Do you ever just feel drained??? like you're lacking emotional support

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Hey everyone, I'm a nursing student in my second year, done in may (Gd willing). I'm taking the hardest class last as part of this semester (oncology/endocrine and it's also gI). Anyways, besides for that, I just feel drained emotionally, physically. I am a 26 year old nursing student. This is my second degree my first one was a Bachelor's in nutrition which took me 5 years because I transferred and there were different requirements. That was difficult and I worked hard but I didn't think I had the grades for BSN accelerated program so I started at an ASN program. I'm doing well 3.38 GPA. I study my ass off and I work part time like 16 hrs a week. My parents always bring up the fact that I've been in school for so long they think I'm trying to push off work. My dad is explosive with his anger, he only talks to me when he has something negative to stay and I just keep breaking down crying. I'm doing my studying and there's 5 weeks left I know but it's just like what do you do when you feel emotionally exhausted. Most of my friends live at least an hour away so I don't get to go out during the school year or I don't feel like I can because I have work and it takes me so long to get to my friends. I just feel like I'm missing out on an important part of 20's where most people are meeting people and going out and far into their jobs I'm still doing this. All this just keeps going through my mind and my parents are constantly yelling at me for something. I can't really do anything right. So how do you cope, get through school. I mean I've been doing it but it feels like I'm dragging myself day to day, especially this has been my hardest semester thus far. ahhhh help, does anyone feel like this?Can you have a life and do school and work.

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I know exactly how you feel. I get no emotional support PERIOD. I'm 25 with a 2yr old and a 1yr old. My boyfriend and I live together. I moved 45 minutes away to be with him 3 years ago. I habe no family here I have no friends here. I cook, clean, and take care of my kids and needless to say I'm up late every night studying for hours to keep up while everyone is sleep. My boyfriend feels like he shouldn't have to help me with the kids because he works and lays the bills. I can't afford daycare so he watches them while I go to class but sometimes he is late getting home and I end up late for class or sometimes missing it altogether. Its so hard. Daycare is so expensive amd when I was working my check was only enough to cover daycare.. its so hard right now.

I just keep reminding myself that it will all be with it once I graduate and this is the sacrifice that has to be made so now instead of complaining to him about all the things I have to do I just do it... I **** my mouth and do it because when its all said and done ill be the one with the degree making good money and living the life I know me and my kids deserve. Right now I am my own emotional support. We will do it!

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Hey everyone I'm a nursing student in my second year, done in may (Gd willing). I'm taking the hardest class last as part of this semester (oncology/endocrine and it's also gI). Anyways, besides for that, I just feel drained emotionally, physically. I am a 26 year old nursing student. This is my second degree my first one was a Bachelor's in nutrition which took me 5 years because I transferred and there were different requirements. That was difficult and I worked hard but I didn't think I had the grades for BSN accelerated program so I started at an ASN program. I'm doing well 3.38 GPA. I study my ass off and I work part time like 16 hrs a week. My parents always bring up the fact that I've been in school for so long they think I'm trying to push off work. My dad is explosive with his anger, he only talks to me when he has something negative to stay and I just keep breaking down crying. I'm doing my studying and there's 5 weeks left I know but it's just like what do you do when you feel emotionally exhausted. Most of my friends live at least an hour away so I don't get to go out during the school year or I don't feel like I can because I have work and it takes me so long to get to my friends. I just feel like I'm missing out on an important part of 20's where most people are meeting people and going out and far into their jobs I'm still doing this. All this just keeps going through my mind and my parents are constantly yelling at me for something. I can't really do anything right. So how do you cope, get through school. I mean I've been doing it but it feels like I'm dragging myself day to day, especially this has been my hardest semester thus far. ahhhh help, does anyone feel like this?Can you have a life and do school and work.[/quote']

I dont see why your parents are complaining because you are doing the right thing by going to school to make a career for yourself. A lot of parents wished that they had a child like yourself. Ive felt physically drained at times during nursing school because of the studying and having 2 kids. My parents has always supported me. Just turn all of this negativity into something positive and be glad that you are starting your career young because you do not want to be in your 30's 40's 50's possibly with a family and bills and it might be harder. After you are done school, everything that youve felt like youve been missing out on, do it and celebrate and to be honest, youre not missing to much. Good Luck hun

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I know exactly how you feel. I get no emotional support PERIOD. I'm 25 with a 2yr old and a 1yr old. My boyfriend and I live together. I moved 45 minutes away to be with him 3 years ago. I habe no family here I have no friends here. I cook, clean, and take care of my kids and needless to say I'm up late every night studying for hours to keep up while everyone is sleep. My boyfriend feels like he shouldn't have to help me with the kids because he works and lays the bills. I can't afford daycare so he watches them while I go to class but sometimes he is late getting home and I end up late for class or sometimes missing it altogether. Its so hard. Daycare is so expensive amd when I was working my check was only enough to cover daycare.. its so hard right now.

I just keep reminding myself that it will all be with it once I graduate and this is the sacrifice that has to be made so now instead of complaining to him about all the things I have to do I just do it... I **** my mouth and do it because when its all said and done ill be the one with the degree making good money and living the life I know me and my kids deserve. Right now I am my own emotional support. We will do it!

Girl I just dont understand why guys feel as if they shouldnt have to help us women with the kids as if theyre not their responsibility to. So what if he works and pays all of the bills, you are in school doing something positive, not laying around looking cute and lazy. Sometimes you have to be your own support and turn negatives into positives. Good Luck girl

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Blondie I went thru the same thing when I was in nursing school...i was second degree student,26 and had to move back with my parents during nursing ....they couldn't understand why I would want to go back to school for a ADN if I had a bachelors already or why I was constantly stressed about nursing school, working, volunteering or why i couldn't be around in family events...and like you most of my friends like 30 min away or were moving on with their lives getting married and having success careers...I went through a quarter life crisis...but taking to my sister and nursing friends helped. I mean I still didn't seem to have a life during nursing school but just know it gets better!I survived it and so will you...when nursing school is done you will feel relief and then on to the next challenge finding your first RN job :)

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I'm sorry you're having a rough time. I'm in a different situation but also the loneliness is there. However, I now have a decent support system. My step-mom went through the same program and graduated in her 50's so she understands. I have a couple friends who understand I'm busy so we meet for brunch every couple months. I made some good friends in my program who totally understand because we're all in this together. So my advice at this point would be to work on your social network. sounds hard because you're so overwhelmed right now, but it will make a world of difference.

Also, be aware that the seasons are changing and this ALWAYS drains me. I have a little SAD (seasonal affective disorder) so I know I have to make an extra effort around this time to take care of myself. Make sure you're getting exercise and enough sleep (2 of the most important things in my life). Instead of hanging out at home, go to the library, go to a study group. remove yourself from the negativity as much as possible.

Take care, you can do this

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I see where you are coming from. My family sounds similar to your family, and they are not very supportive. I know it is hard, but you should try to find a way to make some new friends. Join a group or start volunteering to meet new people. I feel that my mental and emotional wellbeing is just as important as doing well in school, so I make time for my friends. If you are a person of faith go to church or synagogue, even if you haven't been in a long time. Find an outlet outside of your family to be supportive. More than likely, your family is not going to change and start to be more supportive, so you have to find others to help you meet that need.

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Girl I just dont understand why guys feel as if they shouldnt have to help us women with the kids as if theyre not their responsibility to. So what if he works and pays all of the bills, you are in school doing something positive, not laying around looking cute and lazy. Sometimes you have to be your own support and turn negatives into positives. Good Luck girl

Exactly. I tell him that all the time. His favorite quote. ."that's your job!" Excuse me?

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