Did anyone tell you, you couldn't do it?

[Dtermnd2Bgreat]

I want to be a nurse and one day I hope I will be. But sometimes it can be so discouraging when you have people telling you, you can't do it. They say you're dumb, unfocused and just doesn't have what it takes to be a nurse. I just don't get how cruel people can be sometimes. So I was wondering if any of you had people put you down and and discourage you from doing something?

My mother told me...was too stupid. Then told me ... I was too stupid then ... told me again I was too stupid ... and did my employer know how stupid I was. She told me up until the day she died I was stupid and would always be stupid.

Your mother was a serial child abuser... and was probably abused herself.

[brewski09]

Yes, I would say they told most of us in our ADN program were told we wouldn't make good nurses. Several of us have gone on to get jobs in critical care without a BSN. It made us tougher and closer, but definitely tested our resilience. It would have been very difficult to do alone, but our group did a lot of non-nursing social gatherings for moral support. If you know you are doing well and someone is telling you that you won't be a good RN, then keep working and put them behind you.

[weemsp]

To the " you're too stupid" poster...

I'm really sorry....and I say that with a heart filled with sorrow for you. But look at you now!!? I offer you my applause for reaching beyond the "apron strings" and grabbing your own success!!!

You're an inspiration to all of us " kids" who heard cruel, discouraging comments throughout our youth!!

[weemsp]

My mother told me all thru LPN school I was too stupid. Then told me all thru LPN-RN I was too stupid then sat and watched CCU monitors with me one night and told me again I was too stupid to know what I was doing and did my employer know how stupid I was. She told me up until the day she died I was stupid and would always be stupid. I never understood why. But I NEVER EVER told my children even the one that was medically and mentally handicapped they were stupid.

Sorry all...quoted the wrong post....then went to correct it and lost my way back...

My above message refers to this.

[fluffypancakes]

"You are the director of your future." Beautiful! Yes, one can accomplish whatever he/she puts his/her mind to.

[dudette10, MSN, RN]

No. I have always had a lot of support around me, plus I'm extremely determined when I want something. I've taught myself many things in my life, by myself, starting with roller skating when I was 7. I fell a lot, hurt a lot, but I got back up. In my previous career, I was a "star," getting the accolades and promotions, earning a performance bonus on many projects, including my very first professional project as a new hire right out of college.

A lot of success is believing in yourself. I know that sounds trite and slightly maudlin, but it's absolutely true.

I will say that getting in the groove of nursing is the most difficult thing I've ever done. It's a hard job. It's difficult to learn to be good at it. I've never felt like a failure until I started nursing. Nearly two years later, I'm finally thinking, "Hey, I might actually be good at this." Not perfect--there's always something to learn every day--but good.

[kbrn2002, ADN, RN]

Yes,

I had a nursing instructor ask me "how would you like a nurse like you taking care of your mother"? Exact words and will never forget them. I am a thorough, caring, and compassionate nurse of 5 years. I cried every clinical with that woman.

How horrible! Scary that somebody with that attitude toward a student is responsible for teaching future nurses. Good for you for persevering and proving her wrong.