Family Court Domestic Violence Restraining Order and License

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Hello Fellow Nurses, 

I am looking for anyone who might have experience in this matter. Please no judgement. I will continue to fight this as I believe myself to be innocent. 

Let me preface this predicament I am in by saying I have already retained council and my lawyer and I will be further communicating about this on Friday. A bit about my situation. I have been an ICU nurse for 7 years. I love my career. I am a mother to four small children all under 7. My spouse and I, had a very difficult relationship (years of fighting which turned abusive and physical in the past years). While I was at work, my ex-spouse took out a temporary restraining order accusing me of domestic violence and child abuse. There were no criminal charges filed. Everything has been adducted in family court. My spouse pulled a lot of people out of the woodworks to make me look like a crazy person. The judge did not substantiate child abuse but did substantiate domestic violence. Again, nothing criminal, just family court. 

Please no judgement here. I am already disheartened by this situation. The restraining order is for 1 year. I am up for license renewal in September in California and New York in December. 

Has anyone had experience with a domestic violence restraining order that is not criminal and only occurred in family court in either of these states? 

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You seem to be faced with a lot of fairly serious allegations. I don't have any relevant legal experience, but a couple of things stand out to me.

AN is a public forum. I suggest that you not discuss details of your legal situation here, at least until you check with an attorney. Personal support is important, but best kept private. Therapy?

I akso think you should read your state's nurse practice act and BON website. Does your lawyer have experience with your state's BON?

Meanwhile, I can't imagine dealing with all this while pulling shifts in ICU to pay for it all.

Take care of yourself. 

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Specializes in Med Surge ICU.

I have changed a lot of information so that it is non-identifiable. 

My lawyer does have experience with licensing boards. I am not really looking for legal advice, more so if anyone has been through this situation. 

Thank you for your support

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I've been in this situation many times with my ex as well I am a victim with 2 small children. 3 times 2011 which he violated every restraining order and again in 2017 and again in 2020 . Always been in family court whether it's criminal or not if there's children, custody and divorce involved cases go to family court . Since all this I now have PTSD . My way of coping is through my work life being a nurse and helping others. 

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NurseJamie1040 said:

Hello Fellow Nurses, 

I am looking for anyone who might have experience in this matter. Please no judgement. I will continue to fight this as I believe myself to be innocent. 

Let me preface this predicament I am in by saying I have already retained council and my lawyer and I will be further communicating about this on Friday. A bit about my situation. I have been an ICU nurse for 7 years. I love my career. I am a mother to four small children all under 7. My spouse and I, had a very difficult relationship (years of fighting which turned abusive and physical in the past years). While I was at work, my ex-spouse took out a temporary restraining order accusing me of domestic violence and child abuse. There were no criminal charges filed. Everything has been adducted in family court. My spouse pulled a lot of people out of the woodworks to make me look like a crazy person. The judge did not substantiate child abuse but did substantiate domestic violence. Again, nothing criminal, just family court. 

Please no judgement here. I am already disheartened by this situation. The restraining order is for 1 year. I am up for license renewal in September in California and New York in December. 

Has anyone had experience with a domestic violence restraining order that is not criminal and only occurred in family court in either of these states? 

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I've been this through this exact thing. How can I help. Do you want to give me your email 

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Specializes in Med Surge ICU.

Yes. I would really like to connect 

 

[email protected]

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Specializes in Med Surge ICU.

Sorry I mean [email protected]

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Specializes in Psy, PCU, Med-Surg.

I am a registered nurse.

My husband and I are in the midst of a separation. We often have petty quarrels, and the last one led to a physical altercation where I was deemed the aggressor.

He has been granted an EX PARTE. Since then, I have received several harassing calls, messages, and slandering post from his family threatening to use this information (case) to intentionally jeopardize my nursing license.

I am what you would consider to be a novice nurse, but I am truly good at what I do and enjoy doing it.....I would hate for this toxic marriage jeopardize everything I have worked for. What should I do?

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