Feeling Lonely

Rocktheman · Oct 15, 2014

I am actually quite the same. Like I think a lot of the time that people hate me, even though its not true. How exactly are they cliquey in college? I felt like that isnt an issue at my school. All of the dumb jocks dropped out that I knew from highschool, so that all that is left is just smart driven nursing students.

Do people ignore you? If you text someone do they text back? Ask some if they want to get a study group together. Once you get that group together, see if they want to get food. I joined The Legend (the marching band at my school) and met most of my best friends through there.

juneybug · Oct 15, 2014

I am actually quite the same. Like I think a lot of the time that people hate me, even though its not true. How exactly are they cliquey in college? I felt like that isnt an issue at my school. All of the dumb jocks dropped out that I knew from highschool, so that all that is left is just smart driven nursing students.
Do people ignore you? If you text someone do they text back? Ask some if they want to get a study group together. Once you get that group together, see if they want to get food. I joined The Legend (the marching band at my school) and met most of my best friends through there.

I transferred to my school after I was done with all my pre-requisite at a community college. So I don't really know anyone. I mean cliquey as in some of them went to the same high school so they have been friends since, took the same pre-requisite classes and continue to take the same class together or live in the same area. So the ones especially from the same high school tend to talk about old high school stuff... Yeah, I have that feeling I think they hate me but it isn't the case. I tend to gravitate towards the older students even though I am younger. They give good vibes and are focused on nursing school, and their priorities. I think it's because they have matured and have been through that young partying phase or whatever you call it. Maybe I'm an old soul. Lol. Who knows after this semester like you said some will drop out and the smart driven nursing students will stay.

Thank you I feel better :)

Medic6758 · Oct 15, 2014

Realistically you should not care, you are there to learn and not make friends. However, if you feel the need to stand out, become exceptional in class and others will follow. and want to become your friend on the hopes that you knowledge will rub off on them. This advise is coming from the older male student who originally was not interested in making fiends but now seems to have more friends then ever.

nlitened · Oct 16, 2014

Personally, I am not going to school to make friends. I am there to get an education and succeed. Whether I make friends or not is of no concern to me. And if these people are more concerned with Instagram and FB, then maybe you don't need them as class buddies. Just do you, and focus on getting thru the program.

NurseGirl525, ASN, RN · Oct 16, 2014

I don't go to school to make friends. I pay a lot for my classes and I am there to get my degree and then get a job. I do have some friends at school, but my life is outside of school. I honestly think if you don't worry about it so much, the friends will come in time.

afterseason, ASN, RN · Oct 16, 2014

It kind of bums me out seeing all these posts saying "I'm not here to make friends." I gotta say -- it's so much better when you do! My cohort was extremely close. It truly felt like family. We laughed together, cried, spent time together outside of class, etc. It made nursing school easier because we all just kind of held hands and completely submerged ourselves together. We still maintain a group on FB to keep in touch, and we try to get together regularly. While I agree with others that you should prioritize your education over making friends in the class, I don't think you should totally neglect attempting to make friends. Your cohorts are some of the best people to lean on and share the struggles and joys of nursing school with.

If you are only in your first semester, I would give it some time. People are still warming up to each other and whatnot. I hope you and your classmates can grow closer and enjoy the same family bond that I was able to experience.

Good luck in your endeavors!

juneybug · Oct 17, 2014

Hi all,

Thank you all for your words of wisdom. Each one of you are right. My main priority is to do good and friends (the good ones) will come. :shy: Anways, to end on a good note I go an A on my Pharm cardiology exam. Thank you all!

Dohardthings · Oct 18, 2014

I am sure there are others out there that feel just as lonely. I would start trying to set up study sessions with the older people that you like and see what comes of it. My "Study Buddies" are the best and have my back. It is a requirement in our school to have a Partners for Success. It helps to have someone to be there when we need someone. BTW none of us "Study Buddies" knew each other before nursing school.

3peas · Oct 21, 2014

Dang some people missed the therapeutic communication lecture. I agree with livinnursing a study group could work or just dinner. I think nursing school is extremely isolating. I don't think any of us signed up for nursing school to make friends (to those who posted that), but nursing school is a beast and it's nice to be able to identify with people who are going through it with you. I have felt very lonely in NS and I have friends in my cohort, but I seemed to have distanced myself from my outside friends due to lack of time. It's hard to put yourself out there, but I would try throwing out a dinner suggestion or something.

Charmiecharmo · Nov 1, 2014

There are some students who tend to only hang around their study group and rarely want to reach out to the rest of the class. It can get isolating, but as time goes by and people get placed in different clinical groups, more interaction amongst the group takes place. Sometimes it helps to mix students around.