Crossing the Line?

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My first post on this board, and I have a feeling it is sure to attract some heated debate. Here goes...

I've been a nurse for almost 8 yrs and was working most recently at a Level I trauma center in the SICU. Had been working there about 6 months when I started taking care of a 33yo male patient who was injured in a motorcycle accident. He had suffered a T6 complete spinal cord injury and had to be stabilized before he could have extensive surgery to fuse his spine. He was on our unit for approximately 3 weeks, most of the time on the vent w/ heavy paralytics and sedation on board. I was working like mad back then (12 hr noc shifts, tons of overtime) and took care of him most nights I worked. He was barely conscious the majority of the time I cared for him, but the last few days before he was transferred to a stepdown unit (where they almost killed him I might add) he was awake (no head injury, thank God), extubated and being weaned off the sedation. I recognized early on that while the other nurses and the doctors that cared for him gave him the technical care he needed, none of them were supporting him emotionally through such a devastating injury (paralyzed at age 33!). His only family was his dad and he had some friends that inquired about him, though they did not visit in those early stages after his accident. After being transferred to a stepdown unit I began to visit him regularly before and after my shifts and we talked at great length about his accident, injury, recovery etc. I had become a trusted friend and advocate to him and, since he was no longer a patient on the unit where I worked, I was comfortable with that. His recovery was complicated and there were numerous instances when the care he received was less than optimal (bordering malpractice I believe). I tried to bring these issues to the attention of the staff on the other units he was on but was met with a great deal of resistance. Most of the nurses were extremely defensive (especially when they found out I was an evil SICU nurse!). My manager came to me and said she had gotten some complaints from the nurses on the other units he was on, saying that I was "overstepping my bounds." I tried to explain to my manager about the horrible care he was receiving and she brushed me off. Long story short (too late now, huh) I stuck to my guns and advocated for this person (I was told more than once that I'm not a family member, don't get involved, blah, blah, blah). Both the patient and I got into it w/ the other nurses, managers, administrators (I was suspended for 2 days pending an "investigation"...more like an inquisition). He received HORRIBLE care and gross mismanagement almost killed him. To this day he will tell people that if I hadn't intervened on several occasions he would be dead...the senior surgical resident even told me that himself. I've read all the article about "inappropriate therapeutic relationships" with patients but this was nothing like this. A friendship had developed after the time I took care of him on my unit, there was nothing romantic or sexual in nature, and most of all he trusted me to be his advocate during this awful time. I was so disgusted with the management at that institution. I was disgusted with nursing in general at that point. I ended up getting fired some 5 months after that situation, allegedly for calling in sick too many times, though I suspect that had less to do with it than the fact that I had become a squeaky wheel around that place, pointing out the gross malpractice going on. As I told management during my 2 day "inquisition", I would do it all over again and, if needed, I would hire an attorney. Many of those close to me, who knew all the details, suggested I hire an attorney, but to be honest, my main concern was making sure this patient got the kind of care he deserved. Despite being fired form that institution (trust me, they don't "listen better" as their craft advertising slogan goes), I WOULD do it all over again. And if inquiring minds want to know...my friendhip with this patient did develop into a relationship...AFTER he was discharged. I've seen him progress through rehab and getting aclimated to his new world of paraplegia, and having him become a part of my life means more to me than any run-of-the-mill nursing job in the world. Any comments?

As I sat down at the computer to read some of the replies today I must admit I was really releived to see so many positive comments. After reading some of the other replies to posts on this boards I was a little nervous at first...

mattsmom81: point taken re: "if you ask yourself if you are 'crossing the line' you probably already have." I certainly knew I was crossing a line, but I think you and are are talking about two different lines. The one I'm talking about is crossing over into actually standing up for what is right, not just watching it happen and ragging about it later over coffee or drinks with my coworkers. I know we've all been there, sitting around after work or on the phone, talking about such and such patient and how crappily (for lack of a better word) they were taken care of and how, if it were me/my loved one I would have done such and such. I think I had finally reached a point where, after nearly 8 years of hearing the suits in administration sell their propoganda about "the patient coming first" or needing to do "what's in the patient's best interest", well, I ACTUALLY expected them to deliver!

HelllllloNurse hit the nail on the head for me...it really does feel like a bunch of lip service from administration. Though this happened many months ago, the frustration and bitterness toward "the system" is still with me.

Canoehead, I am worried that this hypocrisy inherent in the healthcare profession is making me rethink a long career in nursing. Perhaps I just need some time off and need to learn from this experience and heed the wise words of sjoe...next time carry both a sword and a shield. I only wish there were some way to let that particular hospital/system know how badly they let this patient (and this nurse) down.

