Divorce and nursing school

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My husband filed for divorce back in june because he does not want to stop his daily routine of drinking and told me that my schooling has put us in so much debt that we will never get ahead. Since dec i took a break from school because i could no longer afford it, but after saving money i was able to transfer to a new program and started in aug. i have 9 months left in this new program, but im wondering, how do you cope? Lately i have been feeling like my world is crashing down on me and the amount of work i have for school is overwhelming.

I know i dont want him back because of his alcohol problem but it hurts to know that he would rather have alcohol over me. We were married for 5 yrs but together for 14 yrs.

any suggestions or advice would be appreciated

My classmate is going through something similar and we are graduating in 9 months as well. Her husband out of the blue told her he was divorcing her and moving to another state. She is handling it well but pretty much is pushing off the emotional aspect of it until she graduates because she can't fall apart right now. She has three kids, works, and can't afford not to finish. I'm not sure how she is doing honestly, she just keeps pushing ahead, and she is doing well. I keep telling her that in the end, he is the one who will suffer the consequences of his actions. She will be an RN and have the knowledge that she was a good wife and didn't deserve that. In a way, I think she has used him as a motivating factor, refusing to let his actions get in the way of her accomplishments. So sorry this is happening, big hugs, hang in there.

You can do this. There have been plenty of people in your position. Don't drop out, just finish.

Specializes in Critical Care, Education.

You're not alone. It seems as though 'going back to school' is associated with marital problems. In some cases, I think that the student spouse is seeking a positive change and a more positive future. In other instances, the non-student is threatened by the loss of familiar patterns & unable to change - particularly if it's a change in power dynamic that will occur as their spouse becomes more confident and independent.

I know how busy you are, but it would certainly be beneficial if you had support & counseling to get through this rough time. There are divorce support groups in most larger communities - try Googling and see what you come up with. There are also online communities. Take care of yourself. We're cheering you on.

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((((Hugs)))) I'm so sorry for what you are going through. Look at it this way, though: he's done you enough damage already. He chose the bottle over you, left you, and had the gall to blame you for it (your schooling is costing so much...although alcohol ain't cheap. Just saying.) You have worked hard in school, preparing to achieve a dream and better yourself. Don't let him have that power to ruin this for you, too.

My ex-fiance left me during nursing school. One day he just told me that when the lease was up on our house he was moving to a new city without me. I was in denial about it but, 3 months later he left and I moved in with my parents for the remainder of school. We got back together for a while and he ended up cheating so, that made things even worse. I was majorly depressed. Plus, one night studying at another students apartment my car was stolen, with my purse, phone and book bag inside. I can say it was the worst year of my life and I still made it thru school. I do believe my grades did suffer though. I graduated with a 91-B average but, I think I could've done better if I were less stressed. I also took anxiety medicine for a while too and that helped a bit. It sucks and it's very stressful but, it can be done. :x3: Good luck

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