Break up in Nursing school

StoneRN515 · Feb 15, 2014

Nursing school is very stressful. And you must have a strong support system. Honey you are in school to better yourself and your future. HE messed up and was weak not you. Understand this WILL pass and yes now it will hurt. But nursing school will definitely help you weed out people that's meant to STAY in your life! Know someone better is in the works for you. May be a successful Doctor, lawyer or fellow Nurse!! Good Luck

allnurses Guide · Feb 15, 2014

I found out that my bf is seeing someone else and he blamed me of not making time for him and moved away for school. I am only 2hr away from him. It is just hard for me. Can't focus right now. Has anyone have been in this situation? Is it gonna last for long? Please give me some advice. I'm not feeling strong at all. I know that might not be the right place to talk about. I pray God so he gives me strength so I can be able to forget about it and move on with my career.

This is typically what cowards will do when they succumb to weakness of character...

They blame you.

They have to justify what they did.

They are selfish and have no consideration for the sacrifice you are making to better your life (and theirs, as well, if you are in such a committed relationship).

They are impatient and they can only think themselves now.

This is not someone you really want in your life.

It may seem hard to believe this right now, but trust me, at some point, you'll be looking back trying to figure out why you were crying over such a selfish, dishonest and short-sighted person.

I went through a divorce from the very beginning of nursing school.

Initially, I struggled, but eventually I found that nursing school was so consuming, it gave me little time to dwell and it was an outlet for a lot of frustrated energy.

Get your cry out for a set period of time, then pull yourself up by your bootstraps and get to studying.

You are very hurt and sad... that's okay, but you can't afford a pity party right now.

When you are alone and start to falter, let yourself have a little burst of angry energy, slam a book or toss a pencil and tell yourself, "Don't let that ******* mess up your plans! Focus!"

Believe it or not, it worked for me and I felt like I was able to move forward... but save this trick for the privacy of your own home

Make sure you speak to a counselor and get your focus back on track... trust me here.

I was married for 12 years, had children (this is what tore me up!), was forced to move several times and had to learn the hard way to get a grip and get my head in the game.

I almost didn't make it.

You are not alone and don't let anyone's actions undermine your success.

Good luck,

Hygiene

Miss Dia · Feb 15, 2014

This is typically what cowards will do when they succumb to weakness of character... They blame you. They have to justify what they did. They are selfish and have no consideration for the sacrifice you are making to better your life (and theirs as well, if you are in such a committed relationship). They are impatient and they can only think themselves now. This is not someone you really want in your life. It may seem hard to believe this right now, but trust me, at some point, you'll be looking back trying to figure out why you were crying over such a selfish, dishonest and short-sighted person. I went through a divorce from the very beginning of nursing school. Initially, I struggled, but eventually I found that nursing school was so consuming, it gave me little time to dwell and it was an outlet for a lot of frustrated energy. Get your cry out for a set period of time, then pull yourself up by your bootstraps and get to studying. You are very hurt and sad... that's okay, but you can't afford a pity party right now. When you are alone and start to falter, let yourself have a little burst of angry energy, slam a book or toss a pencil and tell yourself, "Don't let that ******* mess up your plans! Focus!" Believe it or not, it worked for me and I felt like I was able to move forward... but save this trick for the privacy of your own home Make sure you speak to a counselor and get your focus back on track... trust me here. I was married for 12 years, had children (this is what tore me up!), was forced to move several times and had to learn the hard way to get a grip and get my head in the game. I almost didn't make it. You are not alone and don't let anyone's actions undermine your success. Good luck, Hygiene[/quote']
Thank you so much guys for those words. Hygiene, thanks and thanks again. It was hard for me to even get out of bed, but I told myself that I have to move on. I'm in the library right now trying to study. I have to get back on track.

LadyFree28, BSN, LPN, RN · Feb 15, 2014

To add to the posters who have given great advice; either this person would've made it difficult during nursing school when the learning curve is greater or after when you need that support during your transition.

Take it as a relief that you don't have to deal with his foolishness anymore, less of a person to deal with while you focus on evolving YOU.

(((HUGS)))

movingforwardRN · Feb 16, 2014

I hope this finds you well in your situation.

I graduated Nursing School 3 years ago. 4 hard, difficult years at school, and had a long distance relationship. 4 hours away. While I didn't come to learn he was seeing other people during that time, my last ( senior) year, he broke up with me, for undefiable reasons( he knew his guilt was eating him up). I wasn't the happiest ofcourse, but I'd be damned to have my school work affected because of a boy.

Although I dedicated 6 years of my late teens to early 20's with him, I knew that I have a whole life ahead of me and my focus is always on DOING WELL so that if you run into such people, they'll think twice.

My advice: School is timed, so you need to focus now, and when you are done if you want to even cry and be depressed about it, you deserve to be able to grieve, but see it as a blessing, and focus on graduating. You'll start working, making good money to start, and you'll be well off.

Nothing is more better than to continue to be doing better, despite what others do to you.

kungpoopanda · Feb 17, 2014

I'm sorry you are going through this. Not much to add to the above, just take care of yourself. Eat well, get enough sleep and exercise. Throw yourself into your studies but make time for friends, fun and quiet reflection.

Oh and always remember "Success is the best revenge."