my classmates HATE me

[hpynurs2b]

hallo everyone,

When i started nursing school i made a handful of friends in my class. However, one of the friends i had during pre-nursing dumped me soon after we got to nursing school. She never actually said i dont want to be friends, she just started treating me really badly. She was rude to me and would mock the way i speak and make fun of some of the things i would say. Well, i ignored her and eventually we stoped talking altogether.

I think she started spreading rumours about me, because one by one all our other friends started treating me the same way. I asked them why they were treating me like dirt and whether i had done anything to upset them. They said that i had not done anything and everything was ok. Later i would find out that they had study sessions or had lunch together and had not invited me to join them. Last year one of them told our instructor that i was looking at her paper doing an exam. I was mortified. I could not believe that she would accuse me of cheating. I would never do anything that stupid. We have not talked since that incident. I think that now they are telling people that i dont want to study with them because i can do better without them etc etc.

Recently i have noticed that when I do talk to my other classmates I get dirty, angry looks. I dont know what is being said about me now.

I am at my wits end. I am having such a difficult time concentrating on my studies, today i just felt like giving up and applying to another nursing school. i really dont know what to do. I can't confront anybody because i dont know who in the group is spreading rumours about me. I also cannot take another day of snickering and sneering behind my back.

If anyone has any suggestions about how to handle this situation, i am listening!

[RheatherN, ASN, RN, EMT-P]

There are a couple of girls in my class that pull that also. i have not had personal experience with this in school, but many other issues that have made for problems in clinicals.

Really, people just need to friggin GROW UP! Totally agree with mama!

-H-

[PeachPie]

One thing I do to keep respect around me is to make it clear that I am on the straight and narrow. I learned pretty early on that even if you are innocent, simple association or accusations can get you in hot water. Therefore, I try to prevent anything that might involve me.

Foe example, I was going to dinner during clinicals with a couple classmates. They were loudly talking about the patient's condition while we were walking down the hall. I said one word, "HIPAA." That shut them right up. My aim was not to be a goody-two shoes, it was simply to remind them of what they were doing wrong, and more importantly to prevent myself from being associated with them if they were caught. This is great for nipping in the bud.

Another time, when people were whispering during a test review after the instructor said that it would be punishable by flunking, I told people, "Do not talk to me during reviews. You heard the instructor's threats. If you want to risk flunking your own grades, fine. However, do not risk my standing. I don't want to be assumed to be an accomplice just because you don't follow the rules."

My intention is not to be a goody two shoes. I am not a morality vulture who uses other people's mistakes to boost herself. I simply make it clear that I'm not going to stray from the rules, and without threatening or lecturing, hint to them to stay on behavior.

If they are bugging you in clinicals, maybe you could mention, "I hear that the instructor will be dropping in unexpectedly," which will hopefully light fires under their butts and make them at least seem busy rather than bug you.

[bowser301]

wow, i honestly honestly thought i was the only one.

i used to be in another batch before, but for some reason they all stopped. i had to stop at that time since i had to work, so i was transferred to another batch that had like 11 students (mine had 6 before).

anyway theres this one really mean girl there, she isnt a girl anymore..shes 33 or 34. whenever i ask the teacher a question, she'd loudly smirk. like to imply i was stupid in a sense that "oh she didnt get it!". this would happen in the morning, and of course i'd be in a not good mood. she'd then tell people i was "bipolar". she also made jokes about my boyfriend's race at one point. i am friends w/ some girls at class and i would be trying to ask them about her, like, if shes really a bad person. shes done so much against me but i was still giving her space to maybe one day turn into a good person or something. they say shes ok and blah blah, they say shes judgemental. but that's about it, they never say shes bad or whatever. but it felt bad, the stuff she says, damn mighty tackless. she even said my high school had a lot of slutty and cheap girls.

the other day i openly admired her for administering a shot properly, and i was like "thats nice cause i dont really know how to do it properly since i havent had the chance to do it yet, and i dont remember the steps" and shes like "that's because ur absent minded." i was so shocked like..for the first time in my life i looked at a person w/ my mouth open :imbar and i swear i wasnt able to at least hide the hurt in my eyes. she quickly said "oh, take that as constructive criticism".

ever since that, i decided, darn..she is a bad person. i dont need to ask people if she is. shes a bad person to me, and i dont need to face her or be friends w/ her. i tried, but sadly its not possible.