hi, i've been lurking around this site , this is my first post.
i'm currently taking my preqs for the nursing program at my local com. col. After this sem i will have enuf points to apply for the nursing program. I've made all A's so i think i've got a good shot to get in.
my problem is fin. aid, i've been separated for my hus for 2yrs. he lives out of state. i live alone with our 3 kids (7-6-4), and we live well below the poverty level, so i more that qualify for fin aid. the problem is since i'm still married they want proof that my ex doesn't live with me.
they will accept 3 document to prove this: a utility-he doesn't have one, a lease agreement--he doesn't have one. I sent him a blank lease form and asked him to please fill it out and have the guy he rents his room from the please sign it. he said he did and he mailed it. I waited a week, he swears he sent it. another week, finally he admits he lied, but swears he will put it in the mail. another 10 days, admits he lied again and never sent me the letter for the second time. (i live in alabama, he lives in new york)
I finally contacted a volunteer lawyer group, they will file an contested divorce for me, if I can get my husband to sign a paper saying he will sign uncontested divorce paper and child support paper. I sent it to him with a self address stamped envelope for him to return it to me. He admitted that he received it but has not signed it or put it in the mail.
I called his sister and hope she will persuade him to sign it and return it to me. I hate that me and my kids are at the mercy of this jerk. I have enjoyed being in school for the last 2 semesters. it has given me a sense of hope for the future, that i can get an education that will allow me to take care of my kids on my own make a better life for my kids and myself.
the fact that i somehow was able to scrap together to pay for classes for the last two semesters has been nothing less than a miracle, but it things really hard for me and my kids (our monthly income is well below 1k). I deperately need fin aid.
just feels like ive got a mountain of obstacles to get past, i wonder if i will ever make it.
This may sound wierd since I dont know you, but I am so proud of you! Leaving a "difficult" situation is the hardest thing in the world that most do not understand. I left my abusive husband in 2002 and never looked back. It was hardest but bestest decision I ever made. I started college classes only a few weeks after he left. It was like a new world opened up. He and I only separated, but i got lots of financial support. I am curious why they are being so picky. I did not get legally separated until 2004, but we were considered separated in 2002 because we made that choice. I'll try to find some info for you. Hang in there, you are doing awesome and going to school. See if your school has an EOPS program for single parents/low income students, they helped me a ton. Also, look into your local soroptomist organization online. the provide scholarships to women like you who change their lifes. Also check out the dept of health www.hrsa.gov for scholarships. If your efc is zero, you'll have a great chance at getting one of those, that helped me immensely! If you ever want to chat pm me anytime. Take care.
quick thought - How about your taxes? Obviously you file married but separate, as I am sure he does too. Ask if you can use taxes. I wonder if you could, or they could, get a copy of his taxes as proof as well (he'd have to put some kind of address on his taxes right)?
I am a single parent working my way through school. My son is also autistic, have you applied for SSI benefits for him? The SSI will garantee that he has medicare/cade and will give you a little finiacial reflief, that should also help with child support enforment. and that will help in showing that your soon to be ex is not living in your household.
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This may sound wierd since I dont know you, but I am so proud of you! Leaving a "difficult" situation is the hardest thing in the world that most do not understand. I left my abusive husband in 2002 and never looked back. It was hardest but bestest decision I ever made. I started college classes only a few weeks after he left. It was like a new world opened up. He and I only separated, but i got lots of financial support. I am curious why they are being so picky. I did not get legally separated until 2004, but we were considered separated in 2002 because we made that choice. I'll try to find some info for you. Hang in there, you are doing awesome and going to school. See if your school has an EOPS program for single parents/low income students, they helped me a ton. Also, look into your local soroptomist organization online. the provide scholarships to women like you who change their lifes. Also check out the dept of health www.hrsa.gov for scholarships. If your efc is zero, you'll have a great chance at getting one of those, that helped me immensely! If you ever want to chat pm me anytime. Take care.