Hey guys I thought I would come here and get some support from people of great minds.
I am going through a hard situation were I am still engrossed in memories of my my ex who broke up with me a month and half ago to be precise because he wants to venture before he gets married he said. His last words were (you are such a great women and may be if you finish nursing school we can try again, this is a separation lot a breakup) With a lot of pain I am carrying on - going to the gym, picked up a few new hobbies. He was a great man in my eyes and the saddest thing he is still is even though I know he was selfish to do what he did - he was my support system and my backbone. This being my first heart break, it feels like no other pain I have ever felt.
I performed really poorly on the Teas exam because I was wallowing in unpleasant emotions. But by the grace of the one above, my GPA helped me through and I got accepted. I start nursing school in January - sometimes I wish he was here to celebrate with me. But I know in life everything happens for a reason. I am a very optimistic person but it is hard to carry on and move on, what advise would you all give me. And please share some of you experiences - it might be of great benefit to me.
I was strung along by first love for years..he left me for a woman he then married/divorced, came back to me...moved and left..came after me.
the third time, he said all the right things, did all the right things, and still, pulled a 180 and decided i was not the one. he was mistaken with his feelings. After making plans for me to move to England to be with him, get married, etc.
that was the last time, and it was tough. i was depressed for awhile, would burst out crying in public.
but life went.on, and the more. i lived the more i forgot about HIM, and focused on ME. Severing all contact and physical reminders of him worked wonders.
sometimes the relationships that hurt the most.in the end, you learn the most about what you want and need from life and yourself.
for.what its worth, never let another individual become your all. find your own happiness, and the right one will come along.
it happened to me and im in a relationship that i always wanted because of it.
Wow, that is very sad (sorry this happened to you) and inspiring at the same time ( the lessons learned and the amazing relationship you are in now). Thank you very much for sharing.
I feel for you. Breakups can feel like a time of mourning. The best words I can say are that this will pass. It's hard to believe in the worst moments, but with time you will feel like your healthy self again. More great people will come along in your life who will celebrate your accomplishments— friends, family, and future romantic partners.
I feel for you. Breakups can feel like a time of mourning. The best words I can say are that this will pass. It's hard to believe in the worst moments, but with time you will feel like your healthy self again. More great people will come along in your life who will celebrate your accomplishments— friends, family, and future romantic partners.
Best wishes for your aching heart! :)
Thank you for you kindness of words, last night just when I had a fair day, I experienced this hard emptiness that I kept me up for sometime. I woke up this morning and I longed for him; while telling myself in the back of my head - be patient with time.
I went through a break up in nursing school too! Mine happened back in February so it's been close to a year now. But honestly being single during nursing school makes it so much easier to focus on school, meet new people and make professional connections. I don't know your exact situation but being single also frees you from having to find a job right at home once you graduate. You're free as a bird now. Also, no offense but if your boy couldn't handle you going to nursing school I don't think it would have worked out anyway. But of course, people change and mature and who knows, maybe you guys will get back together afterwards! Be patient and open yourself up to new opportunities. You have a fresh, clean slate with nursing school. Also word to the wise: BE NICE TO YOURSELF IN NURSING SCHOOL. Don't blame yourself for this. You deserve to be happy and to treat yourself right. The professors and instructors in nursing school can bark orders at you like you're in the military and on top of tough exams, papers, and a slower (not nonexistent) social life, the last thing you should do is beat yourself up. One day at a time -- that's all you gotta do
Just keep moving forward, as you are. You'll be stronger for it. I'm hoping to start a program soon, but my mother died unexpectedly (and young) last week. I have no idea how I'm going to keep moving, but sometimes it's the only thing you can do.
I went through a break up in nursing school too! Mine happened back in February so it's been close to a year now. But honestly being single during nursing school makes it so much easier to focus on school, meet new people and make professional connections. I don't know your exact situation but being single also frees you from having to find a job right at home once you graduate. You're free as a bird now. Also, no offense but if your boy couldn't handle you going to nursing school I don't think it would have worked out anyway. But of course, people change and mature and who knows, maybe you guys will get back together afterwards! Be patient and open yourself up to new opportunities. You have a fresh, clean slate with nursing school. Also word to the wise: BE NICE TO YOURSELF IN NURSING SCHOOL. Don't blame yourself for this. You deserve to be happy and to treat yourself right. The professors and instructors in nursing school can bark orders at you like you're in the military and on top of tough exams, papers, and a slower (not nonexistent) social life, the last thing you should do is beat yourself up. One day at a time -- that's all you gotta do
Just keep moving forward, as you are. You'll be stronger for it. I'm hoping to start a program soon, but my mother died unexpectedly (and young) last week. I have no idea how I'm going to keep moving, but sometimes it's the only thing you can do.
