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Exit interview: I want to report a sexually harrasser

Posted

Has 3 years experience.

Basically, I left my last hospital job because of covid and other personal reasons. 

I recently got an emaik for a compliance exit survey. It has a specific ID so its not anonymous like I would like it to be. 

I wanted to report about this other nurse who would touch me inappropriately. Never reported while I was still there because I was afraid of any form of retaliation or unneeded attention. 

I don't want to speak about my experience and I don't want to be a part of the HRs investigation. I want to remain anonymous. I don't want to do nothing with them ever. 

I'm scared they'd want to involve me in their investigations, call me in, have me panel interviewed, become blacklisted or whatever. The hospital is a tenet hospital so I'm scared to speak up.

Help need advice

Nunya, BSN

Specializes in NICU/Mother-Baby/Peds/Mgmt. Has 39 years experience.

You can report it but if you aren't willing to be questioned about it then they probably won't do anything.  How can they if you won't answer any questions they may have? They MIGHT go to the person you say did it, he/she will deny it and that'll be it.

EternalFeather

Has 3 years experience.

I guess Im just gonna leave it alone. Im so active for other people who are victims of sexual harassment but I cant do it for myself. 

Im just gonna try and move on. 

HiddencatBSN, BSN

Specializes in Peds ED. Has 10 years experience.

Exit interviews are to cya and benefit the employer, not you, not your coworkers. I decline them always. If they truly cared about those issues they would have made the climate and culture one where current employees felt empowered and safe bringing issues to light in real time.

I can understand the desire to not go through the headache and just leave it alone, but here's the thing: if it happened to you then it probably has happened, is happening, or will happen to someone else also until someone finally addresses it.

If this was a problem for you, and it seems like it was, then you need to report this person or at least confront them. Exit interview may not be the right place to do it, but letting it go only passes their predatory behavior on to someone else. Most facilities have some kind of help line for this kind of thing.

EternalFeather

Has 3 years experience.

It was problem. I would avoid that person as much as possible. It went on for a year. 

I told coworkers. I wasnt the only victim. Some even tolerate it. Apparently its an expected thing. 

Anyways, I'm not there anymore. Out of sight out of mind.

 

1 hour ago, EternalFeather said:

It was problem. I would avoid that person as much as possible. It went on for a year. 

I told coworkers. I wasnt the only victim. Some even tolerate it. Apparently its an expected thing. 

Anyways, I'm not there anymore. Out of sight out of mind.

 

That's terrible, how some people can get away with that. Next time, hopefully there is no next time, speak up right away. Don't be afraid if retaliation because you didn't do anything wrong. Don't be afraid to have attention called to you, you have nothing to be ashamed of. If people talk, then they will know you don't stand for sexual harassment, and that's a good thing. I'm sorry you were made to feel this way.