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I was in a feedback loop where my AL BON said it takes a while (6 weeks already passed!! ) and Preason said they sent the confirmation and I just needed to wait longer. My hubby called them and we told Pearson to resend the confirmation and they did and THAT day I got the ATT. Pearson rep wast doing anything and we had to directly and firmly ask send that confirmation to my email again cause they don't send it to the BON. Go through every step and get them to email confirmation for everything

Your post on your wife really upsets me because I can say from my Asian culture and from my non American's friends point of view, that is JUST lazy and selfish on her part. You are being manipulated. In a healthy relationship and marriage, both people have to contribute. Sometimes we have to make sacrifices and prioritize things. You are making a future by completing your degree and babies are expensive - they say it cost 1mil? What if she has twins or more? You'll be very stressed. Sorry to sound harsh but go to marriage counseling and if she doesn't adapt, I'd leave her cause your spouse is someone you're going to spend the next 10,000 meals with, and talking and going on vacation and she is someone who will influence your future kids. You need to man up and be more selfish and concentrate on yourself because you sound way too nice and you'll get taken advantage of.

No one is too old to accomplish what they want in life. I see an 80 year old becoming a writer and stating it was the most powerful book he has written, a 90 year old playing soccer, another 80 year old race car driving cause that's what they want to do in life. Who is to tell YOU what to do or who to become?

Take a leap of faith. Do what you want in life because it sounds like you might live with regrets if you do not. Learn assertiveness. Never let anyone control your thoughts because they will become actions, then your identity eventually. ~ Personal story. 18, parents insisted I go to college because they say college will get you a job, etc, etc. I was not ready. I did great one semester, I did poorly the next. Used parent's money, felt guilty and obligated. Then I was like...I don't want to be controlled and feel like I should just do what they want because they have the excuse they are paying for it. I left the house at 19, did RA for free housing and got scholarships/grants/loans and worked 2-3jobs to pay for my own tuition. There is SO much more in life than money and job security. (Haha! Your parents really sounds like mine when I was your age.) There's family, there's friends, there's living life! You can have the former but none of the latter. I have successful and happy friends who were high school and college dropouts. They took vocational courses. I've learned with hard work and determination and the right support group, you can do anything especially when you put your mind to it. Remember, your parents do care about you and want the best but IT IS YOUR LIFE. Do your research, sit in a fee of the upper level classes of the majors you're interested in, take tours to companies, talk to those who have been in the fields for decades. If money is what concerns your parents the most, find salary statistics and back it up if it will please them. Then work hard to prove to them that you're right.

Nursing courses will be hard if you do not believe in yourself, just like in anything else you want to accomplish in life. For my experiences, I've learned you have to surround yourself with positive hard-working people especially study mates. I was so appreciative of my two buddies who were always prepared to review micro and ap 1 and 2. Each of us contributed our strength; one recorded the lectures, one brought in textbook and online questions to do, one would always bring food, etc, etc. Got As and B+s thanks to them. Don't let negativity fill your head. I dislike the how faculty and professors and seniors would say how hard it is. Its like self hyptonizing when you're preparing for failure. Why not say it's managable, you can do it? Provide our transfers and peers with encouragement and teamwork. The courses can be challenging if you have test anxiety and bad time managment. Either cut back hours if your working or quit the job and apply for LOTS of scholarships. If you have a family and it's tough, the path may not be for you at the moment because family especially the little ones require a lot of time and love. For anxiety, using your resources at school such as the learning center for extra time and use counseling . I suggest medication if anxiety is very severe. This may be only for academic stress. Anxiety is a serious matter because I see it often and when times are stressful, people get burnt out and depress and they realize they never coped with these issues during their development stages. Additional advice for nursing courses: record the lectures, the professors already have questions made for the exams while they're lecturing. Focus on the powerpoints because the prof compact it from the readings and they're the key points. Use textbook to elaborate what you don't know and need to study. Read the bold words, black box warnings. Practice nclex questions daily and those relevant to what you're learning in class. Commincate with your professors. Review each of your exams even if it's a 100. Understand why you got the questions wrong. Think positive!!!! When there's a will, there's a way. You can do anything if you put your mind to it.

Congrats!!! I admire you hard work and perserverence!!!! :))

Just want to comment to say how I love your optimism, careful calculations, and politeness in replying to everyone. :) You'll be a super cool nurse!

You have an amazing story and look how you have inspired others! I want to thank you for sharing and everyone else for sharing their powerful stories. Living with your parents is a smart choice. If they are close by and they're supportive and you're also helping them out, it's win-win. In my country, the children live with their parents even after they graduate with their masters esp. if they're single. Also, to live with mental illness is very difficult and stress can exacerbate it. I went through nursing school with major depression and panic attacks every now and then. Haha! I tell ya, once you have graduated and look back, it's amazing and the things that are not funny now (like my panic attacks), I can laugh at it because I worked hard to overcome it and I build up my confidence to be awesome. :) I've learned you have to be silly sometimes, count your blessings, and LOVE YOURSELF. Please take care of yourself. Do what you love, join a club, surround yourself with positive people. I do not recommend talking to your ex because it seems to put on more stress. This is the time to focus on yourself. From experience, do not jump into another relationship because if you have not gotten over the ex, feelings will mix from the past relationship with the new relationship. Lastly, please go to counseling and don't be afraid to change counselor if you do not feel connected. STAY POSITIVE! By changing your thoughts to positive ones, your perspective will change and so will your behaviors and actions. Remember, you're not alone! You got us here, we are all your friends, cheering you on. You can do this!!!

