i'm exactly one month from pinning and it seems as though everything is falling apart. for one, i quit my job in may to focus on my last nursing course. i've worked for the first two semesters but that has been a living hell. i was stressed, depressed, and felt as if i could do better by working prn hours. i did the right things by saving money and paying my car note off for two months but its just not enough. i've been looking for prn cna jobs since before quitting my job but received nothing. loan money is gone as well, due to most for it paying for my classes.
to top everything off i'm supposed to be getting married in august but i don't see it happening. i never wanted a wedding but my fiance really do. so here i am planning this wedding that i don't see how we are going to be able to afford it. my parents are helping out as much as they could but his parents are putting up zero money for our wedding. my fiance has been paying for some of it too, but i know he can't do it on his own. and ofcourse i can't contribute anything. last but not least i may have to move out of my cousins house because she wants to get a dog and i'm an asthmatic and can't live with animals without going into respiratory distress. so i basically have to find a new place to live for the next 5 weeks until i can get married and move into my future husbands place. and no i can't move in with him before the wedding, its not even an option for us. even though i'll be done soon i still can't help but realize that i won't get a job as a nurse overnight, thus i'll be broke for a while. i don't even feel like i'm good enough to be a wife with out having a job. i just wish i can close my eyes and wake up married and a working nurse with all these nightmares behind me. just don't know what to do. if we push back the wedding it'll be the second time and i don't wan't to go through that again... especially with invites all sent out. this too shall pass, i have no choice but to hang in there. well, it was nice to vent but now i must go, get up and get to school. (sigh):zzzzz
Good movie for the newly married- Fireproof. Whether you agree with the religious aspects or not, the plan is great. Also the book "Love and Respect"- no expert here by any means, but we learned some new things from both and it helped make a good marriage even better. I know you didn't specifically ask for this at all, but I can't help myself, lol.
Being newly married and newly an RN, while both wonderful changes, can be very stressful. Have a plan to vent that stress through whatever floats your boat (ex- exercise, prayer, allnurses) is really key. You'll see- when you have RN after your name, it's a whole new ballpark. I've got to say the first year of both nursing and marriage were the most stressful to me, and are to many other people I've talked with. My husband and I actually came up with a "code word" that was funny and made us laugh to break the tension if an argument, or *ahem* "discussion was getting too heated. I remember we made a rule to only argue outside the door of our tiny apartment. Certainly made being nice to each other a lot easier with witnesses.
I'm just saying, with all the stress you're under right now (new job, new home, new grad, new husband) don't be surprised if it feels like a lot on your plate. Have a plan to take care of the stress before it gets worse.
Good movie for the newly married- Fireproof. Whether you agree with the religious aspects or not, the plan is great. Also the book "Love and Respect"- no expert here by any means, but we learned some new things from both and it helped make a good marriage even better. I know you didn't specifically ask for this at all, but I can't help myself, lol.
Being newly married and newly an RN, while both wonderful changes, can be very stressful. Have a plan to vent that stress through whatever floats your boat (ex- exercise, prayer, allnurses) is really key. You'll see- when you have RN after your name, it's a whole new ballpark. I've got to say the first year of both nursing and marriage were the most stressful to me, and are to many other people I've talked with. My husband and I actually came up with a "code word" that was funny and made us laugh to break the tension if an argument, or *ahem* "discussion was getting too heated. I remember we made a rule to only argue outside the door of our tiny apartment. Certainly made being nice to each other a lot easier with witnesses.
I'm just saying, with all the stress you're under right now (new job, new home, new grad, new husband) don't be surprised if it feels like a lot on your plate. Have a plan to take care of the stress before it gets worse.
Thanks !! I seen that movie and it was an inspiration.
for one, i quit my job in may to focus on my last nursing course. i've worked for the first two semesters but that has been a living hell. i was stressed, depressed, and felt as if i could do better by working prn hours. i did the right things by saving money and paying my car note off for two months but its just not enough. i've been looking for prn cna jobs since before quitting my job but received nothing. loan money is gone as well, due to most for it paying for my classes. 
Purple_Scrubs, BSN, RN
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Can you ask your cousin to hold off another 5 weeks to get her dog? That does not seem like a lot to ask her. Hang in there, hun! It will work out!