Discrimination in the workplace by your boss female, how do you handle it?

[LifeisChange1]

Discriminated at the workplace on the 4th day of training by the new boss. How do you handle it?

[Buyer beware, BSN]

What do you mean by discrimination? We cannot give an opinion without more detail. If you cannot give more detail, that is understood.

OP: I have to admit that when you used the world "discrimination" until I realized you were a female, I thought you were talking about reverse discrimination being a male; in which case in my experience few in nursing care about. So be it. Because, for better or worse, the majority ultimately sets the rules (but there's no requirement to like it).

So when I think about discrimination I think of some predatory adverse consequence visited upon you as a result of, you know, race, sex, religion or national origin. And often by the male against everyone else phenomenon. So I suppose that kind of default thinking is culturally inculcated, at least from my self-limiting perspective. But in your case, as a female being discriminated against by another female, it definitely tells me this is another area that needs more information so as to elicit the help and advice you need.

For practical purposes you should know that in 99 out of 100 instances of discrimination charges being successfully lodged against an employer, or whomever, for the previously listed causes, meticulous documentation over time needs to be made as well as, and here's the key, having a third party actually overhear someone say, for example: "I don't like you because you look like X, Y or Z which I don't like and am therefore not offering you the opportunity to share in the organization's wealth and other perks for a job well done." But how many scoundrels actually say that. The skullduggery is always a lot more furtive in nature making it that much more diabolical.

So although we know that discrimination exists in the hearts of some spiteful individuals, the standard of proof is high because in the eyes of many people of goodwill the charge is to be taken very seriously.

I think this may be the case concerning roser13, ASN's need to have more facts. Because no one wants to be the victim of discrimination or let someone else be its victim. Those days should be over. But I suppose, like lots of things, remains a work in progress.

[Buyer beware, BSN]

What do you mean by discrimination? We cannot give an opinion without more detail. If you cannot give more detail, that is understood.

OP: I have to admit when you used the world "discrimination" until I realized you were a female, I thought you were talking about reverse discrimination being a male; in which case, in my experience, few in nursing care about. Also when I think about discrimination I think of some predatory adverse consequence visited upon you as a result of, you know, race, sex, religion or national origin.

For practical purposes, you should know that in 99 out of 100 instances of charges being successfully lodged against an employer, or whomever, for the previously listed causes, meticulous documentation over time needs to be made as well as, and here's the key, having a third party actually overhear someone say, for example: "I don't like you because you look like X, Y or Z which I don't like and am therefore not offering you the opportunity to share in the organisation's wealth and opportunity for a job well done.

So although we know that discrimination exists in the hearts of some spiteful individuals, the standard of proof is high because in the eyes of many people of goodwill the charge is to be taken very seriously.

I think this may be the case concerning roser13, ASN's need to have more facts. Because no one wants to be the victim of discrimination or let someone else be its victim. Those days should be over but I suppose like lots of things remains a work in progress.

[TheCommuter, BSN, RN]

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[kbrn2002, ADN, RN]

With such limited information it is difficult to give a useful response. I guess the best advice I can give that if whatever situation you are talking about is perceived as discrimination by you then you should continue your job hunt. Whether it truly is discrimination is almost immaterial. If you are that uncomfortable only 4 days in then it may be time to cut your losses and go elsewhere. The only circumstance that would make me say otherwise is if you have signed a binding contract with your employer, as that would really complicate how easy it would be to just leave.