That's a terrible thing for him to say. If my best friend said that, oh I'll be your friend again when you finish nursing school, thats not a good friend. So when times are rough , he's gonna ditch? What about the future? Kids and all? I would like to share my story too. I was in my first semester nursing school. Towards the end, my ex(know him for 6years) broke up with me due to jealousy and misunderstanding. I withdrew from classes, reentered the following year and sunk into depression for two years. I kept thinking I needed him. No. It was the feeling for comfort and security. I slowly realized he was condescending and controlling. That was not a healthy relationship. Fast forward . Now I'm in an amazing relationship with a best friend - 2 years! As and B+s for nursing. 1 year to go!!!! Everything happens for a reason. I discovered my faith in God, amazing friends, and the confidence in myself. I suggest counseling, surround yourself with positive people, have fun in life !!! Stay optimistic!!!

Noooooo you're never too old!!! It's perspective. OH GOSH, have you seen 80-90 year old race car driving and being body builders. I am looking forward to growing older and being more wiser and having fun in life! I have a lady who is 37 in my junior class. We all thought she was in her 20s because her personality is so vibrant and she is always smiling and laughing. YOU GO OUT THERE! You be an inspiration to those youngsters and show that you can achieve anything no matter the age. You got our support! Good luck!!!!

Dear futurenurse0989, First, I am very proud of you for coming this far. You took science classes and the fundamentals and more. You have learned so much!!! Nursing is a demanding major and it requires time, hard work, but most importantly confidence and faith. You have to believe in yourself. I always tell my friends that if you go into an exam with confidence, you got 50% of it already. :) I'll let you in on my story and I hope to inspire you. I love helping people and I wanted to go into the health field. I have anxiety and exam phobia. When I was taking my science courses, I made one bad exam grade, say the first one, I would withdraw from the class, with such negative thoughts pounding in my head: failure. I would withdraw from school that semester. I was depressed yet no one knew because I appeared very successful in terms of running clubs, RA, student government, etc, etc. I got into my nursing program, an associate program. Failed two semesters and had to leave, which was the policy. I realized I worked 2 jobs and it was not smart. I lacked sleep and nutrient. I had an ex that was just as condescending towards me as my parents which did not help. I studied, reading every chapters, taking notes, going through the ppt and review sessions. I still got 50s! During those two years in my nursing program, I was going through major depression. I couldn't figure it out. I went through counseling and it began to help me realize that I had low confidence and anxiety that it interfered with my test taking. I literally blanked during my exams (when I go to review sessions, I don't even remember answering) and the fun part, I hyperventilate and get dizzy! haha! It is funny looking back. So I left that school because the environment was also destructive - my peers were not positive and their priority goal when they graduate was to make money, not help people. You know what, even my own adviser at the time told me I would not be accept to other nursing schools because I failed two semesters already. I prayed. I was debating whether I should do LPN and transfer into RN BSN. YOU KNOW WHAT? I can do this I told myself repeatedly. I applied to one school. I got in after several interviews with the admission counselor and Director of Nursing from my current school. I gave them my word that I am going to work hard, not only studying but on my own mental health. I went to counseling and the learning center for extended time so that I can relax and think more clearly. Now I am in my junior year and my last report card shows As and B+s for nursing courses! Another friend who dropped out of the same program went for her LPN and she graduate this past summer and now she is working, while doing her BSN RN. In regards to your mom paying for your tuition, that's a parent's role, that's what parents do. They brought you into this world. They know you're going to get an education and it costs money. Wouldn't you do the same for your kid? If you cannot handle that pressure of your parents paying for your tuition, get a part time job, some easy and light. I do not recommend full time or more than you can handle because it is not worth the time and additional stress. If you cannot handle a small part time job, please do not take it because YOUR JOB in school is being a student!! A parent's love is unconditional. They are there to help you, they are your resources, PLEASE USE THEIR MONEY for your education. When you graduate, you can treat them out to dinners and spoil them and show you were a great investment. :) I've learned, you gotta YOU GOTTA BELIEVE IN YOURSELF. And I am very sure you have people believing you. I BELIEVE IN YOU!!!!! You have to also self-reflect. Is it time management? Is it anxiety on text exams, anxiety in general? Talk to your professors and the learning center and even a counselor to figure this **** out before it seeps into your career and your future. It is not easy. But once you have overcome the hardships of life, it is so rewarding. So to conclude, surround yourself with positive people, communicate with others and ask for help (parents, professors, counselors, learning center etc) BELIEVE YOU CAN DO IT!!!!! You're are going to be awesome. NOW SHOUT, I AM AWESOME, I CAN DO THIS!!!!!