Reading this brought some tears to my eyes, first let me pass my condolences...
You are right sometimes we have only one option, which is moving on.
I am so sorry that this happened during a time that is already difficult! I know this is easier said then done, but you have GOT to push it out of you mind and just throw yourself into your studies - focus your energy on school right now! This is a blessing in disguise; nursing school gives you enough to focus on. It sounds like you are religious from your original post - stay connect in that way and do your studies right now. After you get through nursing you can focus on a relationship ... saw this picture and I hope it cheers you up "Dating during nursing school? ... Ain't nobody got time for that!" :)
I am so sorry that this happened during a time that is already difficult! I know this is easier said then done, but you have GOT to push it out of you mind and just throw yourself into your studies - focus your energy on school right now! This is a blessing in disguise; nursing school gives you enough to focus on. It sounds like you are religious from your original post - stay connect in that way and do your studies right now. After you get through nursing you can focus on a relationship ... saw this picture and I hope it cheers you up "Dating during nursing school? ... Ain't nobody got time for that!" :)
Keep your head up and eye on the prize!
That was beautiful; I woke up with a heavy heart today - it's funny how life works, one day I am in great spirit and somedays with a heavy heart.
Your msg got me to smile and also a tear. [emoji18]
That's a terrible thing for him to say. If my best friend said that, oh I'll be your friend again when you finish nursing school, thats not a good friend. So when times are rough , he's gonna ditch? What about the future? Kids and all?
I would like to share my story too. I was in my first semester nursing school. Towards the end, my ex(know him for 6years) broke up with me due to jealousy and misunderstanding. I withdrew from classes, reentered the following year and sunk into depression for two years. I kept thinking I needed him. No. It was the feeling for comfort and security. I slowly realized he was condescending and controlling. That was not a healthy relationship. Fast forward . Now I'm in an amazing relationship with a best friend - 2 years! As and B+s for nursing. 1 year to go!!!! Everything happens for a reason. I discovered my faith in God, amazing friends, and the confidence in myself.
I suggest counseling, surround yourself with positive people, have fun in life !!! Stay optimistic!!!
That's a terrible thing for him to say. If my best friend said that, oh I'll be your friend again when you finish nursing school, thats not a good friend. So when times are rough , he's gonna ditch? What about the future? Kids and all?
I would like to share my story too. I was in my first semester nursing school. Towards the end, my ex(know him for 6years) broke up with me due to jealousy and misunderstanding. I withdrew from classes, reentered the following year and sunk into depression for two years. I kept thinking I needed him. No. It was the feeling for comfort and security. I slowly realized he was condescending and controlling. That was not a healthy relationship. Fast forward . Now I'm in an amazing relationship with a best friend - 2 years! As and B+s for nursing. 1 year to go!!!! Everything happens for a reason. I discovered my faith in God, amazing friends, and the confidence in myself.
I suggest counseling, surround yourself with positive people, have fun in life !!! Stay optimistic!!!
Thank you, thank you. Yes I was his first and when I think through; he got the grass is greener syndrome- I am just coming to terms with it so I can learn to forgive him fully.
He was a person who lacked understanding and very jealous and I still accepted him the way he was.
But I am so glad to hear about your experience - you should be a stronger woman from what you went through.
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I was strung along by first love for years..he left me for a woman he then married/divorced, came back to me...moved and left..came after me.
the third time, he said all the right things, did all the right things, and still, pulled a 180 and decided i was not the one. he was mistaken with his feelings. After making plans for me to move to England to be with him, get married, etc.
that was the last time, and it was tough. i was depressed for awhile, would burst out crying in public.
but life went.on, and the more. i lived the more i forgot about HIM, and focused on ME. Severing all contact and physical reminders of him worked wonders.
sometimes the relationships that hurt the most.in the end, you learn the most about what you want and need from life and yourself.
for.what its worth, never let another individual become your all. find your own happiness, and the right one will come along.
it happened to me and im in a relationship that i always wanted because of it.