Hi all, so I'm wondering how most of you deal with the isolation experienced while in these programs.
Im on probation for my first dui for 2.5 more years. Prior to the decision from the board, I enjoyed doing activities that most people in their late 20s do: go out dancing with friends, go out of town on my days off etc. However being on probation has changed my life drastically.
I find myself avoiding going out with friends because I know 9/10 times they'll be drinking and I won't be able to join in. I'm constantly worried about finances as I'm still trying to pay off student loans along with all the fees associated with this program, so I don't even go out to the movies or dinner anymore. I pretty much feel like I'm in limbo and just waiting for this horrible program to be over, but the soonest I can ask for early termination of my program is 2 years into it.
On top of that, sometimes I feel like the board is purposely making this process as tortous as possible. This month I was tested with 4 UAs and a PETH test which means right before xmas I'll get a nice 350 dollar bill from Firstlab. This is without having any positive screens the last 6 months or missing check ins. Firstlab says it's random, I call BS. But suffice to say I won't be xmas shopping for anyone this year.
I used to feel like I was a pretty happy person but lately I've been feeling so helpless and just generally static in life. I mean, it's not to the point where I feel like hurting myself or anything but it's more like sometimes I just want to lay in bed for the next 2.5 years and wake up when this is over.
Any tips you guys have for dealing with this? Next week is my company's annual xmas party and I won the clinical excellence award for my facility this year (which I'm proud of considering all the BS I've had to deal with outside of work). Normally I'd be excited to attend and accept the award but I don't even really feel like going considering it's an open bar party and being around a whole bunch of drunk nurses while sober doesn't sound too fun. What do you guys think?