Feeling discouraged...

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These past few weeks I've been feeling very discouraged... I'm sooo passionate about becoming a nurse, however I feel like I won't make it. A little background about me: I'm 21 years old, have a 5 month old baby, my husband is currently in the military and is getting out in December. I started college in the spring if 2013 but because I did so poorly my first year I took a semester off to get myself together. I then moved to Texas because of the military and so I got the chance to start fresh. I failed one of my classes and got 2 C's. I don't know if it was due to me having to adjust to living with my new husband, after living with parents my whole life, and having moved to a completely different state 1500 miles away from home. Anyways all this time has passed and I should've been graduating this May with a Bachelor's like everyone else from my class. Instead I fell behind... I haven't taken A&P or microbiology because I don't want to do poor in those classes. All my other prereqs I've gotten As in. And this move in December has got my anxiety off the charts. We're moving back home and we need to find jobs, I need to transfer, etc. I'm so overwhelmed. I just feel like I'm falling behind and like I'll never be able to finish prereqs. And even when I do, I feel like I won't get accepted or I won't make it through... Any advice??? Should I consider changing my major??? I've tried but I just can't find anything else that I like and I feel so close yet so far to achieving my dream. Sorry about babbling on.

I'm trying to get into an ADN program if that matters. I was originally pursuing a BSN but now with the baby, the community college is much closer to home.

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You need more than passion to become a nurse. Nursing school is extremely competive to get into and then the program itself is very vigorous. You can continue to make excuses or suck it up and do it. Your science credits will expire after so many years and you will have to retake them. But the grades will stay on your gpa.

We can't make this decision for you. We all have difficulties in life. I started back in 2013. I filed for divorce and signed up for school in the same week. I took 5 classes that first semester. All As and 1 B in micro. All this while trying to adjust life as a single mom and helping my child to adjust and juggle getting divorced. My point being, we all have struggles. It's those who are determined enough to get through it and not let it deter them that will make it.

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Agreed with the post above, at some point the excuses need to stop and you need to suck it up. Of course life is tough right now, especially without a solid foundation around you, but you need to stop with the reasons you can't do it, and start with the reasons you can do it.

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Take it from me, if you look for excuses you will always find one. I understand life gets hectic and stressful, but if this is something you really want then you will find a way and do it. It sounds like you're doing well in your nursing pre-reqs...if you put the time and effort in you will do fine in micro and a&p! It sounds like a lot of your stress comes from feelings of falling behind and not finishing on time and if there's one thing I've learned, you cannot compare yourself to others....someone once told me it does no good to compare your chapter 2 with somebody else's chapter 10. Go at your own pace...don't rush and overload yourself. I'm not saying take 5 years to finish your prereqs but do not take on more than you can handle right now class wise and set yourself up to fail. It's not a race. I'm 27 and just starting back to finish up my prereqs...most of my friends are getting their masters and married having kids. Everyone's path is different!

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You're the only one getting in the way of pursuing your dream. It seems like you just have excuses for why you didn't do so well, but if you really want this then you will do it. Stop comparing yourself to others because they don't have the same struggles you have. I just turned 30 and just got into nursing school. You are 21 and have so much ahead of you. Should you consider changing your major? Well, do you think if you were taking class for another major you would be doing better?

When you move back, get settled, and feel ready then go back to school and finish. You can do this!

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I'm being helpful and sympathetic when I say this. Sounds to me like maybe you need a therapist. You sound like you've built what I call a s*** cake. When bad things pile up it gets to me and I feel defeated. I've been in therapy and it's helped alot.

I'd suggest getting some paper and writing out your feelings so they are not bottled up:writing: Then write down why you want to be a nurse. That will make you have to think positive and hopefully ignite your passion. Then look at your options. Write a list of issues and possible solutions. You can do this. You just need to climb the s*** cake:laugh:

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I like writing and arts. I have a son whose turning 5 months on the 13th. I failed my LPN program because I had alot of personal issues going on. I'm starting in January to retake my classes for a BSN program now that I'm stable on medication and things. I'm nervous but I know I want this so I created a motivation wall. I framed a printout of a cafepress design that said Future RN and made a collage of my son, a nissan altima(dream car), and an inspirational quote. I don't know if your into that kinda thing but if you are it might be fun to do. Good luck. :up:

dont let your age make you feel bad. Life happens. Im 24. On my 21st bday I was upset because my high school classmates already finished and I was finishing up prerequisites. Don't change your major because I did that once also. Its wasted time because eventually you'll switch back. Hope things get better for you.;)

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Thank you all for your responses

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Take it from me, if you look for excuses you will always find one. I understand life gets hectic and stressful, but if this is something you really want then you will find a way and do it. It sounds like you're doing well in your nursing pre-reqs...if you put the time and effort in you will do fine in micro and a&p! It sounds like a lot of your stress comes from feelings of falling behind and not finishing on time and if there's one thing I've learned, you cannot compare yourself to others....someone once told me it does no good to compare your chapter 2 with somebody else's chapter 10. Go at your own pace...don't rush and overload yourself. I'm not saying take 5 years to finish your prereqs but do not take on more than you can handle right now class wise and set yourself up to fail. It's not a race. I'm 27 and just starting back to finish up my prereqs...most of my friends are getting their masters and married having kids. Everyone's path is different!

Thank you for the response, it always helps to hear it from someone else! Its reassuring :)

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I like writing and arts. I have a son whose turning 5 months on the 13th. I failed my LPN program because I had alot of personal issues going on. I'm starting in January to retake my classes for a BSN program now that I'm stable on medication and things.

Thanks for making me laugh with the s*** cake! lol I agree, i think Ive built one. I actually do write out my feelings and I can agree with you in that it definitely does help! And thats a great idea! The wall thing. Im actually gonna try it, take my word for it ;) I want to be a nurse so bad! I tried changing my major once and yea it was a waste of time. I went back to Nursing. Im sorry about your experience with the LPN program.. But now you've got something better coming to you with the BSN, good luck and thank you for the advice!! :)

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Thanks and your welcome. Keep us posted

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Well sounds like you were helped. I just wanted to add that I noticed people in my class who get C's are really not putting in the study time. Maybe they think they are I never asked them. Some people don't need to study for some subjects but others need to put in a lot. If you aren't doing at least an hour studying every single day there's the problem right there.

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