.

I don't know anything about hiring/rehiring, but I would imagine that after returning to the area several years later, the hospital you are currently employed with won't necessarily want to take a chance on you again.

Personally, I wouldn't compromise an excellent nursing position after it seems like it took several months for you to find a good nursing job. But that's just me and how I think.

Best of luck to you.

I really don't have any other options but I wouldn't leave here until I secure a job there.

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Specializes in Nurse Leader specializing in Labor & Delivery.

Why do you not have any other options? Why can't you stay where you are until next spring?

And if you're shooting down the suggestion, what other advice are you hoping to get?

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A fellow nurse here,

Please do not leave your job until you have at least one year of experience. You would only be away from each other for 6 months. In those 6 months you can travel to see each other. But once you have been a PCU nurse for 1 year you can move where he is as a travel nurse. The nursing job market is crazy right now so don't do anything that will hurt you in the long run.

Good Luck

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Specializes in ICU.

I would also recommend staying. I did the long distance thing for nine months when I was a new grad - and it sucked, I'm not going to lie to you - but it's not going to kill you.

How far is this place from where you're going to be? I drove to visit my guy once a month when I was long distance - it was an eight hour drive for me. With your schedule as a nurse, I see no reason why you couldn't visit fairly often unless it is a totally unreasonable drive like 20+ hours or something.

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I'd stay where I was at and let him go on ahead.

People associated with the military do things like that all the time.

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Specializes in Family Medicine, Tele/Cardiac, Camp.

I definitely recommend putting in at least a year at your current job. As someone who left their first hospital as a new-grad after 9 months, took a job that didn't work out, and then was refused reconsideration by her first hospital, I'm in the school of thought that you should tough it out for a year and do the long distance thing. You'll be able to see each other over long weekends and vacations, presumably, and if it isn't too far then probably more frequently than that. Long distance does suck (for many years I was involved with an Australian and I've done periods of long distance with my fiance), but it'll most likely strengthen your relationship and/or give you and your fiance new things to discover about each other.

If it's an issue of affordability, ie you can't afford to live alone, maybe consider a roommate just until you can join him. That could also allow you to save a lot of money for more frequent visits. Best of luck.

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Specializes in tele, ICU, CVICU.

I agree with the other responses, that you should try to stick it out, for at least your first year. Although long distance isn't the easiest thing in the world, if your man were to get stationed certain places overseas, I believe not even spouses/children can go (at least when my fiancée was at boot camp in OK, that's what we were told, but that was 6 years ago.)

And, at least to me, I felt absence makes the heart grow fonder and then when you can be together, you both will appreciate it more (at least that's how it was for me).

Good luck and congrats on landing a good job. :-)

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