Specializes in ER.

They know they are letting people down every day, and here's a news flash for you- they don't care. That's why caring devoted nurses like yourself are so precious,and so important to keep in the profession. Otherwise the patient becomes a "market share" and the nurse is no different from a piece of equipment.

Specializes in Hemodialysis, Home Health.
Originally posted by Hellllllo Nurse

JadedNurse,

Seriously, you advocated for your pt, plain and simple. Employers love to hear noise from nurses about their pts coming first, but when you actually base your nursing interventions and behaviors on those ideals, mgmt does not like that one bit. Lip service to pt advocasy is as far as they go.

Ditto. Good job !

Specializes in Med-Surg, Trauma, Ortho, Neuro, Cardiac.

I've had to think about this one. Kudos for being a patient advocate.

But I was also thinking two things. One an ICU nurse going to med-surg perhaps doesn't realize the world of med-surg is completely different and they can not provide the same level of care. Two, like certain family members nothing they could have possibly done would have been good enough for your friend.

Now if you've honestly looked at the above, as I'm sure you have because you said they were borderline malpractice. Did you follow the chain of command? Did you do an incident report. Was the battle after you got fired not worth the fight if they are malpracticing? If it were my loved one and I got fired for interfering in care (even if that wasn't the official reason), I would be writing the papers, I would consider getting a lawyer. I know we must choose our battles. But perhaps you were a bit jaded because of your personal involvement. But I'm sure you've looked at these issues carefully.

I'm glad you held them accountable. Para's are often neglected on the floor. I've seen it too. They aren't turned properly and q2h, their bowel routine isn't adhered to, their pt isn't what it should be. When they come to the floor after ICU, I always screamed "get them to rehab FAST!".

Good job jaded. I agree, you may have become 'too involved" but SO WHAT???? Define 'too involved'...........isn't being 'involved' what nursing is all about?? and, agree w/ others who say that advocacy is not generally appreciated by management.........and just bet they, and other nurses encouraged you to feel 'over-involved'............agree, level of care is different from ICU to floor, but why?? That tends to be a management expectation and a convenient way to dismiss negligent care.........furthermore, i think, floor nurses at times expect themselves to provide less comprehensive care because they truly are not able to provide better with their staffing ratios..........how many of the nurses told you they would do things differently but were short staffed during his stay..???? not just an excuse, is the truth, and sometimes needs to be brought to our attention, because think we all learn ways of getting through a shift that isn't meeting all of our patients needs...............because we can't.............doesn't mean the ideal shouldn't be held up for us to re-evaluate where we are failing it.............and management generally doesn't appreciate it, and, neither do the floor nurses at the time, as are so overworked and overwhelmed to start with, that alone tends to make one defensive, when you are trying to do your best, and in your heart you know that care could be better............if you could ever get the time........... see it as a management and systems failure, not the nurses and not yours........way to go, jaded and sorry for such rambling.

I'm sure you did all that you could, and were probably wronged, but getting an attorney at this point, since you two are now romantically involved will probably make it look worse. People will say you only "crossed the line" because you were already romantically involved, which may bring more repercussions for you in the long run, or finding another job, if using them as a reference.

Not my opinion, but others may see it that way.

Good luck

Originally posted by 3rdShiftGuy

I've had to think about this one. Kudos for being a patient advocate.

But I was also thinking two things. One an ICU nurse going to med-surg perhaps doesn't realize the world of med-surg is completely different and they can not provide the same level of care. Two, like certain family members nothing they could have possibly done would have been good enough for your friend.

I appreciate your comments and there are some points I want to clarify:

First, he wasn't in med-surg, he was in a 6 bed step-down unit staffed by 2 RNs and a care tech. Each RN was responsible for only 3 patients because of the acuity. You stated that "like certain family memebers nothing they could have possibly done would have been good enough for your friend." I am not talkning about fluffing his pillow or bending his straw for him, I'm talking about basic vital nursing care. The patient's respiratory status was compromised. He had bilateral chest tubes (had multiple, recurring pneumothorax/multiple fractured ribs/flail chest etc. after his injury), had been intubated for 18 days, had a poor cough effort (T6 complete SCI thus affecting the innervation his muscles in his thorax/abdomen), was on PCA morphine...monitoring his respiratory status was A PRIORITY! When they admitted him from the SICU their pulse ox on his monitor was not working (this is a monitored unit). The nurse and the tech didn't even bother to replace the pulse ox with a working module! When I came in to see him later that morning (some 6 hours after he had been transferred to that floor) they still didn't have one on him (he ws supposed to be having it monitored continuously). The patient said he asked about it but they never got around to finding a working one. I basically had to RAISE HELL for them to even get that goinjg. When they finally did, he was tachyppneic, and hypoxic. Yet, incredibly, the nurse had the gumption to tell me that he was "fine" all morning. They even documented hourly sats on him (I saw the charting) even though the patient (who was A/Ox4) states they never tried to check it again!

