yes, we recieve assistance, and the dhr does go thru a process to verify my living situation.
I asked the director of fin aid if they would accept the documentation from dhr, and a notarized letter from personal references. she was very clear about what documents would be accepted and those would not be accepted.
when my husband left, we had a verbal agreement that he would pay the car (it was repo-ed last summer), the water, and power bill.(the home i live in is owned outright by my sister, all she wants, is for me to buy the house after I get a job, when i finish school).
the ulitility guys com around on a regular basis to shut us off, it's only then that he actually makes a payment.
he works odd jobs off the books and gets paid in cash, so going after his income is not an option (up till 6 years ago he was a successful stock broker on wall street till his addictions took over)
as for working, the only jobs i could get were minimium wage, so I had to get state subidized child care. daycares that will accept the state subsidity in alabama are usually not very nice. and my son is severely autistic so most of the daycares would not accept him.
at the only place that did take him, one of the other teachers told me that the teacher that was supposed to be watching him was locking him in the kitchen during naptime. I went to the daycare the next day during naptime and found that he was locked in the kitchen. the teacher said she only did it for a few minutes, but the only teacher told me that was not true.
I tried to report the incident but was told it was a church run day care so they do not have to adhere to any state rules, standards. the police were not interested in pursuing it, but the officer I spoke to told me i was not the first parent to have a complaint about that daycare.
luckily he is in school now and they have a wonderful special ed program, this allows me to go o school during the day while the kids are at school.
it's been tough and we have challenges, but life is much better now that my hus is gone, he was a alcoholic and developing a serious drug addiction at the time he left. now that he is living near his family, he has supossedly gotten sober, before he left it seemed like he was trying to get himself thrown in jail or killed. it was a huge relief when he left.
i just want to get my life in order without having to involve him. and that is why I desperately want to complete my education. I just want to be able to move forward with my kids. I want to be able to hold my head up again and be proud of myself and the job i'm doing as a parent.
thanks for listening