I'm a fourth semester nursing student and I had a nursing instructor invite me into two sessions with her after lecture class to talk with me about personal issues. She wanted to know what was going on. I told her my mother got laid off and I had to use the rest of my financial aid to pay the mortagage this month. My father was upset about it, and got really confused. I've been taking care of him, but this month, it is getting worse.
What did this woman do? She wrote me up, putting all my personal issues down on paper, calling me into the director's office to say that I cried in front of her, and that she was afraid I would do this in front of other students. (Note: I am very professional in front of my peers and I have an A in clinical.)
This woman put down on paper what I had told her in confidence.
I wish I wish I wish I could do something for confidence betrayed. I'm embarrased and broken that a nursing instructor could do this to a student.
In our college tutors are there in confidence to talk, unless something major happens they don't approach us we go to them. They have to ensure that you're well enough to take care of other people, see if theres anything they can do to help and then to refer you to a councillor if necessary. Unless there was a breech of confidence with your personal problems i dont see what has gone wrong with your situation. Maybe you could give us more information and we could help you out a bit better? I dont want to start jumping to conclusions it. Im sorry to hear about your circumstances too i hope they improve for you, nursing school is not easy as it is let alone other issues on top of it all.
I have changed my name, but because I am a student nurse midwife in an EL-MSN program, I thought it represntative of the goals that me, my program, and my instructors hold for me.
This is a good example of the effects that uninformed, uneducated (in this case, about my position in a graduage program), and the effects it has on those coming up in the profession.
It's disheartening when such behavior is made to change students' lives.
Feel happier about your ability to embarrass someone, even on Allnurses?
Not trying to pour salt on an open wound, but in the TOS we are not supposed to use titles until we have earned that title. The poster didn't do anything wrong by pointing that out to you.
Hey all, she was asking for advice and it sounds like some support as well. We might not know the whole story, but it sounds like she's going through a pretty rough time. Maybe we can lighten up regarding her title. I'm a student too, but also an lpn. I didn't list that because I see myself as a student who is learning every day of my life.
To the subject, I don't believe you can sue your instructor even if you thought she would hold your conversation in confidence. Respond on your write up sheet that you disagree and why. Listen to other posters regarding keeping your personal life just that. Take this to your job as well.
If your instructor believes you are too stressed to be safe, maybe you can address this with her and the head. Have a plan to succeed (and I guess, don't cry in front of anyone at school, bizarre thing for her to write). Make sure you stick to the present. You haven't broke down in front of classmates, so she should not have written you up for something you haven't done; so make sure that is known.
Also, I'm so sorry that life is difficult for you right now. I wish I could reach through and give you a great big hug. :icon_hug:
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Valerie Salva, BSN, RN
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Here's a quote from her post: "I'm a fourth semester nursing student."
Her name has the word midwife, as well. Like many nurses, I am uneasy when people who are not yet nurses (or nurse midwives) call theselves such.
annie23,
I was educated/informed by your profile that you are a student.
I think that that your decision to change your name to something that is not misleading is very admirable.
It shows you are honest and have integrity- traits that will serve you and your pts well as you pursue your goals in nursing.
Good luck to you.