Dating Coworkers

[Wake88]

*GASP!* Say it ain't so!

No, really. What's your take on it?

Some have a golden rule: don't do it. Other coworkers are married to each other.

I had a bad experience asking a coworker out in the past, BUT, in hindsight, it turns out she's seven shades of crazy. According to her friends she's crazy (more than usual ladies[i KID, I KID!!!])

So I've got this other lady I'm working with. A fellow CNA. Wonderful, friendly, silly, sweet personality. Usually wants to talk with me, wants me to talk with her after work about how my day went. Has a habit of bumping/walking into me at least four times, and sometimes I don't think it's on accident. She's goofy, and keeps tapping my side/arms, and frequently pulls me over to show me whats on her phone. She's making beautiful jewelry made of resin and the shedded skin of her lizard (it's actually quite nice-looking).

I'm a big, muscular-y guy into working out and nursing. And I'm shy as all hell. What holds me back is the apprehension of dating a coworker. I'm cool, but I have no flipping idea how a coworker would react if we dated but, say, it went south. She has such a pretty soul (which is what I find attractive), but I don't know if I should take the risk. If she said yes and doesn't behave psycho (I have seen people attacked with plates), then that would be awesome. With all this working out I don't feel scared of asking her: just worried what could happen.

Need to hear your take on this please.

[whichone'spink, BSN, RN]

I work with a whole family that work in OR and PACU. My coworker works in PACU, her father and uncle are CRNAs. My coworker's mother worked in the OR until a few years ago apparently, and didn't seem to be an issue with her husband working as a CRNA. I know of nurses in ICU who are married to each other, and some still work in the same department with each other.

[Garden,RN, ASN, RN]

I would say be careful because you could end up being accused of sexual harassment, that is the sad reality. Having warned you, I would say tastefully and gently like the perfect gentle person that you are, go for it. If I had not met my now ex at work, I would never have been married because that was all I did, work. I think it is healthy for people to date and make families and very normal. Now you do have to be careful, beware of many things. For example stay away from people that are in relationships and looking to cheat. Try to know the person, is this someone that will get psycho if it doesn't work out or is this a mature person that you can have a friendship with even if it does not work out. At 54, contrary to what most people would agree, I think that for many of us the workplace is a perfect place to meet, but keep it very clean and respect your jobs and yourselves.

[Garden,RN, ASN, RN]

I like the question so speak for yourself. Why not? It is a legitimate employment question. No need for nasty. If someone urinated in the cereal make a different posts and we can talk about that too. Be nice!

[ReadyToListen, CNA, EMT-B]

I've been asked out by coworkers who are not clinical staff (I work all units prn). One of them I turned down and he's been professional towards me since. For the other, we discussed it briefly and decided against it and nobody ever had a clue. So I can't comment on belonging to a unit but I don't have any problem with the idea. I say go for it and keep it away from work, can be done!