This is just one example of the ridiculous things that went on. When the physician ordered one of his chest tubes put to water seal, the nurse disconnected it from wall suction but also clamped the vent port. He ended up with another pneumo. You didn't need a stethescope to even hear how crappy his breathing was. Their answer to his sats being low was to turn down the alarm limit on the sat monitor (once they finally managed to get a working one on him). While his respiratory status was declining he had a series of chest xrays...one showed a worsening pneumo and the resident never signed that out to the on call resident. She nver followed up and the next morning I walk in and their putting another chest tube in him. I could go on, but I hope you get the picture...

While I am an ICU nurse I too have worked the floors, it's where I started. So don't asssume I don't know what it's like. We weren't being "demanding" for silly reasons...these things were basic and if a nurse can't recognize a worsening respiratory status there is no excuse... I don't care HOW busy you are!

Second, I did discuss my concerns, first with the nurses/techs that were providing the care, next with the managers, etc. However, issues like these just kept happening and management and administration, instead of addressing them, decided to focus on my involvement in his care versus addressing these issues. When I asked what would be done, they simply said they couldn't address it with me b/c it would violate the rights of the nurses they would discuss the issues with.

Someone in an earlier post suggested that the patient should have talked to management himself. As most patients, he was acutely ill/injured and had a lot on his mind and lacked the familiarity of the "system" to address his concerns properly. Oh, not to mention he was having trouble even breathing at that point. He ended up crashing, getting intubated again, was paralyzed and sedated for a week and then got trached. The struggles continued after he was off the vent, but still trached, and had difficulty communicating. I made phonecalls on his behalf, but even when he could get a manager/administrator to come to his room to address some of these issues, none of them took the time to sit there while he laboriously wrote on a clipboard to communicate. Not to mention they were rude and defensive.

Sorry for the rambling 3rdShiftGuy, but I just wanted to clarify those things and again, appreciate all of your comments.

Originally posted by mattsmom81

It is important to support excellent care and support our patients and I have no problem doing that. How do we draw the line when our 'concern' for patient care disrupts another unit? IMO the best way to problem solve poor care issues is through appropriate chain of command, not direct personal involvement.

It's important for nurses to recognize when we may be crossing professional boundaries with patients and coworkers....and take a moment to step back and analyze actions and feelings.

Looks like I will be the lone dissenter here, because I feel the OP MAY have crossed that line, and from her post, she may recognize this too. It seems to be a risk she was willing to take.

One of my wise ol' instructors waaay back told me "If you ask yourself if you are 'crossing the line', you probably already have. "

We can't possibly know the whole story, and I always try hard not to judge another nurse harshly until I've walked in his/her shoes. This goes for the OP AND the staff she reported.

Excellent post mattsmom. jaded nurse, I'm confident that I would have been fired if I did exactly the same things you did. Were you a patient advocate -- absolutely. Did you cross the line -- I believe you did. My hope is that "he" (don't know what to call him) continues to rehab to his best possible health ... and you both enjoy your lives.

Originally posted by susanmary

Excellent post mattsmom. jaded nurse, I'm confident that I would have been fired if I did exactly the same things you did. Were you a patient advocate -- absolutely. Did you cross the line -- I believe you did. My hope is that "he" (don't know what to call him) continues to rehab to his best possible health ... and you both enjoy your lives.

Thanks for your input. I'm sure others feel the same way you do. I don't regret doing it though, maybe just wish I had done it better though. Hard to explain unless you were actually there going through it. While some may think I crossed the line, I'm comforted by knowing that 'he" (I'm not using his name to protect his privacy) is sure glad someone did!

Specializes in critical care, med/surg.

I applaud you for your bravery! If you believe that you made the right choices, then you did.

Read my signature line!

jadednurse, are you working now? Did you find support from any of your coworkers on your former unit?

Susanmary, no, I am not working right now. I suppose that's why I have all this time to rattle away at the computer ;) LOL.

Yes, I have a few trusted colleages that were supportive during all of this, though since they never witnessed any of this I wouldn't expect any of them to get involved. It was nice to have people to discuss this with though. Only wish I knew about this BB back then...I might have gotten some better input.

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